Sex with different partners, does it physically feel different?

[cracker60479]

I have read many posts by swingers about what turns them on, the fun, excitement, thrill and pleasure enjoyed by swingers. As an inexperienced wannabe I'm curious about how the physical pleasure feels different in intercourse between different play partners. Does it feel better for wives when the penis is of some different size, the way he moves it inside you, the ways he thrusts, grinds or variety of changes he makes during intercourse? What makes one male feel physically better than another for you?
And guys, what makes one female more physically pleasurable for you than another? How tight she is, the way she moves and responds to you, her internal muscle control to stroke you?
I know the most enjoyment of sex is in the mind <EG> but What makes it physically good considering the worst I ever had was wonderful and it is all good.

[JustAskJulie]

To me what makes a man a physically good lover (beyond any emotional connections we have) is the amount of effort he puts into his love making. Many guys are just there to get theirs and have no concern for the woman, they spend no time with foreplay and no concern on whether or not she is enjoying thing. A good lover will go out of his way to make sure that the woman is enjoying things every bit as much as he is if not more, and that will make for good sex.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Dito Julie

If there is flirting and we have a good personality connection then when we get in the room and the male is attentive to me and not just there to get his jollies off and be done then it is usually good. Regardless of size if he enjoys pleasing a woman (orally or intercourse) that is the most important part.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[cracker60479]

This may have been a bit of a crude question to ask in the way I worded it. I really didnt mean for it to be. I have never had the opportunity to have intercourse with several women in succession and dont know in comparison if one "feels" different physically than another and if there was an expertice, or "the move" as Jerry Seinfeld put it, that makes one feel more pleasurable than another. Having always tried to give my partner all the attention and arousal I can and working at it to make her feel it was the best she ever had, I just wanted the knowledge of experienced swingers to know if there is anything in the use of dick or pussy they have learned that makes someone a better f**k than another.



If you cant be good....be good at it. Do u diddle? I Dodiddle

[good times]

First off I would say that every one feels a little different physically, but that isn't what makes one woman a better sexual experiance than another. What makes one better than the next to me is attitude, if she is really into it it's much more fun than what I call the "dead fish" who just lays there waiting for me to please her.

[Vantabulous]

Perhaps I'm just in a bad mood, and, for that, I apologize.

Only a fool, male or female, is going to jump into bed and think that he/she knows exactly what lights his/her "partner" up. That comes with experience.

Accept that you may "get lucky" and hit the lady's "buttons" the way she hopes you will. Also, accept that, in spite of your best efforts, you won't do it for her. Not your fault necessarily. Just didn't "work"...that time.

Looking for a magical formula for "good" sex is folly. Every man, and every woman, is different, on any given day.

As others have suggested, a lot of it is attitude. If your partner is receptive to whatever you've got, then you're both going to have a good time. If not, then accept that, too...and learn from it.

Van

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by cracker60479

... I just wanted the knowledge of experienced swingers to know if there is anything in the use of dick or pussy they have learned that makes someone a better f**k than another.

If after reading posts by Julie and Mrs Spoo - two women experienced with swinging - you still had to ask this question, then Mr cracker you're trying to make love only with your cock and not with your mind.

As long as you keep doing that, your'e never going to get the lesson these women have tried to teach you.

GT and Vantabulous are two men who also know how IT works.

Heed everyone's advice.

LM

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Vantabulous

Looking for a magical formula for "good" sex is folly.

Wow, Van...

That's two great posts in a row from you...

You go!

This is - obviously - a bull's eye statement. I don't worry about whether or not I am a good lover. Frankly - I am! But - have I met women for whom the monkey didn't translate? You bet your bippy! Some women need a certain angle - thrust - focus... Something different than what I am doing...

Now - I try to pay attention to my playmates and try to match my "efforts" to their postive reactions. Better is when they aren't afraid to speak up and help you out a bit (as a swinger, we don't have the benefit of knowing their bodies as well as a regular lover would). Usually, I end up muddling through And everyone seems to have a wonderful time.

But - to answer the original question - sex with others is about variety - but more than variety in the physical, there is variety in the "technique". That really is the exciting part! You meet people who do something just a little different that makes you go "wow!" But - except for movements or "tightness" generally speaking if all women moved the same, I'm guessing all women would feel pretty darn similar...

I think every couple goes into the lifestyle with a bit of worry about their spouse meeting that "Don Juan" - that "perfect" sex machine... But the truth is, because my wife knows me so well - and knows EXACTLY what to do and when to do it (because she pays attention to my needs!) I have never been with anyone better. Not even close.

Spoomonkey

[cracker60479]

There has been some confusion in interpreting what I meant with this questio, I'm sure because it was poorly worded.
I am not asking for information on how to "do it" or what one thing works physically or a secret that makes me Mr. Pussy Pleaser. Most of the threads are about thoughts and opinions, how do you feel about... what do you think I should... why do you think.... My question was simply about the physical aspect of sexual enjoyment instead of the mental side. We all know that sex is about giving attention, caring about your partner, clicking with your partner. We have all heard turn them upside down and they are all the same and he/she is good or bad in bed. I was just asking what do you think, physically, that makes someone "feel" better than another during intercourse. Do you find a noticable difference in the physical feeling of your sex partners when swapping from one to another and another?
For gosh sakes I am 61 years old and know how to do it, I just have not had the opportunity of going from one partner to another in succession and thought there might be opinions from experienced swingers about the physical pleasure to be talked about instead of hearing how turned on you were. Sorry about the wording of this thread, I am not illiterate, I jus doesnt wrote so gud sum tymes :rollseyes

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by cracker60479

My question was simply about the physical aspect of sexual enjoyment instead of the mental side. . .Sorry about the wording of this thread, I am not illiterate, I jus doesnt wrote so gud sum tymes :rollseyes

I think I was a bit harsh with my post, cracker.

I apologize. I understand now where you're coming from.

The physical can vary in so many ways, from the way hair grows on a mans body, to how he kisses, to his body size next to yours, to the smoothness or roughness of his hands...and of course, the size and shape of his penis (is penis too politically correct for a swingers board?)

Yes indeedy, people all feel different. Just enjoy the exploration and discovery.

LM

[HotMoCpl]

Gee! Sounds like your trying to turn yourself on! I think you've covered most of the ground your looking for.

[Zoe&Wash]

Don't know if this will help, cracker, but in addition to agreeing with LikeMinds, it's a difference in technique, as well as the obvious physical differences.

While I haven't done any actual swinging yet , I've had my share of partners. This thread made me think of one in particular.

I dated this guy for about 4 years and knew everything about him and how he acted and reacted. Then we split up and he dated two other women. When we got back together, it was like being with a totally different person. He'd changed his techniques, and personally, I didn't think it was for the better.

Put simply, he used to have a very gentle kiss, lots of tongue and mouth open just a little. When we started seeing each other again, he'd open his mouth really wide, use much more tongue and would press really hard when kissing. It was a much more aggressive style and a bit of a turn-off for me, though it obviously worked for one of those other two women.

What I guess I'm trying to say is, if one man can change his technique so dramatically to suit his partner, then several individuals are bound to have different techniques, some more pleasing to the recipient than others.

So it's not just the obvious physical differences, but the way things are done that can make a difference from one partner to the next. It's a matter of personal preference - what feels good to one, may not feel so good to another.

I'm not sure if that all makes sense , but I hope it helps!

Z