Gwendolyn

We made only one rule when we got into this. It had to be something we did together. I think going to different rooms defeats that. Besides I like watching him play with other women.

Looking at the results.... We are mostly deprived. Poor us.

A thumb ring? I hadn't heard that one and here I've been wearing a thumb ring for a couple of years:kissface: .....Maybe we should design a woman with long flowing hair swinging on a tire swing. Just a thought.

Oh trust me we have lots of fun. Just stating that it can be just as hard to find men that can deal with this as it is women. That jealousy thing seems to rear it's ugly head too often. It's so nice to find other people that also enjoy.....well other people;)

I am very surprised to be where my husband and I are. In all of the realatioships I have been in until now, the men I have been with would not have been able to handle it. I have let every person I have dated since I had my first experience with another woman know about it. They were into the thought, but too jealous to let it actually happen. I didn't get it. As I got older I figured out that most people confuse sex and love. They tie them up in the same knot. I now happily have a husband that thinks like I do. :evil: Sex is fun. If you can't have fun with it why do it?

Turn ons for women are so different than men. I think there are 2 things that are important when I look at a man. I want a man that knows how to dress. Nice clothes are good. And shoes. I'm a shoe freak. If your shoes look like you've worn them every day for the last year, a lot of women will notice. Oh yeah love the belt thing. I'm just thinking about what to do with it once I get it off.

My husband and I both worked for the same company in different cities. I went to San Francisco to take a class. He was my instructor. We are both network engineers. I only say this because he wasn't used to having some blonde haired blue eyed knockout (his words) walking into his class. I was staying at my sisters house which is about 30 miles from SF. Of course being the nice guy that he is, (yeah right he wanted to get laid) he offered to let me stay with him in the city. I took one look and thought "hmmm he looks like fun". I stayed with him and had the best sex I'd had up to that point in my life and decided I should keep him. 4 years later things are still wonderful.

My husband and I have had mixed experiences. The best places we have found are the ones that are controlled. Our favorite one was Lush in San Francisco. What crazy nights we have had there. However if you're looking for just something interesting to watch Power Exchange and Bondage a Go Go are always good for a side show.

I am new to this site, but not new to the lifestyle. I have a couple of things I have to put my 2 cents on. First of all this topic could go on forever. I don't know anyone in the lifestyle that hasn't had some kind of experience that was bad with single men. I feel for you guys I really do. I've maybe met 2 single guys in this in 3 years that didn't just give me the creeps. Second meeting people on the internet requires so much caution. When my husband and I meet new people we generally meet them for dinner or drinks first. If whoever we're meeting doesn't feel right to both of us, we call it a night. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS MEET PEOPLE IN PUBLIC. I've met some wonderful people in the lifestyle on the internet. Be safe so you can stick around to play.