If swinging were an accepted way of life...

[ALilOEverything]

If swinging became widely accepted in our society, would you be more apt to swing knowing you wouldn't be judged harshly by your peers? Or do you find the naughtiness of doing something wrong in the eyes of our society to be half the fun and if you take that away you wouldn't have as much desire to swing? In essense, would societal acceptance of swinging change anything for you?

Hmmmmmmm,
Good question!

Since we like to be Naughty if swinging wasn't considered to be naughty anymore.......

Seriously though, I do think part of the thrill is the fact that it is something we are not "suppose" to be doing . But that is not all of the thrill. It is just plain fun !!!! I think we would still swing .

[VegasLee]

We swing for us, not for the general public. We also happen to be out and it is know what our lifestyle is. Has nothing to do with being Naughty at all.

We like being accepted for who and what we are and not having to hide in the closet.

No matter what the "real would" thinks, we would still be ourself.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

. . . would societal acceptance of swinging change anything for you?

Yes. I think I'd find our search for compatible swingers much easier.

Instead of walking up to strangers and saying "great weather we're having, don't you think?" I could replace it with, "how's the swinging going?"

Because I choose to be an incognito swinger doesn't make swinging more inviting to me.

When I'm involved in any sexy activities it is a turn-on to be engaged in play that most people don't include in their life. That's the naughty part that's fun.

LM

[ALilOEverything]

Though I love the naughtiness of the situation and I definitely get a charge out of that, I think I would enjoy it more if it was considered acceptable. The fear of what kind of stigma we would suffer if we were "found out" outweighs any excitement of naughtiness. Also I feel like I've been more dishonest since we've started this such as where we met our friends or where we're going or what we did last night. I would prefer to be able to say, hey were going to this club and not worry if they know what kind of club it was. It's not like society is going to accept it anytime soon so I guess I'll just have to get my kicks out of the naughtiness aspect of it.

[BradAndJanet]

It would be great if society was more accepting of swinging (and some other things too!), but the fact that it is 'taboo' doesn't make it any more exciting for us. Good question though! I've enjoyed reading the different points of view.

-B

[lovefest04]

Yes, the naughtyness is great, exciting and stimulating. We like to have this little secret between the two of us. We also like to think that we are doing something none of our other friends are doing. (what a hugh surprise it will be when we answer an ad and meet at our local bar only to find a couple we already know!!!)

We have many friends we share certain aspects of our lives with. Not that we aren't real with all of our friends, we have just ended up with those who we share more with. I think swinging is like that.

I think that here in California, if we were open about swinging it would make little difference. The type of people we have in our lives probably wouldn't care, :rollseyes many would be green with envy.

When it's all said and done, mostly why we don't openly talk about swinging is because we are fearful, that's all. Most peopel are just plain weird about sexuality.

I do like the idea that if society was open about swinging finding others to swing with would be easier.

S&A

[Spoomonkey]

I used to have a job that pretty much controlled every minute of my life. For example, I had to think long and hard about drinking a beer at a baseball game. Didn't matter if I was watching a team three states away... What if I was caught on camera enjoying a fine Anheuser product? I could be fired...

Then I lost that job...

So I went to a baseball game and had a beer...

And hoped like hell people would see me because I knew that it would piss them off. I enjoy an occassional beer now, but I truely enjoy the fact that my beer drinking is seen as a horrible taboo by many in my old circles... I get a charge out of the badness of it.

Swinging for us is the same way - except that I don't ever hope to be caught on camera at a baseball game fondling friends. There is something in the charge of the taboo that makes it more exciting than it otherwise would be.

But - on top of that - there is something incredible about the shared secret that I have with Mrs Spoomonkey. I like the e-mails through the day that tease and torture... I like the fact that we have a life seperate from what people might expect. There is something very fun about that.

I hope the swing lifestyle never becomes so damn common that it is normal Monday morning cubicle talk. I hope that as long as we are involved, it will be with dirty e-mails and knowing winks. We don't swing for anyone but us - but the fact that it is so uncommon is a definite bonus!

Spoomonkey

[Elusive BiFem]

Interesting question. Hmmm...you know, I think swinging might still be a popular activity for some, but I also believe the lack of "naughtiness" might take some of the thrill out of it. Would it become ho-hum like so many other things? Remember even just a few years back when seeing even the hint of a breast on TV was a big deal...and now we don't even blink an eye?

I'll be interested in reading what others think. - EBF

[Chemistry_0518]

We can see where having some of the naughtiness removed will lessent th thrill dor many. As for us, We would enjoy it even more because it would open doors that are currently closed for having fun.

[Randalls_angel]

I do think that society accepting anything takes some of the thrill out of it. Kind of like everyone wanting to go to secret clubs during prohibition! I'm sure drinking was way more fun in those days! But I do think sex is exciting no matter what....so I can't quite see the excitement level of being with a new partner or couple would lessen even if society accepted the behavior. Most people you meet today have a, "Hey, if it works for you, go for it," attitude about other people's kinks, so I do think society is becoming more comfortable with the notion that very few of us have a puritanical sex life with our spouse! So, yes and no! It might be less exciting in one aspect, but having an easier time finding willing partners might make it even more fun!!
~angel~

[happy_single_bi]

I would still play but I would be bored with it all...

After all it is the blue hue and the naughty aspect that add spice to the lifestyle. It is the fruit just out of reach that you know is the juciest, the icing snuck from the side of the cake and sucked off your finger that is the sweetest, the stolen kiss that smolders the longest...

otherwise it would just be....VANILLA (lmao)

RIGHT?

[HotCoupleGnS]

We would do it no matter what. It is all fun to us wether it is naughty or not.

[2New2it]

It never even entered my mind to be influenced by naughtiness. I'm a serious individualist and it makes no difference to me if swinging is socially acceptable or not. I believe my wife thinks along that line also. We don't break any laws when we play, so it's a personal decision. We obviously don't advertise what we do, but that's out of consideration for all involved, not a flirt with the unacceptable.

[Greg & Sheryl]

The one thing that would change for us is that we would be less shy about approaching attractive strangers outside of the usual swinger gatherings!