Making our fantasy a reality

[xxoticangel]

Lately we have both been having a fantasy that I'm not sure how to make reality. I'm not even sure we want to.

Basically the fantasy is we both go out to the same vanilla club as singles. I do the single girl thing of flirting and dancing with hubby acting as back-up from across the room. At some point during the night I choose one guy and have sex with him in the parking lot. Hubby will be close to offer protection if something goes wrong but otherwise will not be know to my partner.

My question is 1) Do you think it is possible to pull this off safely? 2) Since we have always insisted on same room swinging would this damage our relationship? 3) Has anyone else had this same fantasy or actually gone through with it?

[HubbyFromNY]

That could be dangerous I think before and if you try and follow through you better carefully plan it out. I don't think your have any trouble finding a willing male. Why don't you guys just start with the same room swinging. Keep us posted.

[sexyshelby]

Sounds like fun!
Just be sure that both of you are fully prepared to handle this in the reality of it. To me, it sounds very exciting and appealing. If you go through with it, set up a code, perhaps a had signal or something, to let your husband know if you need help.

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I just mentioned this to my boyfriend and he mentioned that this probably won't work...at least not as written above. Most guys wont want to have sex in the parking lot. Also, you need to consider that if you are having sex in a place where your husband can see you, then others will also be able to see you.

I'm not saying that it won't work, but that you need to seriously consider some "what-ifs" before going through with it.

~SS

[ANGEDKY(mr)]

I think it could be rather easy to turn to reality. If it we were going to try this my primary concern after the immediate security risks would be that "Joe Blow" would have to get the picture that this is a one time, no strings attached, you dont need to know my (real) name (if at all), type of fun.

You will undoubtedly will have a hot hot time and make this guy's week !!! However if "Joe" has some hidden stalker qualities make sure to take every last precaution so you can disappear for good

As to the stability of your relationship, maybe try a seperate room encounter just to try the emotions on for size.

Other than that..........Happy clubbing

[WesternSwing]

Sounds like a fun fantasy, and if you both have this fantasy there should be no reason it would harm your relationship. Your hubby will still be close by watching, much the same as same room swinging, so it could be really fun for both of you.

Could you pull it off? I don't see how you couldn't. Picking-up a horny single guy in a bar is like shooting fish in a barrell. The gig will be picking the right one and then not getting caught by someone in the parking lot.

Good luck, let us know if it works!

Mr. WS

[Chicup]

Try not to get arrested (sex is not legal in a public place) as cops will often be stalking outside a bar parking lot hoping to catach DUI's. Also a few of these stories make the internet news, or at least the local paper so hope its not a slow news day if you are caught. Fark.com had one of these the other day with a picture of the couple.

Just some warnings.

[VanHlebar]

MrsVan and I have talked about something very similar and we are currently planning it with another couple.

Ours goes something like this:

The two ladies goto a vanilla bar and flirt etc with the guys. They both agree on a single guy and will take him back to the house or hotel where myself and the other husband will be waiting. We will be at the bar the entire time and if they feel something is wrong they will signal for us and we will come over.

Once back to the house, the ladies will give the single guy an awesome 3some while we watch. Then once they are done, we can all have some pretty hot sex! facelick

So, can you do it, I think so, but it will require some planning and as others have said. I would be very careful.

Let us know if you are able to pull this off.

-Van

[Amanda69]

My question is 1) Do you think it is possible to pull this off safely? 2) Since we have always insisted on same room swinging would this damage our relationship? 3) Has anyone else had this same fantasy or actually gone through with it?

1) Why not? Before I found swinging this was what happened if you wanted a one night stand. Course more often then not we found a room but the parking lot worked just as well on warm nights. There is no reason to think the guy you pick up at the swingers bar is going to be any safer than at a Vanilla bar, there are creeps all over. Just take precautions.

2) Can't damage it if you have truly discussed it and agreed this is what you want to try.

3) Haven't done it as a swinger but know many who do and love it...

[xxoticangel]

Thanks for the responses. We had a great time last night discussing this scenario J. Some of the changes we made are:

1) It would have to be far from home to reduce the chance of ever being seen again.
2) When I decided on the right guy I would call hubby on his cell and leave the speaker phone option on. He would be able to listen with an ear bud and come to my rescue if needed.
3) Middle of the week seems better than a weekend. Hit a bar on ladies night as a business woman away from home. Use a fake name and pick a city far away to cut down on the chance of him trying to find me again. Take the dome light out of my SUV and use the back. The windows are very dark and if I parked in the right place noone would be able to see in without getting right up against the glass.

