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  • Birthday 08/24/1971

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  1. I want to reply to this message from MRS FUN, because even though me and my fiance are newbies, and have not played together yet-I too have some weird feelings about him finding someone on his own. He doesn't like the fact that I have asked this of him, he has experience I don't and I explained to him all of this is new to me-be patient with me, let me experience at least my first or second time with the three of us if we could actually find another Female only to join us which seems impossible, and see if I can be comfortable at that point to have him find someone on his own. I have no problem with the both of us looking and choosing someone-I don't think there is a problem with us looking together I actually prefer that more. I have alot of insecurities about my weight that I am slowly overcoming, and being more positive about my self, and have actually just lost 20 lbs in the last 2 months-I don't think it's just about me when finding someone. I think we both as a couple have to come to some kind of agreement when searching-even though I am a big woman, when searching and looking at pics of womens ads I find myself not attracted to some big women, Is that wrong? And MRS FUN what is that group called on SLS because it is so hard to find someone who is actually truthful and real, we are only looking for a Female for now I am not interested in another Male-at least not right now-I only want the Male that I have.
  2. Where, and how does a couple with a BBW find other Women to play with? Is seems hard to find? Any suggestions? Web sites? Clubs in IL that have single women access?
  3. How about our profile, could you check and see what we are doing wrong? We don't have pictures, we can not afford the membership just yet, and we have not received any responses at all. Thnak you
  4. Actually to think about it I would rather my baby found a female for me to do instead of them doing me at first He he he he I know I am Evil deep down inside!!!! Anyone interested that is close by - OMG I am thinking bad but oh so good!!
  5. 2fromNM that does make alot of sense I would rather it be this way, is it harder to find people this way? or should I say is it harder to find a female this way- I have heard that it would be harder to find a stranger than it would be to find someone already known?? I would rather find a stranger, I think it would be more comfortable for me, although I ahve thought of one person that we do see from time to time in the mix that I wouldn't mind, but then my mind has all those demons thinking about the afterwards wanting to get with when I'm not around, and all the other things that my mind thinks of because this person is around us on a regular basis. How many times do you find yourselves doing anything with a third person in a one months period???
  6. Ok, I said that he would like it to be that way in the future, not right now. I have already told him that I can't deal with us doing something alone right now, and he has to face the fact that it will stay this way in the future. And yes he has said that it would be ok if I met a man and wanted to do something alone in the same fashion that it would be ok as long as he feels he could trust the person. He has asked me what if he found a woman for me where he would just watch, would I be Ok with that? So I'm not believing that he is selfish, he said that he wouldn't have to fuck the woman either he would wait until I was ready and even would wait until I asked for it to happen. He wants me to explore my sexuality and he said he wants to give me the opportunity to experience this pleasure, and right now we have been talking about it for about 3 years now, and he has stated that he likes our talks, he has never gotten this close with anyone else in the past as far as how he has opened up to me, and he just expects us to talk for now. He said that he has really up to this point not expected anything to happen, and just likes to fantasize with me about it, and getting me to open up more to him. I came on here because I wouldn't mind doing something with a third, but wanted to see if anyone else had the same fears as me. I am a big woman so a lot of this comes from not having self-confidence in myself, and my man is so fucking hot. A lot of hotter woman look at him and admire him, so of course I'm going to feel this jealousy and have to work on these issues, I just don't know how. I have been thinking one way all my life even if I wanted to have a threesome and have fantasized about being with another woman with my man, that was all I thought about. I never thought about all the other stuff, touches, and flirting, and shit like that or even having that same person sexually again, or that person wanting him again, and I have to face those fears if I want this to occur. Another question, how often does any of you explore with a third person, like let's say in a month?
  7. To Shelly Which comment were you referring to? I have read a lot on here and I keep reading the same things. Won't let their man go off alone. Won't do anything if their man doesn't wear a condom. If you read some of the posts on here, also don't want to do friends. It seems everyone on here has the same fears as I do, and as for having a MFM right now it does not interest me to fuck or suck another man than my own. I am attracted to woman and have wanted to taste a woman, me and my man talk about EVERYTHING!! and I have told him about all of my issues, and we are working on it, but I came on here to get more opinions because it doesn't really help when I have no one else to talk to about this subject other than him. I love him, and I would never do this just for him. If I did I would only be hurting myself, and our relationship. I was just wondering if my fears were the same as any one else's, I want to do this. We have talked about this together, and are working on these things together. My man was my childhood boyfriend from high school, and after 17 years we are together again. This man is the most wonderful thing to ever happen to me. Maybe I am selfish in some cases, but I have never had a friendship like I have in him, and right now this would be something we would have to decide on together if we would like to share this part of us because my opinion is that he is my best friend and my best friend only.
  8. Thank you so much for all of your advice. I am afraid of the friendship my partner will have with another female, call me selffish - I want this to be mine and only mine. We have talked about all of this and he understands this lifestyle as how it should be between a couple, how anyone who embraces this lifestyle will truly be happy. I don't understand it the way he does, he wants us to have someone who will be our third. She will be a regular person to call for us to enjoy. I don't think I can get to this point with someone being a regular person all the time without thinking that this person is going to build feelings for him or me, but it's more about him. And I have told him, but he seems to think that I will be able to in time. I Love him with all my Heart, I do believe he is my soulmate, I just believe that I can be all he wants me to be. I know that I want to have threesomes right now with females, I just don't know if I can deal with the same person, or if it becomes a friendship, he has brought up a subject that if we find that someone what if they call and are horny. But I'm not would I let them do anything without me either being involved at that moment or even there when anything will happen and I cannot. He understands to a point but he says if we all have already done something what does it matter, well I feel that being alone with my partner is for me and me only. I don't know, maybe I need to read some more... get more advice then talk to him and think about it more before I do something.
  9. I need help with this subject, also with being scared of getting hurt. Me and my partner want swinging to happen so bad. He actually has done this before in the past, I have not. He states it should be someone that we know or a friend, but when I think about it I think I might be jealous of this person afterward. Also I am scared of what if I see him touch her in a passionate way that he has not done to me, or just seeing something that is done that is not done to me, what if it looks as if that person's pussy feels way better than mine does to him? What if a female that we do this with wants more and more? What if she just wants him? What if she starts doing flirty things with him like the everyday flirting we do together as a couple? I am so scared that these things will happen and I will feel so hurt. What do I do, how do I stop feeling this way?
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