Advice for first DP.

[Tojo99]

My wife and I have long fantasized about a MFM involving a Double Penetration.
We're finally moving toward this and were wondering the best position for a DP (vaginal & anal).

Our first thoughts were for her to ride me (me being on my back) and lay forward onto my chest.
Then he could enter her from behind.

Since this is our first time we really want this to go smooth, and she would feel more comfortable facing me.

One other position I know of is for her to ride him anally facing away from him, then lay back onto him.
Then I could enter her vaginally. That just doesn't sound comfortable to me.

Suggestions would be most welcome!

This is planned for THIS SATURDAY! This is our first 'swinging' experience and we are both terribly excited and a tad freaked out.
Any other advice to help us would be appreciated as well.

So far we've picked up some good stuff from this forum.

Thanks!
-Tojo-

[Kyee]

I have seen one. Where Both M are standing, F in between hanging in air supported by both M. F will face the M entering vaginally legs wrapped around the hip, while the other M will enter from back. Have not tried.

[fun_pairTX]

Just a couple of hints. LOTS of lube. Whatever the position, the guy with the smaller penis goes in back door. RElax, take lots of deep breaths, and tell the guys to keep their cool till they are both situated internally. Its impossible to be the second guy in if the first guy can't stay still.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Tojo99

Our first thoughts were for her to ride me (me being on my back) and lay forward onto my chest.
Then he could enter her from behind.

This is probably going to be your best bet...it takes some maneuvering but this is one of the easiest positions for DP...IMO.

This is planned for THIS SATURDAY! This is our first 'swinging' experience and we are both terribly excited and a tad freaked out.
Any other advice to help us would be appreciated as well.

So far we've picked up some good stuff from this forum.

Thanks!
-Tojo-

Take it slow and don't be disappointed if you don't do the DP...it's more important that the whole experience is enjoyed than it is that you get in all the different positions you are wanting to try.


Teresa

[Tojo99]

Thank you all for the replies! We are both super excited, tomorrow is the day and I'm so excited I'm having trouble sleeping.

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

Whatever the position, the guy with the smaller penis goes in back door.

We've read that a lot. Even though I'm the smaller guy (by an inch) she is pretty set on me being in front of her. She said she may be able to ride him if she's comfortable enough. This is our very first time so she is fairly nervous.

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

RElax, take lots of deep breaths, and tell the guys to keep their cool till they are both situated internally. Its impossible to be the second guy in if the first guy can't stay still.

Thank you! That is great advice. Our partner has been in the lifestyle for 7 years and is pretty experienced so I hope it will go smooth.

Originally Posted by TNT

Take it slow and don't be disappointed if you don't do the DP...
Teresa

Well, that is the primary fantasy. I know we couldn't help but both be disappointed if we can't pull this off.

We very much enjoyed reading the OMG -- It's REALLY gonna happen!!! post by SBcpl. Their experience has really helped us.

Any more advice?

-Tojo-

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by Tojo99

My wife and I have long fantasized about a MFM involving a Double Penetration. We're finally moving toward this and were wondering the best position for a DP (vaginal & anal). Our first thoughts were for her to ride me (me being on my back) and lay forward onto my chest.
Then he could enter her from behind.

I agree with Teresa; this is probably your best bet.

Since this is our first time we really want this to go smooth

Maybe that'll happen, but it might take some time to work things out (or in) so things can go smoothly. But as said above, relax and take your time. And it's been posted before on this Board that if you try DP, have a sense of humor about it all. You might end up laughing...a lot.

You'll have to figure out where all the arms and legs go. The guy on top of the pile will have to balance himself and he'll most likely be in an awkward position, so arm muscles and leg muscles can tire fast.

One or both of you guys are likely to slip out at least once until you get an established rhythm going. Neither of you guys really have to do any pounding to get everybody moving. A lot of subtle motions can do the trick, too. You might want to let her establish the tempo if she can move comfortably between you two, or just let the guy on top set the pace while you two are relatively still. Just some rocking back and forth can be good enough for everyone in a DP. Experiment!

Don't be worried about incidental contact with the other guy, it happens.

If you are on the bottom of the pile, try to be as comfortable as possible. You might feel crushed, and occasionally it might feel more like work, but if you concentrate on her pleasure, I think you'll feel okay.

Finally, from all the excitement and contact in this position that's new to you, Tojo, don't be surprised if you cum fast the first time. It just means you'll get to try it again sooner. And maybe you can try the other position you mentioned the second time around.

Good luck and have fun! Let us know how it goes!
Thrax

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by Tojo99

We've read that a lot. Even though I'm the smaller guy (by an inch) she is pretty set on me being in front of her.

It's not so much about the length as the girth!

Having said that, pretty well anything is possible with enough practice (and lubrication!). I am usually the smaller (in girth) when we go for DP, but Red is happy either way. Just means that the bigger guy has be rather more careful if he's playing tail end charlie

CB

[WesternSwing]

It works best for us in the one guy on his back with Mrs. WS facing him, and one behind in the doggy-style position. Lots of lube. Lots of patience, and bring a sense of humor. The logistics of it all are not easy the first time.

