Jaz Kansorka

1. Do you use the same email address to surf adult/swinger websites that you use for your family? NO way!!! We both use a vanilla ID for family and a swinger ID for our other life. 2. Do you post facial nude pictures on sites where they can be seen without any sort of joining process (ie. in your Yahoo Profile)? NO again..in fact on the SN and SLS sites, our face and nude pics are all in private galleries and we are very cautious about who gets access...people that are paying members, been on the site a while etc. 3. Would you post said facial nude pictures in combination with information stating that you swing someplace (like a Yahoo profile) where people can see it without any sort of joining process (free or otherwise). Nope... 4. Do you use your real names (as a username or as part of your email address) when dealing with people online in regards to adult activities? We do not use our real names in the lifestyle at all except when we initially joined our local club. The owner is the only one that knows what the real names are, even our last name is not real. No one in the lifestyle is given that information without very good reason, and the few that do know it still call us by our lifestyle names. More than once we've been out eating and over heard conversations at another table where people's names are mentioned, "Did you hear about Bridgett and Donald" and we knew a Bridgett and Donald and were able to figure out that it was indeed them being discussed. This way if lifestylers are out for dinner and start discussing Jon and Jasmine, only other lifestylers would know it was us. Certainly we've made a few mistakes. A co-worker over heard me talking to the club owner one day on the phone when I thought no one else was around but thankfully it is a discreet person. But we do try hard to keep our true identity hidden.

We got a hit on SLS from a childhood friend of mine. Opened the email, read it, sounded great then scrolled down the pic that was attached. Thought to myself, "OMG that is *Anna*" I emailed back that I wanted HER to look hard at my pics and be SURE they were interested. She didn't get who it was, I've changed a lot. So I gave her the intersection of the streets we lived on as kids. She about died! She gave me her phone number and begged me to call. We laughed for an hour about what were the chances and agreed that while playing was out of the question, the 4 of us HAD to do dinner just for kicks and to chat about how we all got to this point in our lives. It is a very very small world! jaz

Well sooner or later it was bound to happen...our children now know that their parents hang out with swingers at a swing club. They are not aware that we swing. We live by the motto "admit nothing, deny everything, immediately begin counter accusations". That came into play! It started a bit over a week ago. I'm a member (well was) of Jay Boy Productions myspace friend list because I think the clothes rock and Jay Boy is a friend and autographed my shirt at a public appearance. Well...my 16yo daughter is also on the list of buddies, since she too owns a Jay Boy Productions shirt. One night late when she could not sleep she was browsing the friends list on everyone and their brother she has on her buddy list. While going through the Jay Boy list she saw my profile picture. Ok that is the pic that is currently on my profile, the clear high heeled shoes, green ankle bow. The shoes had been confiscated from her as she only needed them one time, and she was with me when I purchased the bow for St. Patty's day. At the time there was no face pic in my other pics, just the pic of me in the white lingerie that is there now. She looked at the background and recognized my room. She emails me on this ID with, "ehem....those are MY shoes and OMG please say you did NOT wear that out in public!!" I'm busted and Jon is less than a happy camper. He tried to warn me...yada yada yada. We talked to her, she had no questions but we are certain a boat load of assumptions. Immediately she began going down a list of friends of ours and asking "are they swingers???" We explained that we like to hang out at a swinger's club, Club 440 at The Main Event, for the atmosphere, sexy fun etc, but that we do not sleep with the people there. Ok we don't...just our friends! And only a select few. (admit nothing, deny everything....) This all was well and good till her 22yo brother got wind of it. He and the fiance dropped by one night last week. I had told the fiance we were going to a theme party and dressing as pirates. She has this never ending collection of sexy clothes and brought me some stuff she no longer wears that would help complete my costume. While they are there and she is showing me these things in front of my son, and he starts into cop mode (of all professions he had to pick that one). SON: Exactly what are these ho clothes for? MOM: Dad and I are going to a theme party. SON: And this party is where? MOM: At a bar SON: what bar would that be? MOM: its on the east side of town you've never heard of it SON: WHAT bar is it? MOM: ok its more of a private club SON: the name of the club would be??? MOM: don't worry about it you've never heard of it. At this point he glances at his little sister who is ready to burst...that was all she needed, she busts out laughing rather hard at the corner I've been backed into, finding it highly amusing. SON: Well try me, what is the name of the club? (now giving me the cop stare) MOM: Club 440 at The Main Event SON: What? what the hell is that? MOM: (back to the wall) It is a swingers club SON: OMG!!!! With that he ran up to the kitchen and pulled out the potato chips and starts to chow. How cute, he is a comfort eater like his mommy! After a few chips he is looking at me, then shaking his head grinning...and blushing. Its tough to make him blush. His fiance is busy saying how cool that is and how it seems mom and dad are having way more fun that the son and fiance. Then she says she would like to check it out sometime. PANIC!!! I told them no, that is MY playground. They asked a lot of questions. Again we told them we go, dance, mom pole dances and lap dances for dad, we dress very sexy and flirt, tease etc but we do not play with all those people. (just a few select...Admit nothing, deny everything....) Later that night the fiance sends me a text that says the son is not half as wigged about it as he is jealous. SO...now the kids know where we hang out. We're fairly certain that they also are not stupid enough to believe we don't play...but they didn't ask and we aren't telling. The nice part is now I don't have to sneak around to pack up my club wear for the night, try to explain why I'm taking a cooler of beer to a "bar", and no longer have to make up stuff about where all these friends are coming from. What about you? Do your kids know? Hugs & Licks, Jaz

We try to make love when we go home from the club or an encounter. Assuming we are not too tired. Then the next morning we take our coffee to the hot tub for debriefing time. We talk about the experience, what we liked and enjoyed as well as what we did not care for or totally hated. Any jealousy that rose is dealt with by lots of reassurance the night before when making love as well as during debriefing. For a few days we go out of our way to be more touchy/feely/flirty with each other, making sure we both feel the love between us. This seems to work very well for us to maintain our focus that we are the couple, they that we played with were the icing on an already outstanding cake. There is no way to always know how you will feel afterward so we keep in mind that its water under the bridge, learn from the experience for the next time. Jaz

After having had a hysterectomy...size does indeed matter. Over 7 inches and it gets uncomfy for me. Being one that is more easily stimulated and pleased by a master at oral sex, as long as it is not huge, I don't care how big the man's penis is at all.

Because we live a D/s lifestyle 24x7 and often were found on BDSM forums we used an alias for both of us. We just kept those names when we moved into the swing lifestyle so that our kids, friends, neighbors, family, wouldn't make the connection if someone were talking about us, as one of our first names is rather unique. All lifestyle friends call us by the lifestyle names and to be consistent I used it for my screen name.