What do you do when someone uninvited crashes your playtime?

m & j · 07-21-2002, 04:04 PM

someone uninvited crashes your playtime?

we were at a club and we were enjoying each other. we were the only ones in the jacuzzi room. a cell phone rang, and this guy came into the room to take his call in the relative quiet. (which was ok w/us)when the call was over, he walked over to the massage table i was laying on (face-down, hubby was busy between my legs!) and put his hand on mine.
i shooed his hand away.

and he walked away.
a little later on, we hooked up with a couple on the same massage table. the ladies on the table; one man at each end. next thing i know there is a clothed male crotch grinding into my foot. i thought it was the male of the other couple.
it wasn't. it was the same guy from before.

my husband got a little torqued at him. told him to scam. "..you weren't invited"...guy actually said, "oh it's okay." hubby says, "no it's not."
and he finally left.
we're fairly open but want to have the right to choose who we play with. we don't prefer to participate in any kind of free-for-all.
what do ya'll think?

Brian and Jo · 07-21-2002, 04:42 PM

In our minds there are several rules of swinging that must be followed without question. One of the most important is that "No" means no. In our lengthy time as swingers we had a few experiences where one party was interested in going to the bedroom but the other was not - sometimes we were the uninterested party, other times it was the other couple. In every case the answer was accepted with respect and we or they moved on to someone else. In your case the guy was clearly out of order.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-21-2002, 05:02 PM

I think the guy was WAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYY outta line. First off to have even attempted to come back after he's been shooed away once. Second to give that sort of response to your husband. HELLO!!???

I wouldn't have let it interrupt our playtime but if I were in your shoes as soon as we were done I would have been rattling the hosts cage and asking them to make sure the guy was removed from the club.

walrus0115 · 07-21-2002, 05:43 PM

Unfortunately that happens somtimes. We ran into quite a bit of uninvited guests at Hedo. They're mostly harmless and usually can be dealt with by using the proper English.

There are even terms for them at the resort. A "Vinnie" is a younger "god's gift to women" type that can be quite annoying but harmless. (i.e. I get the next blowjob!) A "Wally" is usually an older man the simply sits, stares, and usually has his hand on his very limp penis. You will encounter both of these species wherever naked, aroused women are found. They are usually non-venomous and have poor hearing. Both species reproduce by cellular division as no other organism would consciously mate with them. Reproduction usually occurs within large groups concentrated around an alcohol base.

To see examples of the "Vinnie" species go to:
<a href="http://www.mulletsgalore.com" target="_blank">http://www.mulletsgalore.com</a>
To see examples of the "Wally" species go to:
<a href="http://www.jerrybaker.com" target="_blank">http://www.jerrybaker.com</a>

What happened to you is sad and uncomfortable. I simply try to put it in a humorous light. When we encounter one of these folks, I am ruthless.

If they think that it's okay to be pushy, overbearing and a total jerk, well, I give 'em a taste of their own medicine. I make fun of their clothes, shoes, family and anything else I can find. It usually works too, nobody wants to get in a fight with an angry, naked husband sporting a big ol' boner.

I hope that your future encounters with these species is very limited.

CyberMWC · 07-22-2002, 12:02 PM

m & j,

You had EVERY right to shoo the UNinvited critter away! OMG, if it were us, Hubby would've killed 'em!

I'm affraid to even THINK about running into the same situation that you've been in....YIKES! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" />

CyberWife

haswa · 07-22-2002, 02:46 PM

We only frequent clubs that enforce a strict "No means no" policy. You two might consider doing the same.

m & j · 07-24-2002, 06:07 PM

thanks everyone for confirming our sanity.

walrus - you are too freakin funny !!!!
we haven't been back since. pretty much interested in exploring other clubs.
happy orgasms to everyone!

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-24-2002, 10:05 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by haswa:
We only frequent clubs that enforce a strict "No means no" policy. You two might consider doing the same.<hr /></blockquote>Most clubs do enforce a "no means no" policy. But that still requires that those who are subject to a jerk report said jerk to have him removed.

