First I want to say thanks to everyone with advice. I do think deep down, I felt the same way about waiting. I think we are a long way from swinging at this point for the fact that we are very conservative, shy, etc. One of the other reasons that I want to swing is that sex is good when we try new things, the more daring, the more thrill. Swinging sounds like the ultimate thrill and for how shy we are... well you get the idea. However, I have pictured ourselves after the first time and I get an uneasy tension in my stomach. I can't decide if it is nerves, excitement, or a sick feeling like I shouldn't be doing (even thinking) this. Any ideas?
Something I did not mention previously is that I have seen a doctor for my ED and have been prescribed Cialis for this. I guess I don't mean to change the topic, but I have found that the Cialis is quite expensive (even with insurance coverage). I tried an herb (I think it is an herb) called Yohimbe which works OK. Does anyone have any other Non-Prescription solutions? I just don't want the herb that I am using now to stop working through overuse.