Watching your partner be sexual

[couplewanting50]

When you are playing with another couple, are you excited about watching your partner having pleasure in sexual response? Do you ever have times when you are more excited to watch your spouse than play with your partner of the moment?

Do couples ever take turns playing so that each can watch the other?

[JaneAndJohnDoe]

For us, it's a toss up. We both are more interested in seeing the pleasure on each other's faces. In fact, we are often so turned on by watching the other be pleased, that it is a struggle to bring it back to the "here and now", which is why we always swing together.

[sereneiders]

Yes, it happens to us. And it's great.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

When you are playing with another couple, are you excited about watching your partner having pleasure in sexual response? Do you ever have times when you are more excited to watch your spouse than play with your partner of the moment?

Oh yeah, but eventually I want mine too.

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

Do couples ever take turns playing so that each can watch the other?

Sometimes. Usually since we are in the same room anyway we can see and do at the same time.

Mr. WS

[playmatesinpgh]

I love hearing Mrs. P in the throws of passion even more then watching.

[MarriedNY'ers69]

Yup we like to watch and be watched by eachother That's one of our biggest turn ons.

[lovedoctor]

I think it's about everything together; watching, being watched, feeling, thinking and just being in the moment. I absoultely love watching him and his expressions though; it gives me a totally different perspective...

[RenoFantasy]

We don't watch each other a whole lot, actually. Is it a turn on to see your spouse in the throws of passion. HECK YEAH! But we find it a greater turn on know that the partner whom we are CURRENTLY with is thoroughly enjoying themself. Not only does that mean that we are doing something right, but that there is a pretty good chance they'll want to repeat the occurance and we might make a long-term friendship.

So we don't really spend much time watching each other. But that's just us!

Matt

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

are you excited about watching your partner having pleasure in sexual response?

YES, we looooooooove to see each other get off!

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

Do you ever have times when you are more excited to watch your spouse than play with your partner of the moment?

There may be times were we would want to but we would rather make sure the person we are with realizes we are giving them our full attention...it's kinda the least you can do if someone is letting you inside them, or vice versa

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

Do couples ever take turns playing so that each can watch the other?

Sure, name a way a playing and someone does it. There have been times where the person I am with shows obvious desire to watch their SO. I then ask if she wants to watch them a little. The answer is usually yes, but the watching has always ended up being brief because we both feel the desire to get back to the action with each other.

We also switch off sometimes where we go two-on-one, and someone gets to watch. In the case that one of the girls is the center of attention, it seems like it evolves into three-on-one and we eventually pair off again.

To each there own...just respect and be kind to everyone involved.

[good times]

I always enjoy seeing my wife having a good time but actually find it distracting sometimes. For this reason, I am starting to like separate room or at least separate bed swapping more and more all the time. The reason for this is that I have found that my playmate and myself are more likely to have a better experience with each other when I can devote my complete attention to her without being distracted by my wife’s pleasure. I have rarely had the opportunity to sit back and watch my wife and her partner play while I am not, but she has on several occasions and I find being watched fairly distracting too, I think I am a little to self conscious for that to be fun.

[RenoFantasy]

I have to agree with you, Mr Good Times. I also have found that when I'm being watched, or FEEL like I'm being watched, that it can be a huge distraction. Sometimes so much so that I'm not able to perform. Like I'm under pressure. Another reason why I don't generally watch the wife... don't want to put undo stress on her or her partner.

Matt

[J & K]

"GoodTimes" said it like I would say it. My wife gets a little distracted seeing me with another woman and I can too at times, but we feel at the same time if we want to swap we should put 100% attention to the one we are with. It kind-of sucks thinking some lady is riding my stick and half time she is watching her man or my wife and not giving me the full attention for the session. Now a fast look to the side is ok, but dwelling on another's event beside you is like watching a porn movie or reading a porn mag while someone pumps you. So the wife and I are coming close to an agreement to go into different rooms or in close range, but out of visual site. To each his own is our motto.

[stanlane]

male half here,

my partner's pleasure is what got me interested in the lifestyle in the first place. seeing her in action and the pleasure signals from her body and face are the greatest turn ons i've ever experienced.

[NakedInSeattle]

It's the pleasure we both get from seeing and hearing the other "in the throes" that makes it for us. Ms Naked is famous or infamous, if you will, for her verbal goings on while doing the nasty. She squeals, yells, and tells everybody within shouting distance exactly what she's feeling and doing (in great detail, I might add). Really entertaining - and I love it! Except for with the windows open in the summer time. We live in the city.

[The Fuse]

We just had our first experience two nights ago, and I was surprised at just how turned on I was by seeing my husband with the other woman. What an image. It was incredibly erotic. I would occasionally take a few seconds and look to the side, but the previous posters are right-- I wouldn't have wanted to take much attention away from what my new playmate and I were doing .