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JamesTKirk

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    Male Half of Couple
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  1. I had half the day off yesterday and flipped on the tube. It so happened that Montel was covering swinging, polyamory, bigamy etc on his show yesterday. I don't know if any of you all saw that. Anyway, the polyamory triad/triumvirate/whatever involved a female who lived with her boyfriend but spent a week every 6 weeks with another man 1,000 miles away. She met the "other man" while filming a documentary on, of all things, polyamory with her live-in boyfriend. I had heard the term but didn't know that the heck polyamory was until that show. To me, it seems to involve emotional commitment vs. swinging in general (okay that's just my definition), but that's how I understand it. It's not my thing, but I respect those to whom it appeals. Swinging to my wife and I is about fantasy fulfillment in the context of enhancing our relationship with each other. I cannot relate to having an emotional relationship with another woman besides my wife, so polyamory isn't for me. To each his/her own though:)
  2. Whoever brought up the Newlywed Game episode, thanks. I learned about anal sex from that episode as a twelve year old. I'm sure Bob Ewbanks would be thrilled to know that:rolleyes: I doubt he's reading this tho... Anyways, we have used the backyard, an office complex parking lot in the twilight next to a busy street, a park near us against a tree, a men's bathroom which was my wife's favorite, and a secluded area of a pub. B/4 I got married my life was kind of boring in this regard though.
  3. Hi, Yes, my wife and I have the same problem. I am generally more open to the female half of the other couple than my wife is to the male half. But we're new and I think my wife just needs more time to get comfortable with the whole process. But, yes, we find ourselves attracted to half of the couple at a time in general, which makes hooking up with a couple a little difficult. As a result, it has taken us quite a while to find a match. But that's just part of the process I think. My $.02 anyways.
  4. I think this is a great thread. I too am a Roman Catholic, have participated in all of the Sacraments, and attended Catechism when I was a boy. Although I don't go to Church very much these days, I miss it and would be more motivated to go except that the Church takes a pretty dim view of those of us who are divorced. Okay, that's another subject. Basically, I think what you all have been saying encapsulates what I feel toward my wife, which is that I love her more than my own life and would do anything (within reason) to please her. Since my wife wants to swing, and because we participate with full communication and acceptance, there is no dishonesty nor is there any "coveting" of another's spouse. I'm pretty sure that the biblical connotation of the word "covet" should be interpreted in the context of ultimately "stealing" another's spouse for oneself, which isn't happening since all parties are aware of the intentions of the participants.
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