CyberMWC · 07-26-2002, 04:47 PM

As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" *Evil Grin*

CyberHusband

OhioCouple · 07-29-2002, 09:26 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by CyberMWC:
As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" *Evil Grin*

CyberHusband<hr /></blockquote>If anyone male or female "EVER" touched my wife in an inappropriate manner or did anything without her consent "CLOBBERIN TIME" would have been a stroll in the park for them compared to what I would have done. And I am a pretty laid back man myself.

Gene

Quin · 08-06-2002, 11:42 AM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by OhioCouple:
 <blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by CyberMWC:
As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" *Evil Grin*

CyberHusband<hr /></blockquote>If anyone male or female "EVER" touched my wife in an inappropriate manner or did anything without her consent "CLOBBERIN TIME" would have been a stroll in the park for them compared to what I would have done. And I am a pretty laid back man myself.

Gene<hr /></blockquote>YIKES!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> <makes a mental note to never ever come within a few hundred yards of Lori and Gene>

VOTE FOR JULIE! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN! AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

Quin
<img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />

OhioCouple · 08-06-2002, 12:26 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Quin:
 <blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by OhioCouple:
 <blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by CyberMWC:
As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" *Evil Grin*

CyberHusband<hr /></blockquote>If anyone male or female "EVER" touched my wife in an inappropriate manner or did anything without her consent "CLOBBERIN TIME" would have been a stroll in the park for them compared to what I would have done. And I am a pretty laid back man myself.

Gene<hr /></blockquote>YIKES!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> <makes a mental note to never ever come within a few hundred yards of Lori and Gene>

VOTE FOR JULIE! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN! AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

Quin
<img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> <hr /></blockquote>LOL@Quin....Lori here, Speaking on behalf of Gene and what he meant by this comment.

The operative word here was "CONSENT", there is a very BIG Difference between consenting adults and those that ASSUME they can do anything that they want with you and have no problems with approaching you in that manner. This comment came out of our first club experience where this guy was just WAY out of line.

Lori~ DELETE COOKIES AND VOTE FOR JULIE AGAIN <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

Quin · 08-06-2002, 12:40 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by ciscosv:
My advice: Kick him in the nut-sack! Then ask him if that was appreciated.

No worries Quin<hr /></blockquote>heh...there's nothing as endearing as burying and grinding a 6 inch stiletto heel inbetween some dude's thighs! But if you don't kiss the tip of his nose right afterwards and walk away, it loses that endearing quality and makes the effort practically moot. (wonders how many guys are experiencing the pseudopain as they read this <img border="0" alt="[ROFL]" title="" src="graemlins/rofl.gif" /> )

Can ya tell I'm not feeling well? I'll try to be better tomorrow.

VOTE FOR JULIE!! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

Quin
<img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />

Quin · 08-06-2002, 12:45 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr /> LOL@Quin....Lori here, Speaking on behalf of Gene and what he meant by this comment.

The operative word here was "CONSENT", there is a very BIG Difference between consenting adults and those that ASSUME they can do anything that they want with you and have no problems with approaching you in that manner. This comment came out of our first club experience where this guy was just WAY out of line.

Lori~ <hr /></blockquote>You've never seen me flirt, Lori. I'll keep my distance, thank you very much.

