Worried they may think we blew them off

[feelin_froggy]

Hi All,

Never thought I'd be looking for advice, but here I am. I'm not sure what to do, and would appreciate your thoughts. I know this is long, please bear with me, I just want to give sufficient info.

Some background:

While Mr. Froggy and I have been in the lifestyle for a couple of years now, we've only gone to parties/dances. On Memorial Day weekend, we up and decided to go to a nudist campground (swinger friendly) not too far from here.

It was a little nervy for us both, neither of us had walked around naked in front of a bunch of other people before. We didn’t know anyone when we got there- which made us a bit self-conscious, but we settled in. Most of these folks are members, and have been going for years. We ended up meeting the best group of people- 6 or 8 couples that were fun, friendly, just the kind of folks you could spend all your free time with. We all just clicked. In my world, that’s very rare.

There was one couple in particular that we really hit it off with on a personal level. I’ll call them C & J.

C & J seemed to really like us, too. She made comments the whole night on Saturday about how we just “fit” and how cool that was. She invited us over to their place for brunch the next day, we told her if we were up, we’d be there. Everything’s good.

Here’s where the trouble starts.

There’s a single guy in this group. He has a same initial- I’ll go with C2. His place is the party spot- the spot where lots of people gather, and where we initially met this group. Saturday after the dance, Mr. Froggy and I headed over to C2’s. C & J were there, we played a little bit- then they took off. We partied a bit, ok, we partied alot, then went back to our camp.

Sunday morning, we get up, have no idea what time it is, but it’s HOT. Damn Hot- so we head down to the pool. (Skinny dipping in the sun is one of the greatest feelings in the world, by the way!) Swim for a bit, cool off, then decide to go over to C & J’s to see about brunch. We come around the corner of the building- and there they are! I told them we were just on our way over, and they seemed cool about it.

That night we went to C2’s, partied a bit. Ok, alot. C & J showed up, but didn’t stay long. One thing led to another, and we ended up playing with C2 and another lady.

Monday morning, we pack up camp. (That was sad- I wanted to stay the whole summer) We went down to C2’s, and no one was there except for C2 and the other lady. I got his phone number, and left my email with them- and I asked them both specifically to pass my email along to C & J, and to please tell them we said goodbye.

Tuesday night, I still hadn’t heard anything from C & J... so I called C2, and asked for their phone number. He didn’t have it, but said he’d pass mine along to her.

In talking to Mr. Froggy (after arriving home), he said that C expressed interest in us as a couple, and invited us to play ON SATURDAY NIGHT. He, in his drunken state, didn’t realize it was a direct invite, he took it as a general interest going forward, and never even told me about it. Mr. Froggy is an awesome man, I love him with all my heart, but he’s not too good in this area.

So now, here it is a week later, and I still haven’t heard from C & J. Probably won’t, because if you look at it from their eyes- it looks like we blew them off all the way around. It’s been on my mind all week- I’m not a person who likes to leave things unsettled. And I’m worried that she’s feeling rejected. I don’t know when we’ll be able to get back there, we have so many commitments booked for this summer, and C’s schedule is such that she works every other weekend, but I don’t know which weekends that would be.

So, should I call C2, and find out if he passed my number along? I don’t want to look like some stalker. But I’d really like to talk to her. Not just to clear things up, but I really enjoyed her company, and would like to talk to her.

It was just a whole series of missteps and miscommunication, and one hundred percent our fault.

Any thoughts, input or advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!

[Darkblue]

Phone!! nothing wrong in asking? but then again C2 could tell you a lie and say he did pass the message on? i would phone anyway you never know untill you ask..


Steve

[feelin_froggy]

Originally Posted by Darkblue

Phone!! nothing wrong in asking? but then again C2 could tell you a lie and say he did pass the message on? i would phone anyway you never know untill you ask..


Steve

Thanks for the input, Steve.

