Marrieds: If you were to become single again would you still swing?

[wolfnblu]

do you think you would join the lifestyle as a single, or pursue companionship in a more "traditional" way?

[EvilMJ]

you know. I think i would continue as a single, i have a lot of friends in this lifestyle and I think I could have a lot of fun as a single. (not that I am not having fun now, but you know what i mean)

[Pinmonkey]

I would go into the lifestyle as a single. At least for a bit.

But I don't see this happening so it's just speculation.

[Sweet_Candy]

Not sure if my fragile ego could handle being a Dreaded Single Male.

[wolfnblu]

LOL - I understand, Sweet. But see, from my perspective, I doubt life could get any better! I want to come back as a Unicorn! LOL Wined, Dined, pursued relentlessly....ahh, the good life. And no one's dirty sox to pick up!

(p.s. Honey if you read this, you know I just LURVE picking up your dirty socks!)

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by Sweet_Candy

Not sure if my fragile ego could handle being a Dreaded Single Male.

It's not for the faint-of-heart or thin-skinned, let me tell you!

There's no in baseball, or swinging as a Dreaded Single Male though.

[meandher2go]

id go the single route for sure.

[Spoomonkey]

Swinging, for me, is a part of my marriage... It is a part of who WE are. Without my much better - and infinitely better looking - it wouldn't be the same. If - god forbid - I had to live without Mrs Spoo, I would want the next relationship to be whatever it was... I wouldn't want to expect anything form it.

Spoomonkey

[Chicup]

Swinging as a single would be just sex, so no I wouldn't swing as a single.

Odds are the kind of woman I'd fall for and marry would be opening to swinging anyways, if not, I can live without it.

[good times]

I'm in the camp of folks that wouldn't swing as a single. If I just want sex I think I can get that just as easy outside of the lifestyle and their is always the possibility then that I might meet a keeper then.

[BiWoman33]

As a "unicorn" who's first experiences were within a relationship, I have to say that, for me, swinging within a relationship is the best. I always knew I wanted to expereience group sex, from a pretty young age, and was thrilled beyond words that I had found a man I could share it with. It was exhilarating. The relationship didn't last , and my future relationships had a little play, but the one serious relationship after that I felt he was not emotionally mature enough to have that as a regular part of our lives. I got back into it about a year ago as a single woman, and for the most part it has been great- there are no people like swingers- I just love the social aspects of it. I have also, however, found a lot of drama and jealousy, and it's uncomfortable. I have also had almost every man in a couple tell me he's available by himself. Almost, but not all.
What I love about swinging with a man I love is the pleasure of his pleasure, and there just is nothing that compares. I may decide to stop, and focus on a relationship again, and it is not likely I would be with someone who isn't incredibly open, I would live without it if that was what we wanted. It really is about the relationship first.
Then again, my sex drive is so high I can hardly wait for the man I am dating to make a move. But I can't be dishonest, and I'd rather be honest with my lover than making love with a lot of other people. I'm still figuring things out .

This board helps a LOT!
xxx

[Mike and Jan]

Now I don't think that swinging as a single would be "just sex" at all.

OK, there are some singles who are in it for just that, but not all.

There are some single men and women who enjoy the openness and friendly attitudes of people in the lifestyle as well as the sex. Just like couples do. And, there are a lot of pleasures that you just can't experience with a single partner that you can with a couple.

I, for one, would definitely be in the lifestyle as a single if I were no longer married but I'd also be on the lookout for that perfect partner. And, that partner would have to be compatible, with not only most of my vanilla interests, about swinging.

But, If I never found that next Ms Right, I'd want to always have lifestyle friends. There is just something so inviting about couples who can be so open with each other and honest with friends.

[Alura]

Swinging is a hassel! There's a lot of work involved in meeting people, sorting out the right ones, and developing a friendship with the other couple. Withoug Mrs. Alura, it wouldn't be worth it.

No, I wouldn't swing without her. I'd spend my time raising my sons and remembering the most wonderful twenty-six years of my life.

Mr. Alura

[WesternSwing]

I would probably continue in the Lifestyle for awhile, however as we've seen with other singles, it is very difficult to develop a normal relationship with anyone else because the Lifestyle kinda' freaks them out. I mean, how do you bring this up to a new person you meet? Unless you meet them in the Lifestyle it could make you a very lonely person. Potential mates just wouldn't understand until you at least had some history so that the idea of swinging wouldn't be as threatening. And overall, it's not that important an activity in my life. Now, ask me to give up motorcycles and we have another issue all together.

Mr. WS

[sereneiders]

Swinging is part of my marriage, I wouldn't swing without her... I may have recreational sex with swingers if I were invited by other swingers, and I'd love to keep in touch with lifestylers because they're the kind of people I like to hang on with (as much as I do with my vanilla friends).

If falling in love again with another women, I'd like swinging to be part of it, but I wouldn't push her into it. And if she dislike the idea, or if we feel it doesn't work for our relationship, I wouldn't swing.