Has anyone left their partner????

[wolfmaiden]

I was wondering if anyone left their partner for another partner because of their feelings toward the other person????

[NandTfromCA]

I'm pretty sure you mean in the context of swinging???

We have only been involved in swinging for 5 or 6 months but have already met a few people who's previous partner left them due to feelings towards a swinging playmate.

[Paphian]

Originally Posted by wolfmaiden

I was wondering if anyone left their partner for another partner because of their feelings toward the other person????

I'm certain it happens in swinging, although it's not something I've ever done. But, then, it happens with vanilla couples all the time also, so I doubt swinging all by itself makes it any more likely.

[sexyshelby]

It happens. Swinging couples or vanilla couples, it's bound to happen sometime.

~SS

[sereneiders]

Yep, it happens, but I'd still bet that it would happen way more between coworkers than between playmates.

[Darter02]

Originally Posted by wolfmaiden

I was wondering if anyone left their partner for another partner because of their feelings toward the other person????

Can you substiute "money" where it says "feelings?" If so, then yes! I know of one in particular...

[westlakeman]

no but i found out she cheat on me and im deciding what to do

should i stay or should i go

we swing with a man in the past but she doesnt want to find a bifemalwe and share me..
think she the jealous type or just wont tell me she doesnt want me to have fun.....

she tell me all the time that she is going to find us a female but never happens i look at the instant messangwer and all i see are male screen name no female im wondering what to do

[Darter02]

Originally Posted by westlakeman

no but i found out she cheat on me and im deciding what to do

should i stay or should i go

we swing with a man in the past but she doesnt want to find a bifemalwe and share me..
think she the jealous type or just wont tell me she doesnt want me to have fun.....

she tell me all the time that she is going to find us a female but never happens i look at the instant messangwer and all i see are male screen name no female im wondering what to do

Bail out of that burning plane my freind!

[JTcamp05]

It sure does happen. But I'm willing to bet that the % of couples it happens to in "swinging" relationships is equal to or less than those in vanilla relationships. Of course I have no data on this, would be interesting to know, but its just a hunch!

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by wolfmaiden

I was wondering if anyone left their partner for another partner because of their feelings toward the other person????

Yep! In fact, if you read some of the recent posts in here, you can watch the "wheels coming off their wagon" in near-real time.

[Darter02]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Yep! In fact, if you read some of the recent posts in here, you can watch the "wheels coming off their wagon" in near-real time.

LOL! You can just call me "Skid!"

[JaneAndJohnDoe]

Originally Posted by westlakeman

no but i found out she cheat on me and im deciding what to do

should i stay or should i go

we swing with a man in the past but she doesnt want to find a bifemalwe and share me..
think she the jealous type or just wont tell me she doesnt want me to have fun.....

she tell me all the time that she is going to find us a female but never happens i look at the instant messangwer and all i see are male screen name no female im wondering what to do

I am going to play the devil's advocate here, but bear with me.

First, if she cheated on you, and you are certain of it, it's time to stop swinging entirely and seek counselling if you want to rescue this marriage.

The only part here where I am devil's advocate is the part about her having difficulty finding a female to have a threesome with.

It is VERY difficult to find! That's why they are called Unicorns.

There is a huge number of males that want to be in a threesome, but only a small handful of single females that frequent the swinger's personals and are looking for a threesome. It's next to impossible to find, so if you are seeing a large number of males and no females, this could be why.

We've seen this time and time again...

In fact, we bought a book about how to have a successful threesome, and we highly recommend it. It's all about what to do, where to really look, and how to make it wonderful. I'm not going to post the link here, because we don't want to be advertising. But if you look it up on our blog, I'm sure you'll find it on there.

But I digress...

It may be that your wife is not really interested in finding a female to play with...and I'm not saying this isn't the case. If she has cheated on you, there are more problems running deeper than what gender your playmates are.

You need to decide if you trust her...that's first and foremost. You cannot swing without absolute trust.

[intuition897]

To answer the original question, yes, it does happen. I'm guessing it happens about as frequently as with Vanilla couples. But the couples that it happens to have underlying problems that may or may not have been aggravated by swinging. Swinging didn't actually cuase the problem itself. It merely exposed it. If you'd rather leave the shit buried, don't build sand castles in the litter box.

WestLakeMan, don't swing. Have a heart to heart conversation with your wife and get all this stuff out on the table. Like the song says, you can't go on together with suspicious minds. Good luck![/I]