This is a pretty tight group of friends, and don't strike me as the type that would lie about passing the number on if he didn't. But I'm realizing that part of me is afraid he's gonna say he did pass it on, and that he really DID pass it on, and that I still haven't heard from her cause she doesn't want to talk to me.

Maybe I'll build up my courage, and call.

[Darkblue]

Its possible that c2 doesnt want you to have the contact? i wasnt there so i dont know how close they are but like i said give them a call not a lot more can do? At least then you can say your tried your best!!

Steve

[feelin_froggy]

Originally Posted by Darkblue

Its possible that c2 doesnt want you to have the contact? iw asnt there so i dont know how close they are but like i said give them a call not a lot more can do?

Steve

I guess that is possible. And there's not much more I can do, is there?

It's been a week- well, almost a week. I don't think I'd come across as clingy at this point, would I?

The worse that can happen is that she has my number, and doesn't want to talk to me, right? And that's where it stands now. So I don't have much to lose by calling, I think.

Argh.

K. I'll call. Maybe tonight.

Does anyone else see an option that Steve and I don't?

I do feel better just for talking about it- thanks for your response, Steve.

[swing52001]

wow! I hope by now, that you have made that call. Not calling would be like not buying a lottery ticket. You can be absolutely certain that you won't win. If you haven't made the call..... do it. You have absolutely nothing to loose. If they don't want you to persue the relationship, they will let you know.
Enjoy!

[Amanda69]

Course then again it has only been a week so relax and if they call they do, if not then it wasn't meant to be.

Maybe they are just into one nighters or because you aren't part of their regular group and won't be spending that much time at the camp they aren't interesting in pursuing an active relationship.

I would attempt to contact one more time then just leave it....

[LOL_OMG]

Is there another way for you to get a phone number or email to them? Possibly the campground owners would pass on something like that, I'm sure it's happened before.

Mrs

[feelin_froggy]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Is there another way for you to get a phone number or email to them? Possibly the campground owners would pass on something like that, I'm sure it's happened before.

Mrs

Tried this- they do not give out personal info for any reason.
Which is good, I suppose- just not THIS time!

Amanda69- I really don't think that's the case. (re: one nighters) but I do think that you are right about the call. I'll call tonight, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out.

Thanks so much, everyone. Really appreciate it.

[imsnowman]

Originally Posted by feelin_froggy

Amanda69- I really don't think that's the case. (re: one nighters) but I do think that you are right about the call. I'll call tonight, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out.

Thanks so much, everyone. Really appreciate it.

Let us know how it works out, please.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by feelin_froggy

Tried this- they do not give out personal info for any reason.

Well, I don't know what you tried, but if you ASKED for their info it's pretty obvious to me that you wouldn't success.

I'd try to PASS a message to this people trough the camp administration, eithed directly or, if they're regulars, the next time they go to the camp.

It may happen that the administration were not sure about the couple you mean. If they were mistakenly confussing them with other people and sending your message to the wrong people, they would be disclosing your personal info in an unintended way. If they were having any doubt about this couple identity, they wouldn't agree to pass a message, unless you explicitily were telling you that you're aware this mistake can happen and that you take the responsibility for it.

I'd write an e-mail for the administration to forward. In the e-mail I wouldn't disclose any name, just giving a clue of who you are and who they are by means of the shared activities, some comment made, or so, and asking the final receiver that if they're the intended couple you two are VERY interested in contacting them. Moreover, you should appologize if for some reasong they felt rejected, that this wasn't intended but you feel this is possible because you already tried to pass them your phone by means of this common friend.

Hope this helps.

[Ofrdcple]

Ever consider just going camping again?

[feelin_froggy]

Ok, I feel like a total idiot.

Update:

I just got an email from C&J.

Remember when I said they only go there every other weekend? Well, this was their weekend, and the first time they have gotten our contact info! (Don't we have a "smack myself in the forehead" smilie??)

So I spent the last two weeks worried OVER NOTHING.

For cryin' out loud.

But! I so appreciate everyone giving their thoughts- and the pm's offering help. Thank you all so much.