What do men think of women who flirt?

[TNT]

This is mostly a question for the men out there, but ladies feel free to post your prespective as well.


After reading over a story that Curiousagain posted about his 'swingdar' not working right, which you can find here , I got to thinking...

I am a very flirty person. I am very at ease with men, always have been...in fact I usually get along with men much better than I do women. No matter what kind of social situation that Ted and I are in (I'm talking about vanilla type stuff here, not swinger related social events) I congregate with the men and if I've had a couple of drinks...I usually flirt with all of them as well. I also flirt when I haven't had anything to drink...just not as blatantly.

I asked Ted what he thought the men thought about this...did they think "Oh, drunk blonde"..."Pussy whiped man"..."Bet she runs around on him"..."He needs to apply a firm hand to that woman"..."Damn, wish my wife was like her" ????

Ted's answer was he didn't care what they thought of him or I....he enjoyed my flirting

So...I wanted to ask...what do ya'll think about a woman who flirt?


Teresa

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by TNT

This is mostly a question for the men out there, but ladies feel free to post your prespective as well.

So...I wanted to ask...what do ya'll think about a woman who flirt?


Teresa

It's St. Pat's Day and I just got home after drinking a Corona at the local pub while flirting with some guys. I feel like replying to your thread, Teresa.

The only kind of flirty women MrLM and I don't care for are those who are stupid drunk flirts, or women who obviously are trying to make a man's wife upset.

I like this topic because I - like you - have always felt more comfortable with men than women. I can talk to about any group of men and feel right at home. I like to flirt and do it on many levels. Even in our business there is a place for flirting when you do it in an appropriate way. Men love it! I think they are flattered by receiving the attention. You can flirt without sexual statements or innuendos ever being used.

I have seen women who give me the evil eye when they see their husband or boyfriend enjoying my attention. My flirty behavior is conservative in non-swinging environments so I don't feel I'm being out of place. Other women enjoy seeing their husband feeling good and they join in the fun with me.

MrLM loves a good flirty woman and he enjoys watching me flirt.

LM

[jedi6942]

Personally, I love being around flirting women. There is an air of general acceptance associated with flirting, on a very individual level. In a sense it says, "I like you," and "I feel comfortable around you." It says about you that you feel good about yourself, are confident, and willing to share your enthusiasim with others.

Noone ever flirts with anyone that they do not like!

Count me with your man, Ted. Who cares what others think?

You, and all of your friends, too, can flirt with me any time!

[VanHlebar]

Hey Teresa,

Well I might not be the best person to answer this because Mrs Van says I am a huge flirt myself. So, I find any woman that can flirt to be extremely sexy. I think it shows and tells me that here is a lady that enjoys life and is comfortable with who she is.

Plus it gives me an opportunity to flirt back and even if I know it is going to end with nothing, there is just something about flirting with the opposite sex that to me is fun. I have done it for years and will continue to do so. It is more fun when the ladies flirt back


-Van

[sereneiders]

I agree with Van.

SIne we wan't to keep appart our vanilla life from swinging, for me it's just like a game thet feeds my ego (and my wife enjoys watching this sort of feeding)... but...

But, the way I respond to the flirts have to do with the woman, if she's alone or if I feel her couple is ok with her flirtings, I play the game. But I've seen women whose behavior drastically changed deppending on if the couple were or not around, or who flirted to build up a drama inside her relationship (flirted because her husband was there while watching him get upset). So in these cases I try to get as far as I can from them.

[Mike and Jan]

A absolutely love flirtatious women! I don't think of them as anything other than cute!

I don't think badly of thier husbands, in fact I envy thier husbands.

I wish my wife would flirt more because I'd enjoy it tremendously.

You keep right on being yourself..., and flirting!

[EvilMJ]

I'm like you Teresa, I usually end up hanging out with the guys. I just get along better with them. I am a huge flirt and hey there is nothing better than someone flirting wth you in my opinion, it is a real ego booster. Hubby doesn't seem to mind my flirting (ofcourse he is a bit of flirt himself when he lets go).

It is those people who are rude and overly agressive in their flirting that I think piss people off. When I see a women all over my husband I get irritated, but when I see a woman engaging in a little harmless flirting I think it's great. Just proves that I had great taste in the man I chose and I am not the only one that finds him attractive.

