Who is the seducer, the woman or man?

[Sweetdevil]

In sexual situations who is the seducer?

The man.

The woman.

Both.

Seduction does not take place.

[Quin]

I know that I can't answer that question because it's different for every case. I have been both the seducer and the seducee (tho I gotta admit I LOVE being the seducer).
Maybe a better question may have been: Which do you enjoy being? The seducer, the seducee, both, or do you just go out it without any flirting, seducing or foreplay.

Just MHO.

Quin

[Sweetdevil]

Quin,

Thanks for your humble opinion.

You give great conversation! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" />

Sweetdevil

[mehim]

Originally posted by Sweetdevil:
In sexual situations who is the seducer?

The man.

The woman.

Both.
-------------------------------------------------everybody tells me if there would be a orden for flirt ,i would get it . i love to seduce, but i been a couple times on the other end too, and must say i loved it too get my body ready for the ultimate .lol maby becaus im so ready - willing-and able...&lt;me&gt;him is watching me write. and nodding his head lol

[ddrewd]

I've changed my view on this question ever since I've begun associating with swingers. Not too long ago, I would have said 'Neither' in my case. There's just too much game playing, and it's frustrating.

Among swingers, everything is more upfront. Both men and women can try their hand at seduction, and no one has to be afraid of saying "No" or of having their feelings hurt.

Yes, there's a lot of game-playing among swingers, but in the swinging environment everyone knows the rules and can play along.

I vote for "Both."....Btw, Julie, I've got a great idea for an appropriate Graemlin...start with lonely male (sad face), enter female who combines 'rolls eyes' with 'kiss' (think Mae West), then exits...male smiles and pursues...end of Graemlin. Or else you could have the female rub up against the male, who would begin smiling. Would that be a good representation of female seduction?

-Drew

[Quin]

Originally posted by ddrewd:
I've changed my view on this question ever since I've begun associating with swingers. Not too long ago, I would have said 'Neither' in my case. There's just too much game playing, and it's frustrating.

Among swingers, everything is more upfront. Both men and women can try their hand at seduction, and no one has to be afraid of saying "No" or of having their feelings hurt.

Yes, there's a lot of game-playing among swingers, but in the swinging environment everyone knows the rules and can play along.

-Drew

I don't know that I would classify seducing and flirting as game playing within swingers. When someone speaks of game playing, I tend to think more along the lines as someone trying to mess up someone's head and in the context of swingers who are flirting/seducing...the only thing that is happening is a heightening of the sexual tension which will eventually lead to, hopefully, a little bit more satisfing copulation between the two or how many ever involved.

Quin

[L&K]

Is not half the fun of this four play? the Game of Cat and Mouse. My thoughts of swinging would be like dateing, Working up to a Point of which everyone is confortable and can enjoy being with each other. The excitement of meeting another couple. getting to know them , Teasing and Being Teased. And moving on forward as everyone is confortable with what is happining? We did have a bad experience. But for both of us alot of the fun would be getting to the land of Oz. not just Oz itself.

S. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" />

[JustAskJulie]

Another one that I thought would be fun to bring back up and get some more responses on. I even added a poll for your conveinence.

[HotCoupleGnS]

In most cases, it is neither or I guess you could say both. Most of our experiences were with friends & we found that starting with each other always got everyone in the mood.

[javelin]

In our case the man, but in other couples we have met, most definitely the women. This has made it difficult for us to connect with anyone.

[Brit_Pair]

In our experiences, the seducers have been female, since they've been the pace setters. And how better to control the pace than by leading from the front?

[Quin]

Since this post was started, I've paid attentiona little more and have come to the conclusion that I adore being the seducer...it adds so much fun on my part! And as Jim says, I do it ssssooooooooooo good!!

BTW, where the heck are you Sweetdevil!! Am I gonna have to PM you???

Quin

[devonsgirl]

I think it depends on the couple and the situation. With some couples, the woman might be more comforable being the seducer, and in some the man. Also, depending on the person or people that are being seduced, it could be the man or the woman. I did however choose the woman in the poll because I do this that in the end, the woman has SO much power....lol....

[WA_Cple]

I love being seduced by another woman... so I try to seduce as often as I can... but I always seduce the woman... never the man... just not my preference. It is a huge turn on to have a woman flirt and play with me and my hubby!



Mrs WA

[graygo98]

Interesting poll. The answer, IMHO, is... it depends.

Online I would have to give the nod to the guys. In our experience its often the male that initiates contact or was responsible for putting the profile up in the first place.

Move into the real world of clubs and the whole dynamic shifts. Club swingers are like prides of lions.... the women do the hunting. And it is a wonderful thing....