good friends / bad smell

[Bad Sandy]

Danny and I have made some dear friends in this lifestyle and are now faced with a difficult issue. The female half of a couple that we hang out with on a regular basis has developed a bacterial infection that has persisted for a few months. I have had this infection in the past and we know the distinctive "fishy" smell it produces. Needless to say, my hubby isn't exactly excited to play with her. We are debating saying something to her. On one hand, she MUST notice it. On the otherhand, perhaps she doesn't know that it is easily cured with a prescription from the ob/gyn. Of course we are not wanting to embarrass her, but just can't continue playing with them until it is fixed. We have gotten together with the kids frequently but haven't set up an "adult" time for a month or so. What advice do you have for us??? Thanks!

Sandy

[JustAskJulie]

Maybe you should plan a girls day out or even just a lunch where the two of you can spend some time together and then you can gently mention to her that you've noticed a familiar smell on her and explain that you've had VB before and you're pretty sure that's all it is but that she should probably call her GYN and get a prescription.

[sweet_tna]

Perhaps you could tell her about your experience with this infection? Hopefully, that will be hint enough for her to see about getting treated. If not, then you either have to be more direct or avoid "adult" time until it clears up.

=)

[two42lovers]

The bacteria causing vaginosis "belongs" in the vagina, and is present in all women. The problem is the bacteria is out of balance. BV does, however, increase the chances of passing a sexually transmitted infections. Have a heart-to-heart and share your experiences with her. Tell her there are effective treatments. Two different antibiotics are recommended as treatment for BV: metronidazole or clindamycin. She can likely get her doctor to phone in a prescription for her without an office visit.

[NumbskullsX2]

Originally Posted by Bad Sandy

Danny and I have made some dear friends in this lifestyle and are now faced with a difficult issue. The female half of a couple that we hang out with on a regular basis has developed a bacterial infection that has persisted for a few months. I have had this infection in the past and we know the distinctive "fishy" smell it produces. Needless to say, my hubby isn't exactly excited to play with her. We are debating saying something to her. On one hand, she MUST notice it. On the otherhand, perhaps she doesn't know that it is easily cured with a prescription from the ob/gyn. Of course we are not wanting to embarrass her, but just can't continue playing with them until it is fixed. We have gotten together with the kids frequently but haven't set up an "adult" time for a month or so. What advice do you have for us???

One word;

AIRWICK

Did wonders for us when grandma came to live in the guest room. Keeps the flies down, too.

[des1re06]

I would have a problem with someone who didn't realize something was "off." I would also wonder when she last saw the gyn for tests, if it's this noticeable.

I just couldn't go there again.

Mrs. D

[fun4Ds]

Oh jeehs, this is girl stuff Im outta here ( CLICK )

[Additude]

You need to just tell her. Be a friend. Thats what friends are for. Woman to Woman.

[Pepper & Drew]

Come on! I find it incredibly difficult to imagine that she hasn't noticed it. The thing is, she doesn't think anyone else has noticed. I'd tell her what I'd noticed and let her know she's not alone (I unfortunately had one years ago...not pleasant). Tell her she needs to see her gyno and get it taken care of. There's no sense in you and your husband suffering through it...and her suffering too.

Pepper

[twoingeorgia]

I agree, you need to tell her!

Dory

[prettylady]

My ex came home from a day at the farm show in toronto when we were still married. His zipper was down and WIDE OPEN. He was soooo mad that one of the people he was with said anything.
It might be an embarassing thing to bring up, but even if she is annoyed at first she will thank you in the end for saving her any further embarrassment.
If you can come here and talk to us about her problem(with her best intrest in mind of course) then doesn't it stand to reason, someone is out there talking about it in not so nice terms.
I agree, if she is your friend, you need to help her out.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Bad Sandy]

Ok everyone, "gulp" I guess I have to take the risk and say something. The thing is, I am not bi, and therefore if I say something it means my HUBBY mentioned it to me. Does that make it worse???? sigh... I'll let you know how it goes.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Bad Sandy

Ok everyone, "gulp" I guess I have to take the risk and say something. The thing is, I am not bi, and therefore if I say something it means my HUBBY mentioned it to me. Does that make it worse???? sigh... I'll let you know how it goes.

Only a bit more embarrassing... but I think in the end she will still thank you for it.

[Additude]

Originally Posted by Bad Sandy

Ok everyone, "gulp" I guess I have to take the risk and say something. The thing is, I am not bi, and therefore if I say something it means my HUBBY mentioned it to me. Does that make it worse???? sigh... I'll let you know how it goes.

I think that's even better.

Your husband respected her enough to ask you to say something to her on a woman to woman basis because he felt that it might be more complicated and demeaning to her to have a male tell her something like that.

Your husband asked you to say something because he is sensitive to her feelings.

It also makes it something like "hear-say", secondary knowledge. Therefor less obtrusive.