[J & K]

I flirt and my wife flirts. We love folks who flirt with us together or apart. It is all fun for everybody. A lady who flirts is like getting a low level tease. She wants to see if she "still has it" skills to attract someone's attention. Besides.....she is having fun so ladies can flirt with me all day....ugly or pretty, it don't matter.

J

[lovefest04]

We have been at two great vanilla events in the last two weeks and have had great flirting experiences and bad one.

The bad was related to a woman who was drunk, most people were happy, but she started getting physical with me and a few other men. Literally grinding her ass against us, sitting on laps actually laying across people. Too much, just made people (me) feel uncomfortable as it felt like public sex in the wrong environment. So that was over the top.

Last night at a St. Patty's day party, my wife and many friends wives flirted with everyone they could. Friendly, happy positive safe sexual tension. I love this and really enjoy my wife having fun as much as I enjoy being the object of a womens attention.

I am totally aligned with Ted, I don't care what others think about her or me.

I guess that would incclude getting caught in the coat closet at last weekes event.

You know, I think that couples who are happy and in a healthy relationship show it partially through this behavior. When I hear negative comments from others regarding someones flirting it seems they are usually in a bad relationship, unhappy or jealous.

[good times]

I agree with Ted too, and I like being around women who flirt. Like some of the others said, I like to flirt sometimes myself and enjoy being around women who like to play along. As far as my thoughts about those women goes, I just think they are more fun than women who are reserved and don't flirt and have never had any negative thoughts about them like you mentioned..

[Deptydog]

I love a woman who flirts. I am a huge flirt myself so it makes it easier for me to know who it's OK to flirt with. Drunk women who are flirting aren't sexy though. I find drunk women very unsexy whether they are flirting or not.

[WesternSwing]

I love to watch Mrs. WS flirt! She is a pro at it too.

We were at a club (vanilla) a few months back with a friend and Mrs. WS excused herself to use the restroom. As she walked into the club from the deck where we were sitting this guy grabbed her ass. She smiled and grabbed his back. When she returned she stopped to talk to him for moment and pointed out me sitting at the table. The look of horror on his face was priceless. She came back to the table and told me of the experience so I got up to use the restroom and stopped to chat with him. I told him it was okay and that I was glad he thought my wife was attractive because she thought he was too. He didn't know how to react so I just told him it was cool and to come talk to us if he wanted. He never did, though.

I also oftn wonder what other guys think about Mrs. WS being a flirt, but I don't really care. Most wish their girlfriend/wife was as fun, but I think few can really handle it. To bad, they'd have allot more fun!

Mr. WS

[NandTfromCA]

Flirt it up girl!

What do we think of women who flirt?- Confident, sexy, approachable,...I could keep going but it's all positive.

We are both flirts and if it turns someone off, then it’s all good because they can go hang with the non-flirters (that is not said in a snotty way but rather of similarities attract).

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by TNT

So...I wanted to ask...what do ya'll think about a woman who flirt?

Teresa.....I love women who flirt And I married one who does it so naturally, she doesn't even realize it . Like you, she's "one of the guys", as I like to say. When she talks with others.....she's always touching them. Something I'm so use to, I hardly notice it anymore. This past weekend, the female half of the couple we met, mentioned it. We were in our room, after meeting them at a dance, when the woman commented, "The way Tammy touched me when we were talking was so sensual, that it put me at ease right away". Funny part was, they were still newbies (been going to dances for over a year).....and Tam's not even bisexual.

As far as how other's look at me.....most of our friends at the cigar bar we frequent are envious of our relationship. We've had quite a few tell us (both men and women) how they wish they had a relationship like we have. They see the love we have for one another (not something we hide ) but they also know they can flirt away with Tammy. As I've told them before......"I know who she's going home with"

And I'm betting Ted is just like me when your out at clubs or on vacations. Just let you go....and follow along for the ride Wouldn't have it any other way.

Brett

[davidnjoy]

I love flirty women. It is so enjoyable to be around women who are confident and own their sexuality and power as women. Joy is a huge flirt. I enjoy her flirting and I get a kick out of those who think I am being cuckold(sp?) or something.

D