VOTE FOR JULIE! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

Quin
<img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />
[ 08-06-2002, 12:46 PM: Message edited by: Quin ]

[ 08-06-2002, 12:47 PM: Message edited by: Quin ]

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07-21-2002, 04:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
m & j Active Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 14 Location: florida	What do you do when someone uninvited crashes your playtime? someone uninvited crashes your playtime? we were at a club and we were enjoying each other. we were the only ones in the jacuzzi room. a cell phone rang, and this guy came into the room to take his call in the relative quiet. (which was ok w/us)when the call was over, he walked over to the massage table i was laying on (face-down, hubby was busy between my legs!) and put his hand on mine. i shooed his hand away. and he walked away. a little later on, we hooked up with a couple on the same massage table. the ladies on the table; one man at each end. next thing i know there is a clothed male crotch grinding into my foot. i thought it was the male of the other couple. it wasn't. it was the same guy from before. my husband got a little torqued at him. told him to scam. "..you weren't invited"...guy actually said, "oh it's okay." hubby says, "no it's not." and he finally left. we're fairly open but want to have the right to choose who we play with. we don't prefer to participate in any kind of free-for-all. what do ya'll think? __________________ he is m, she is j

07-21-2002, 05:02 PM	#3 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,082 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 58	I think the guy was WAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYY outta line. First off to have even attempted to come back after he's been shooed away once. Second to give that sort of response to your husband. HELLO!!??? I wouldn't have let it interrupt our playtime but if I were in your shoes as soon as we were done I would have been rattling the hosts cage and asking them to make sure the guy was removed from the club. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

07-21-2002, 05:43 PM	#4 (permalink)
walrus0115 Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 132 Location: Athens, OH Status: Couple	Unfortunately that happens somtimes. We ran into quite a bit of uninvited guests at Hedo. They're mostly harmless and usually can be dealt with by using the proper English. There are even terms for them at the resort. A "Vinnie" is a younger "god's gift to women" type that can be quite annoying but harmless. (i.e. I get the next blowjob!) A "Wally" is usually an older man the simply sits, stares, and usually has his hand on his very limp penis. You will encounter both of these species wherever naked, aroused women are found. They are usually non-venomous and have poor hearing. Both species reproduce by cellular division as no other organism would consciously mate with them. Reproduction usually occurs within large groups concentrated around an alcohol base. To see examples of the "Vinnie" species go to: <a href="http://www.mulletsgalore.com" target="_blank">http://www.mulletsgalore.com</a> To see examples of the "Wally" species go to: <a href="http://www.jerrybaker.com" target="_blank">http://www.jerrybaker.com</a> What happened to you is sad and uncomfortable. I simply try to put it in a humorous light. When we encounter one of these folks, I am ruthless. If they think that it's okay to be pushy, overbearing and a total jerk, well, I give 'em a taste of their own medicine. I make fun of their clothes, shoes, family and anything else I can find. It usually works too, nobody wants to get in a fight with an angry, naked husband sporting a big ol' boner. I hope that your future encounters with these species is very limited. __________________ Irie Mon

07-24-2002, 06:07 PM	#7 (permalink)
m & j Active Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 14 Location: florida	thanks everyone for confirming our sanity. walrus - you are too freakin funny !!!! we haven't been back since. pretty much interested in exploring other clubs. happy orgasms to everyone! __________________ he is m, she is j

07-21-2002, 04:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
Brian and Jo Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 234 Location: Ontario Blog Entries: 3	In our minds there are several rules of swinging that must be followed without question. One of the most important is that "No" means no. In our lengthy time as swingers we had a few experiences where one party was interested in going to the bedroom but the other was not - sometimes we were the uninterested party, other times it was the other couple. In every case the answer was accepted with respect and we or they moved on to someone else. In your case the guy was clearly out of order.

07-22-2002, 12:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
CyberMWC Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2000 Posts: 70 Location: MI,USA	m & j, You had EVERY right to shoo the UNinvited critter away! OMG, if it were us, Hubby would've killed 'em! I'm affraid to even THINK about running into the same situation that you've been in....YIKES! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> CyberWife

07-22-2002, 02:46 PM	#6 (permalink)
haswa Registered Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 8 Location: D.C., NYC, & San Diego Status: couple	We only frequent clubs that enforce a strict "No means no" policy. You two might consider doing the same.

