phishfan

We're pretty new to this as well, but have had a couple of experiences now with many more to come! facelick Like someone else said, I too was always fantasizing about having sex with other men. I do the soccer mom thing too, but it's really just not "me". I ended up having an affair with someone, and got caught, but we got through it thankfully. I finally figured out that one of the reasons that I was straying had nothing really to do with my husband but ME. I feel horrible that I hurt my hubby, but we have worked it through and are SO much stronger now. We talked a LOT about what happened and why and after counseling and all of that, things are good. One night we went to a party where there were a couple of nude strippers. They were giving the birthday boy "facials" and I TRIED to get my hubby down there for a facial, but he didn't want to in front of all of the people at the party. I kept bringing up the fact that I would REALLY like to see a girl sit on his face like that. That night we fucked like we never had before! So, we talked about it and I brought up the idea of swinging, started researching clubs and found this site which has been great for information and insight. We met our first couple on SLS, met and went on a date (I think we're finally gonna play with them this weekend), but we've played with 2 other couples at this point with a couple more in the pipeline! lol We find most of the couples we meet now on Lifestylelounge. Lots of parties and great people there. I can't wait to play again! It's been so awesome for every aspect of our marriage. For the first time in 10 years of marriage, I'm much more focused on us. Our communication is at a level it's never seen before and our sex life is better than it's EVER been! I LOVE watching my husband fuck another woman! It's such a turn on!

Hi all, OK, I'm sure this has been addressed at some point and if it has, please direct me to the thread. But my DH and I are very new to the lifestyle, we're actually just getting started. We had a "date" with another couple this week and are hoping we'll get together again (probably will), but we're just eagerly awaiting our first experience. So, in our quest to find new friends, how do we nicely tell another couple that we're really not interested in meeting them after seeing their pictures on sites like SLS? We have a couple of people that have reached out to us, we've viewed their profile, told them "OK, send more pictures", they do and we see them and even though their bodies looked OK, their faces aren't as attractive to us as we had hoped, kwim? I feel bad turning someone down and not meeting them just because I don't find them attractive. Do you meet them anyway and hope to be friends only, or is that leading them on? I told my DH that I don't necessarily not want to be friends with others I'm not attracted to, but I don't want to play with them. TIA for the advice. Mr. and Mrs. Phish