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bigjoehd

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About bigjoehd

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  • Relationship Status
    married couple
  • Location
    michigan
  • Interests
    motor cycles,audio & friends.
  • Swinging Experience
    10 years
  1. Ive been there once,we were just getting started playing with a new couple where i really wanted to be with the wife, until she farted,not just any ole fart but a wet one that stunk up the entire room:bogroll:after that it was all over for me.My wife had a good time with the husband though,i was happy for her too. A few days later we got an email from them saying that they thought we were not right for each other because of "MY PROBLEM" & that we should call it quits,the husband went on to tell me that we were thoughtless because we did not warn them about my problem. It took me a few days to give them a response but when i did i let him know "MY PROBLEM" only happened because of his wife & that she might need to wear a diaper to their next play date.
  2. Especially when it comes to Oprah or DR Phil,taking real life advice from these tv star's is a bad thing,life isnt like what people see on tv.
  3. Listening to people say how bad their ex was in bed is pretty much a standard with divorced people,isnt it?
  4. Your killing me:rolleyes:,as a couple my wife & myself have been active over 10 years & cant begin to count how many guys we've met with the same attitude as yours,i swear i think you guys dream this shit up after reading too many penthouse forum letters:rollseye: We get atleast 10 emails a week from men who make comments just like yours on the swingers site we belong to,when they make their profile they click "couple", because in the back of their mind they believe they are so studly & the women are so lonesome & neglected that its all about meeting the woman. Seriously,you are going to have a hard road to hoe in this lifestyle,trying to find somebody who lives up to what (you) think this lifestyle is all about because you aint got the first clue.
  5. We dont care how sexy people are when it come's to filthy & crude comments,i cant take it & the lil misses is even quicker to pull the plug when the conversation drifts off into obscenities. Here's one for ya! A few years back we were playing with our then regular couple when the male of the couple announced " OH YEAH!!!!!!! TAKE MY LOAD!!!! WTF was that all about,not only did she not take his 'load' she got up & left the room,ruined the whole evening for all of us & after that things were never the same,we wasted no time breaking it off with them.I dont think your being a prude,nasty comments turn alot of people off. I think some people just watch way too much porno,people dont talk like that in real life......do they?
  6. My god man what kind of monster were you living with, you are way better off without that person in your life.
  7. ...Or you could just stand there or watch tv. Of course it is ok
  8. Well i for one wouldnt be happy about having "conditional" sex & i wouldnt stand for it either,i'll go against the grain here & say that i think your approaching this fairly as long as you tell her your plans in advance & give her the chance to make things better.Nobody should be stuck in a sexless marriage & be left with divorce or no sex as the only options. For everybody who says this is not swinging how so?. If he tells his wife his plans beforehand & gives her the chance to make things right this is not cheating,to cheat their needs to be deciet,falsehoods,lies ect,we only see single people are they not swinging when they play with us? Back to the question of how to break it to her,if i were you i'd sit her down & tell her very bluntly that having a good sex life is important to you & having conditional sex is not healthy & is making you miserable,i'd also let her know that i didnt want a divorce but if the dull sex life continued without her even trying to seek medical help or try to find a way to make things better that i would be seeking other people to fulfill my needs. Weather her lack of desire has to do with your previous cheating,lack of desire for you or just her own low sex drive its not fair of her to expect you as a human to be ok with the way she presents sex to you.
  9. What rules have gone,all of em except 2,safe sex & have fun,we both now believe that as long as everybody is ok with whats going on then were happy.
  10. Your right & there is nothing wrong with talking about what both of you would like to do & what each of you is dead set against but heat of the moment situations do not replicate the talks people have beforehand. I did not mean that "you" were trying to control "her" but i did mean that you thought that you both could control the situation which you now see only works to a degree,what if the roles were reversed then add the alcohol you both drank & it could have been you on the rule breakling end of the evening without it being intentional.What both myself & my wife try to get people to understand about making this work is that you need to be able to roll with the punches & be able to accept things when they happen,there is no blueprint for all of the shit we do but the main goal is to have fun not to ruin your life or others lives. Look,if your here then your no different than the rest of us & if your trying to find ways to make this lifestyle work better for you as a couple thats great but you have to realize that nothing goes as planned & you can expect more things to upset you along the way,either accept them & move on or stop seeing other people,its all part of the price of admission.
  11. Hey guy,you need to grow up,this nonsense is the exact reason my wife & I gave up on couples & only see single people,too much drama & the way your acting violence is not out of the question,this isnt about you knowing that she broke a rule or knowing that she was with another man its about you feeling left out & that she got to do something that you didnt. Tell the truth here,you rushed into this thinking you could somehow"control" things,this lifestyle isnt about one person controling another persons actions & you found out the hard way,your going on about how you feel but what about the couple involved? are the aware that this is happening? You mentioned going to the club again to somehow "get even".God help the poor couple that gets stuck in the middle of all this just so you can feel better,you should stop now before somebody gets hurt. Im not trying to be a prick but my wife & I have been on the recieving end of a drama just like the one thats unfolding in your life & its scary as hell when your "the other couple",again you should get a grip before all this leads to violence.
  12. We always tell people who are new to this stuff to be prepared for everything & talk about ALL the what if's before hand,these type adult situations that we all seek are not 100% controlable & agreeing on a bunch of rules thinking we can somehow control every aspect of the evening is not going to happen. If jealousy is allready an issue your having about her being topless i'd say you should take another look at what you hope to gain from this & also stop to think about how you will feel if another rule was broken & something a bit more sexual were to happen.
  13. Here's my take on your situation,people put WAY TOO MUCH emphasis on rules & agreements & control instead of asking themselves what if? These situations that all of us put ourselves in are not 100% controlable,things happen in the heat of the moment that cant be planned for,what happened had nothing to do with your wife's love for you it was about the sex which was why both of you got into the situation to start with,its why all of us do what we do isnt it? I say you should learn from all of this & before you do anything else take a good look at the what if's?
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