07-24-2002, 10:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,082 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 58	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by haswa: <strong>We only frequent clubs that enforce a strict "No means no" policy. You two might consider doing the same.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Most clubs do enforce a "no means no" policy. But that still requires that those who are subject to a jerk report said jerk to have him removed. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

07-26-2002, 04:47 PM	#9 (permalink)
CyberMWC Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2000 Posts: 70 Location: MI,USA	As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" Evil Grin CyberHusband

07-29-2002, 09:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by CyberMWC: <strong>As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" Evil Grin CyberHusband</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">If anyone male or female "EVER" touched my wife in an inappropriate manner or did anything without her consent "CLOBBERIN TIME" would have been a stroll in the park for them compared to what I would have done. And I am a pretty laid back man myself. Gene __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

08-06-2002, 11:42 AM	#11 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by OhioCouple: <strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by CyberMWC: <strong>As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" Evil Grin CyberHusband</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">If anyone male or female "EVER" touched my wife in an inappropriate manner or did anything without her consent "CLOBBERIN TIME" would have been a stroll in the park for them compared to what I would have done. And I am a pretty laid back man myself. Gene</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">YIKES!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> <makes a mental note to never ever come within a few hundred yards of Lori and Gene> VOTE FOR JULIE! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN! AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />

08-06-2002, 12:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by Quin: <strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by OhioCouple: <strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by CyberMWC: <strong>As CyberWife said, someone would have needed an ambulance. I'm a very easy going guy. You almost have to be to be a swinger, but something like that... Like the Thing says..."ITS CLOBBERIN TIME!" Evil Grin CyberHusband</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">If anyone male or female "EVER" touched my wife in an inappropriate manner or did anything without her consent "CLOBBERIN TIME" would have been a stroll in the park for them compared to what I would have done. And I am a pretty laid back man myself. Gene</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">YIKES!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> <makes a mental note to never ever come within a few hundred yards of Lori and Gene> VOTE FOR JULIE! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN! AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">LOL@Quin....Lori here, Speaking on behalf of Gene and what he meant by this comment. The operative word here was "CONSENT", there is a very BIG Difference between consenting adults and those that ASSUME they can do anything that they want with you and have no problems with approaching you in that manner. This comment came out of our first club experience where this guy was just WAY out of line. Lori~ DELETE COOKIES AND VOTE FOR JULIE AGAIN <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

08-06-2002, 12:40 PM	#13 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by ciscosv: <strong>My advice: Kick him in the nut-sack! Then ask him if that was appreciated. No worries Quin</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">heh...there's nothing as endearing as burying and grinding a 6 inch stiletto heel inbetween some dude's thighs! But if you don't kiss the tip of his nose right afterwards and walk away, it loses that endearing quality and makes the effort practically moot. (wonders how many guys are experiencing the pseudopain as they read this <img border="0" alt="[ROFL]" title="" src="graemlins/rofl.gif" /> ) Can ya tell I'm not feeling well? I'll try to be better tomorrow. VOTE FOR JULIE!! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> __________________ One thing about me is that I'm consistant in my behavior, my thoughts, and my posting. I don't sell out or change for any reason outside of my own self wanting to. What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that.

08-06-2002, 12:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif"> LOL@Quin....Lori here, Speaking on behalf of Gene and what he meant by this comment. The operative word here was "CONSENT", there is a very BIG Difference between consenting adults and those that ASSUME they can do anything that they want with you and have no problems with approaching you in that manner. This comment came out of our first club experience where this guy was just WAY out of line. Lori~ </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">You've never seen me flirt, Lori. I'll keep my distance, thank you very much. VOTE FOR JULIE! DELETE THE COOKIE AND VOTE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> <small>[ 08-06-2002, 12:46 PM: Message edited by: Quin ]</small> <small>[ 08-06-2002, 12:47 PM: Message edited by: Quin ]</small> __________________ One thing about me is that I'm consistant in my behavior, my thoughts, and my posting. I don't sell out or change for any reason outside of my own self wanting to. What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that.

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