Anything else we are missing?

I'm a little nervous about this. We have picked up single guys in vanilla bars for MFM before but that was always with hubby right there to encourage me and make me feel safe. I haven't got out looking for a one night stand in about 15 years. This is exciting but scarey. I'll let you know how it goes.

[ANGEDKY(mr)]

stash that I.D. and park so your license plate isnt the first thing you see as you leave the bar for the SUV. Other than that, sounds like you have it covered............


oh yeah, one last thing dont forget your post here

[robel12550]

So the back windows on the SUV are dark and your hubby is going to be somewhere relatively out of "sight" listening on a cell phone.

So if Stephen King wrote the rest of the story, what would it be? The guy you pick up is a very good psychopath who can get you very quiet real fast in that back seat. With a hand over your mouth, who hears you scream? And if hubby is still in the bar listening in on the cell phone (by the way, are you sure that Verizon or Cingular or whoever really won't drop the call when you need your husband the most?), he'll really be able to hear a muffled sound in the SUV especially when his attention might be mildly distracted by that young hottie dancing in front of him.

Don't think I'm trying to talk you out of this since it's a great fantasy and one I'd love my wife to go through, but I always envisioned that I'd be no more than roughly a twenty pace distance away or in a closet or downstairs (in other words, pretty damn close so nothing would really happen that we didn't approve of which so far doesn't sound like your scenario). So if you haven't thought about some of these things, then maybe you should before you attempt to go through with it.

Personally, I'd also want to have the guy's identity recorded from his driver's license and other supporting documents because I also wouldn't want Mr. STD to be left out of the picture and if something happened to be able to find him again to make sure he's taken care of one way or another.

Best of luck with it!

[TeamSoBe]

Back when my girl used to enjoy flirting with single guys in my presence, and picking them up sometimes, the thing that I used to love about it was how they would act like they had just won the lottery. I always thought it was really hot to see how gleeful they would get about the unexpected sex.

Now that we limit our games to experienced swingers, it just isn't the same. Experienced swinger guys who screw two or three hot girls every weekend don't treat her like there's anything special or exciting going on. She's just next in a long line and the situation isn't shockingly exciting for anybody because everybody does it all the time.

I just mention that as a way of saying that I thought that your fantasy was really hot.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

My question is 1) Do you think it is possible to pull this off safely? 2) Since we have always insisted on same room swinging would this damage our relationship? 3) Has anyone else had this same fantasy or actually gone through with it?

Interesting post. We have a fantasy (since I have had to travel for work) that while I am out of town I go to the hotel bar and pick up a guy. We've run the scenerio several different ways ... I call Spoo and leave the cell phone near the bed so he can listen or call after and tell him about it.

Here's the thing though...to answer your questions:

1. Can ours or yours be pulled off safely??? Maybe - Maybe not. We determined in our case that no it can't be. Spoo is home and I am out of town. I could pick up some psychopath and the maid would find me dead the next morning Now since other than work Spoo and I do travel together we have considered the possibility of picking up a guy in the hotel bar together and telling him Spoo will sit and watch. Sort of a compromise to the original fantasy.

2. We have always been same room only too. This was another big reason we decided not to play out the fantasy. Yes there can be jealousy in the lifestyle if you put yourself out of your comfort zone as a couple. Plus, the fact that I just don't enjoy playing alone. I like to either be able to see Spoo with another woman enjoying himself or knowing he is enjoying watching me with a single or better yet giving me the pleasure of two men.

3. Similar fantasy as I explained but we have decided that some fantasies, even though we are in the lifestyle and able to fulfill most of them, have to remain just that...fantasies.

Our marriage and my safety are much more important to us than any fantasy that I won't regret not having when I am old as much as I'd regret a lost marriage or worse my life.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[EvilMJ]

Okay, for those of you who know me...you know I am paranoid....very paranoid.

I wouldn't be able to pull this one off - I would be sure that the guy was a serial killer (and if he wasn't I would probably kill the mood pretty quick looking for knives, ropes and other weaponry while we are trying to get it on).

Nothing wrong with fantasy, or even living them out. Just be as safe as you can.

[Suncouple]

Or how about this ... Turns out the guy is not single and you get named in a divorce suit.