Who is the seducer, the woman or man? - Page 2

Jamie&Kieth · 10-06-2005, 05:58 AM

It actually depends on who is the horniest at the time, it is kind of a game of hide 'n seek ... who can start putting the moves on whom with out getting caught.

We also play 'games' to get things started. Depending on the game either one of us starts the seducing. It also is fun being seduced and being a tease about it!

danni654 · 05-20-2006, 12:44 AM

I am the alpha female and pick-up couples based on the girl. My guy just cums along for the ride...and what a ride it is!

xoxo, Danni and B
http://danni654.blogspot.com

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bnbinsa · 05-21-2006, 09:40 PM

My experience is the women do all the work... but that is because they are more discriminating...

danni654 · 05-22-2006, 08:10 AM

Yes, woman are more discriminating, but that's not the reason why!

Remember, in the Lifestyle, it's ALL about the girls. ;-)

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Originally Posted by bnbinsa

My experience is the women do all the work... but that is because they are more discriminating...

TwoLittleBirds · 07-05-2006, 01:36 AM

When I was younger, it was usually the guy who was the seducer. (Or at least thought he was!)
These days, seems like the ladies initiate. That's probably especially true in a marraige.
Hubby

LIZA · 07-09-2006, 10:03 PM

i tend to be more the seducer with men and especially with other women. at least in swinging, in my real life past relationships tho i have been more go with the flow and often ended up in serious relationships with people because they kept pursuing me

My husband is a lot more reserved and definitely needs seducing!

discoandvyper · 07-13-2006, 02:01 PM

Disco (the wife) does almost all the seducing... however there is one young lady we play with that really has the hots for Vyper (the husband)... when we play with her it's Vyper that does most of the seducing...

SouthBond · 11-02-2006, 08:56 AM

I usually am first to test the water with the other husband. If he seems interested in the idea of swinging, my wife closes the deal with her flirting and teasing. If there is a reluctant wife, she also makes the other woman feel comfortable with the situation. I guess that it is a team effort.

cubnamy1995 · 01-24-2007, 07:55 PM

For us, my wife is the big game hunter. When she goes on the prowl, watch out!

I very rarely have to do anything but smile, though I love doing my fair share.

biblonde · 01-24-2007, 08:07 PM

In our house the wife (me) is the aggressive one! I like the thrill of the hunt....and I do tend to get a little bold (okay alot of bold!) he tends to be the more quiet and goes with the flow of things.

ohash01 · 01-24-2007, 09:23 PM

My best guy-friend and I got in an argument about this a while ago. Apparently, women are evil-seductive creatures from his point of view. (Myself included) However, I think men are seducers and women are flirts. Flirting is a form of seduction, but it's different. It's playful and sweet. I picture seduction being a little dark and dangerous.

I can't remember ever seducing anyone in my entire life. I think you'd have to put out a lot of effort to do that.

TightNJuicy · 01-24-2007, 11:54 PM

My guy (who has more swinging experience than me) said in almost all the playdates it was the women who got things going. My initial reaction was the guy but once I thought about it, since we've been swinging it does seem to be the woman who makes the first moves more often. When I was dating it was the opposite...this was an interesting poll for sure! This got me thinking about the empowerment of women in the lifestyle. All the boundaries and communication seem to make us more comfortable with doing what we want...ok enough musing...thanks for letting me put in my 2 cents!

sexychoclit · 04-21-2007, 12:55 AM

As a single female I am the aggressor. However, during play I prefer the other couple to be the aggressors, once we have gotten to know one another pretty well and feel safe with that.

Tia Vampire · 04-26-2007, 12:50 AM

I would say that we both are, but he says that i am more of the seducer. I just like going for what ever I like. I have not seduced anyone in the life-style yet.

I like guys with long wavy black hair, pretty eyes, and a sexy smile. I have not really found that in the life-style. So no one so far has made me want to go at them like a lion. When that day does come, believe me, i'll be all over him.(hopefully)

Carcouple34l · 04-27-2007, 03:16 AM

my wife usually started the night, by getting naked, and going to the other man. that seamed to be the que for the everyone else.

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View Poll Results: Who is typically the seducer in swinging situations (in your experience)
The Man	117	23.73%
The Woman	217	44.02%
Both	143	29.01%
Niether	16	3.25%
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10-06-2005, 05:58 AM	#16 (permalink)
Jamie&Kieth Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 212 Location: Massachusetts Status: M.Female	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? It actually depends on who is the horniest at the time, it is kind of a game of hide 'n seek ... who can start putting the moves on whom with out getting caught. We also play 'games' to get things started. Depending on the game either one of us starts the seducing. It also is fun being seduced and being a tease about it!

