GFE - Prostitution In The Lifestyle, Part II

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by sereneiders

It could be the female ego part (as I said before), since our wives are "good" girls prettending to be "bad" ones for a little while, being the only difference between the "good" and the "bad" ones the money exchange, and that the "good" ones deserve better than the "bad" ones.

Or, maybe it's simply the reasons that women have already shared in this thread (risks associated with unregulated and illegal sex workers, dishonesty, and others). Why not accept what we say at face value? Women can speak for themselves. The truth is seldom so complicated and convoluted. The simplest path is usually the one that leads to the correct answer.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

The truth is seldom so complicated and convoluted. The simplest path is usually the one that leads to the correct answer.

Dito

It could also be as simple as saying that our perceptions of prostitution - fair or not - would make us uncomfortable playing with one...

Spoomonkey

[singleagain]

Spoomonkey says: "It could also be as simple as saying that our perceptions of prostitution - fair or not - would make us uncomfortable playing with one..."

This is a position I can respect. And of course its the position one should always take when deciding who to play with. Swinging should certainly make no one uncomfortable.

My escort and I have made a decision. I will no longer pay her for sexual favors. She enjoys swinging as much as I do and actually gets into it more than I. We will continue to see each other and go to swing clubs together but now she will be with me simply because of the attraction we feel for each other. Her words to me were that she had wanted us to be a couple for a long time. Will she discontinue her activities as an escort. That is her call, not mine. I would no more insist that she give up her income than I would insist that she have sex with someone at a swing club just so I could have sex with his wife.

With that said, spoo's observation is still the same. He would still be uncomfortable with her because of her profession...and that's an honest position to take.

[Chip_n_Muffy]

This has been the most civilized discussion of a potentially touchy subject that I have ever seen on the internet. This thread speaks well for the members of this board.

Chip

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by singleagain

My escort and I have made a decision. I will no longer pay her for sexual favors. She enjoys swinging as much as I do and actually gets into it more than I. We will continue to see each other and go to swing clubs together but now she will be with me simply because of the attraction we feel for each other. Her words to me were that she had wanted us to be a couple for a long time. Will she discontinue her activities as an escort. That is her call, not mine. I would no more insist that she give up her income than I would insist that she have sex with someone at a swing club just so I could have sex with his wife.

This sounds great!

It seems this news comes after this thread started, and if so, I wonder how much of this discussion had to do with this.

In any case, congratulations for you two! We wouldn't have any problem to play with you two (which is something pretty easy to say for me, being 20k miles away for you).

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Dito

It could also be as simple as saying that our perceptions of prostitution - fair or not - would make us uncomfortable playing with one...

Spoomonkey

This is a way to put this that I endorse 100%.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by acheron823

In My Case, I Have Seen Prostitution In The Swing Clubs Already, On A Limited Basis.. I Believe Legalization Would Flood Them With It, And Destroy The Atmosphere/scene For The Rest Of Us

This is grounded in some fact, or it's just an impression you have?

Here, prostitution isn't ilegal, from time to time a prostitute tries luck in a club without success, moreover having better places where to make business, so I challenge this statement.

[cassies]

This thread is the best discussion I have read not just on Swingersboard, but on the internet.

For my part I would happily play with a couple where one of them was a paid escort as long as that person genuinely wanted to play with me. And I think that would be phenominally flattering, someone who has sex professionally, chooses you as a partner of desire.

However, the caveats are that I am a theoretical swinger (happily married to a doesn't think she will be a swinger, but willing to go to clubs to enjoy the atmosphere), and on topic, how can one know if someone who is being paid to be there genuinely wants to be? I imagine it is not that difficult, but then again... I am imagining.

Anyhow, my thanks to Spoo, Singleagain, Sereneiders and Tybee as well as the others for such thoughtful and compassionate discussion.

Bob

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by cassies

how can one know if someone who is being paid to be there genuinely wants to be?

Bob

I think that is really the fulcrum of the question - and as a balance point, it isn't easy (or even really possible) to find? Does the money corrupt the motivation or just our perception of it? For me, there would always be that question in the back of my mind.

But - just as some people are willing to play with whoever they bump into in a dark room - or some folks are only willing to play with people that they first develop poly relationships with (these are extreme examples) everyone is going to have comfort zones that shift based solely on their own personalities, backgrounds and moral sense.

As for this being a good thread - it is just really tough to get nasty with SingleAgain. He's just a darn good cat

Spoomonkey

[singleagain]

And I love getting my fur stroked and my chin scratched

[flkeyscouple]

I didn't know monkeys and cats got along so well!!

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by singleagain

My escort and I have made a decision. I will no longer pay her for sexual favors. She enjoys swinging as much as I do and actually gets into it more than I. We will continue to see each other and go to swing clubs together but now she will be with me simply because of the attraction we feel for each other. Her words to me were that she had wanted us to be a couple for a long time.

This is fascinating, to say the least! Please keep us posted. It's turning into the plot of "Pretty Woman", and we want to know the ending (I do, at least). Good luck to you!

[singleagain]

We don't think its the ending...just the beginning facelick