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15 GoodAbout essexcouple
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- Birthday 05/23/1960
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Couple
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Essex, UK
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Swimming
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Swinging Experience
2+ years
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Interracial sex - do guys like watching BBC inside their wife?
essexcouple replied to a topic in Let's Talk About Sex
Have to be honest, we've never considered black guys as partners, its a personal choice, but it is never been a fantasy for either of us.- 44 replies
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In the UK it's generally known that wearing an anklet on your right ankle means the lady is "available". I've worn one a few times to be daring - and obviously loads of women wear them without realizing what some people might read into it!
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There's no need to deny that looks are part of attraction. If you don't find someone attractive then its a valid reason not to see them again!
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Do you ever feel guilty about swinging?
essexcouple replied to essexcouple's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Thanks for the really nice replies, its lovely to be able to chat freely here and discuss with like minded people. You have set my mind more at ease. Thank you xx -
DH and I have been swinging for a few years now, and I've always had moments where I feel really guilty about it. Firstly, its because we have kids. Sometimes I feel really bad that I'm somehow letter them down, or being a bad parent because DH and I have an open marriage and enjoy sex with other people. As my eldest is getting older I'm finding it hard to explain to her the rights and wrongs of modern life without thinking that (god forbid she knew) I'm not setting a good example. Secondly, I don't like telling lies to friends or family. When I ask my parents if they will look after the kids for a weekend because DH and I are going to see friends from school, or another romantic weekend away when in fact we are planning a very dirty weekend with another couple. Lastly, I see so many bad parents around where we live, broken families, kids out on the streets late at night, women who obviously have a string of guys coming to the house. But I have moments where I think am I actually any different? I have this cozy view of me and my family as the perfect rosy dream of life, but if my friends or relatives (who are really quite traditional) knew what we do, would they think any different of me? Wondered if others have moments where they question if its the right lifestyle choice for them, or if its just me having a mid life crisis :-)
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I prefer meeting couples our own age, DH being a typical guy always wants to make friends with the 20's couples because of the sexy pert womens bodies. To be honest, having the body of a 40yo woman who's had 3 kids, I don't really feel comfortable alongsite a perfectly formed 20 year old woman. DH likes the fantasy of a woman in her 20s, I think most men enjoy the thought that a younger girl finds them attractive and that they can still "pull". I've never understood why younger girls want to meet older men, I certainly didn't when I was younger!
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What is your swinging age difference limit?
essexcouple replied to foozballnow's topic in Swingers Talk
We have met a couple where the woman was in her 20s. It did feel strange to me seeing DH with her - although he loved it, still says its one of the most fun times he's had. Being a woman in my 40's I feel uncomfortable around a girl in her 20s because she made me feel more insecure about myself. Its a personal choice thing, we know couples younger and older, as long as people are happy and comfortable it doesn't really matter. Besides, I'd certainly not say no to a young man in his 20s!! -
DH has wanted to try it, but its not my thing. He's got most of his hand in there once or twice, and it really turns him on, but I feel like an animal having a vet stick their hand up me, it really doesn't turn me on at all! Not sure why it turns guys on so much, think its a control thing...
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Things not to do in a picture
essexcouple replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Finding People to Swing With
We made a mistake one of not checking "fun" pics properly and some kind couple pointed out to us that in a photo of my big bum in the air, you could see my kids school photo on the back of our bedroom wall... We took that one down pretty quick. You have to be so careful but really made my day when someone so nice told us. Check pics again and again before posting to make sure you're not giving anything away that you don't want to. -
Condom use - Oral vs. Penetration
essexcouple replied to JsWife's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
We usually use condoms for both these days, especially if we don't know the people well. With friends that we have known and met before and who we trust, we don't use them. You have to be careful.- 18 replies
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Sex - How often do you NEED it?
essexcouple replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
DH and I average sex about 3 or 4 times a week. I do miss it if we don't have it, it is sometimes just a quickie because it is not always easy to spend proper time with our busy lives. Nice to have an intimate time whether it lasts 50 seconds or 50 minutes! -
Depends what it was, but I've done things for DH that don't do much for me, and vice-versa. It's all about give and take. I love to please him sometimes, so its a turn on seeing him horny, without me having to climax or want to do something that much myself.
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