05-20-2006, 12:44 AM	#17 (permalink)
danni654 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 27 Location: Harrisonburg VA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:danni654	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? I am the alpha female and pick-up couples based on the girl. My guy just cums along for the ride...and what a ride it is! xoxo, Danni and B http://danni654.blogspot.com facelick

05-21-2006, 09:40 PM	#18 (permalink)
bnbinsa Registered Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 9 Location: san antonio, tx Status: couple	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? My experience is the women do all the work... but that is because they are more discriminating...

07-05-2006, 01:36 AM	#20 (permalink)
TwoLittleBirds Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 244 Location: Iowa Status: Happily married. M:38 F:34 Swing Lifestyle Name:twolittlebirds	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? When I was younger, it was usually the guy who was the seducer. (Or at least thought he was!) These days, seems like the ladies initiate. That's probably especially true in a marraige. Hubby

07-09-2006, 10:03 PM	#21 (permalink)
LIZA Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 426 Location: ORANGE COUNTY, CA Status: Married Fem.	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? i tend to be more the seducer with men and especially with other women. at least in swinging, in my real life past relationships tho i have been more go with the flow and often ended up in serious relationships with people because they kept pursuing me My husband is a lot more reserved and definitely needs seducing!

07-13-2006, 02:01 PM	#22 (permalink)
discoandvyper Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 94 Location: Eastern Ohio Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:dynamicduoinohio	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? Disco (the wife) does almost all the seducing... however there is one young lady we play with that really has the hots for Vyper (the husband)... when we play with her it's Vyper that does most of the seducing...

11-02-2006, 08:56 AM	#23 (permalink)
SouthBond Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 161 Location: Deep River, Texas Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Southbond	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? I usually am first to test the water with the other husband. If he seems interested in the idea of swinging, my wife closes the deal with her flirting and teasing. If there is a reluctant wife, she also makes the other woman feel comfortable with the situation. I guess that it is a team effort.

01-24-2007, 07:55 PM	#24 (permalink)
cubnamy1995 Amateur Naked Acrobats Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 541 Location: East TX Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:cubnamy1995	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? For us, my wife is the big game hunter. When she goes on the prowl, watch out! I very rarely have to do anything but smile, though I love doing my fair share.
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01-24-2007, 08:07 PM	#25 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? In our house the wife (me) is the aggressive one! I like the thrill of the hunt....and I do tend to get a little bold (okay alot of bold!) he tends to be the more quiet and goes with the flow of things.

01-24-2007, 09:23 PM	#26 (permalink)
ohash01 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 535 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? My best guy-friend and I got in an argument about this a while ago. Apparently, women are evil-seductive creatures from his point of view. (Myself included) However, I think men are seducers and women are flirts. Flirting is a form of seduction, but it's different. It's playful and sweet. I picture seduction being a little dark and dangerous. I can't remember ever seducing anyone in my entire life. I think you'd have to put out a lot of effort to do that.

01-24-2007, 11:54 PM	#27 (permalink)
TightNJuicy Registered Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 4 Location: surrey Status: couple	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? My guy (who has more swinging experience than me) said in almost all the playdates it was the women who got things going. My initial reaction was the guy but once I thought about it, since we've been swinging it does seem to be the woman who makes the first moves more often. When I was dating it was the opposite...this was an interesting poll for sure! This got me thinking about the empowerment of women in the lifestyle. All the boundaries and communication seem to make us more comfortable with doing what we want...ok enough musing...thanks for letting me put in my 2 cents!

04-21-2007, 12:55 AM	#28 (permalink)
sexychoclit Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 75 Location: South Carolina Status: Single Female	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? As a single female I am the aggressor. However, during play I prefer the other couple to be the aggressors, once we have gotten to know one another pretty well and feel safe with that.

04-26-2007, 12:50 AM	#29 (permalink)
Tia Vampire Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,059 Location: Florida Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:tiavampire	Re: Who is the seducer, the woman or man? I would say that we both are, but he says that i am more of the seducer. I just like going for what ever I like. I have not seduced anyone in the life-style yet. I like guys with long wavy black hair, pretty eyes, and a sexy smile. I have not really found that in the life-style. So no one so far has made me want to go at them like a lion. When that day does come, believe me, i'll be all over him.(hopefully)
	Last edited by Tia Vampire; 04-26-2007 at 12:53 AM.

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