Mr. WS

[Tojo99]

Thank you all so much for the advice, it has helped!
I never even considered the need for a sense of humor during this. All I can say is we'll try.
Holy crap, we're down to hours now!!!! We're still plenty excited but panic is setting in too.
Boy I hope we (her mainly) can relax enough to really enjoy this, after all that's what it's all about.
-Tojo-

[dingdong69]

I would sugest that before she rides you one of you uses lots of lube and uses his finger very gently first, go very slowly and gently and put some more inside and then before she rides you go very easy with his penis (again lots of lube ) try to get a full penetration and then withdraw and then and only then she could ride you up. you'll see that it'll be very easy to accomplish a smoother DP and very important you wife has to be in full control of the timing and depth of the penetation, it takes time for the tissue to expand and adapt. good luck and enjoy it, it's a greaat experience.

[thediva05]

What has always worked for me with out any body feeling wierd or uncomfortable was the first male seated (I prefer my own man in that position) with me facing him facing him and the extra male behind for rear entry. That guy typically finishes first anyway so I prefer to finish off with my own male partner since we usually start doing something else anyway.

[stu]

waiting to know how it was.....our fantasy too

[Tojo99]

Originally Posted by stu

waiting to know how it was.....our fantasy too

In a word - In-FUCKING-credible.

This was our first ever swinging experience so we were really, REALLY nervous (especially her.) The guy we picked was absolutely perfect, put her at ease and kept the night moving well. Without a doubt picking the right partner was KEY in the night going so well.

We met the guy first by going out to dinner. He was really easy going,not pushy, and seemed genuinely interested in helping us with our fantasy. We discussed some ground rules and a basic outline of how we thought the night would go. He was very supportive and by the end of the dinner we were both feeling as comfortable as possible (given the fact that this guy would soon fuck my wife!)

One of the biggest obstacles was how should the evening start? My wife was terrified about undressing in front of a stranger, and didn't like the idea of watching him undress either. To get over this we came up with the idea of her starting out blindfolded. We went to the motel room first, she got ready and into bed, then he came in. This worked unbelievably well, while blindfolded she didn't know if it was me or him who was touching her and was able to relax. The blindfold lasted only about 10 minutes, by then she was really getting into 2 guys worshipping her body.

We started with him going down on her while I concentrated on the upper half of her body. This was GREAT as she could focus on me and not freak out that another man was licking her. We were able to switch around some later as she relaxed and really able to get into the whole experience. There before my eyes the woman I love became a insatiable sex machine. She later told me it was like being drunk, if we hadn't taken pictures she would hardly believed the things she had done. Boy I would love to post some of those, they are truly awesome.

The DP had a rocky start as I had some performance issues (sorry I'm just not used to 3 hour sex marathons!) After a few failed attempts we were able to do it with her riding me, and him entering her behind doggy style. She had the most powerful orgasms of her life and later told us she feared she might pass out. Wow.

We really didn't expect the night to go THAT well, it far exceeded our wildest expectations. This was quite simply the most incredible night of both our lives. The night just could not have gone any better, except for my slight performance issue.

It's been 5 days now and we still are in amazement, we look at the pictures we took every day. This has really expanded our relationship, we are even more in love now that we were able to experience this together.

I think we can attribute the success to:
1. Having frank and open discussion between each other.
2. Picking the right partner
3. Setting ground rules, what she is and isn't comfortable with.
4. Having a rough gameplan, or script if you will.

Unbelievably she now wants to experience a FMF to my absolute delight.

Stu, I can't recommend this enough. We talked about it for years but the experience was absolutely amazing. I really hope you have success too.
Feel free to email me if you have any questions.

-Tojo-

[VanHlebar]

Tojo,

Glad it went so well for you! Mrs Van and I are currently trying to coordinate a MFM threesome with a play partner we met last weekend at the club. I couldn't agree more that picking the right partner most likely made a big difference. We are both very comfortable the guy that we are going to have as our first MMF also.

It's been 5 days now and we still are in amazement, we look at the pictures we took every day. This has really expanded our relationship, we are even more in love now that we were able to experience this together.

I can completely understand this comment. Mrs Van and I were just talking about this last night. I just can't belive after our first experience, as flawed as it was also, how much deeper our love has gotten for each other. It is truely awesome how something like this lifestyle, which looking from the outside in, one would think it would rip a realtionship apart, but for us, it has only made our relationship that much stronger.

I am glad you and your wife had a great experience! Make sure you get back to us on how your FMF encounter goes

-Van

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by Tojo99

I think we can attribute the success to:
1. Having frank and open discussion between each other.
2. Picking the right partner
3. Setting ground rules, what she is and isn't comfortable with.
4. Having a rough gameplan, or script if you will.

And 5. Advice from Swingers Board ?

I'm glad things went so well for you. A first-time DP can be nerve-wracking, but it appears that everything worked out well for you two. Now the next time should be even better!

Thrax