SnittyKitty

Big Rack! I like that! Never heard it put like that before. The rest of your comments...right on! What I enjoy, is simply ask the gal what she likes! I know there is this mentality of sex like moose in rut! But two weeks ago, I got a request for slow, soft, tender...what I affectionately call crock pot style...slow & simmer. It works...this little thing call communicating.

Hi David & Maggie - We live 120 miles to your southeast. That is about the extent of how far we'll travel. Because where we live, we don't have the luxury of a 60 mile radius. We're down near Columbus & Phenix City, and it's really hard to find couples here. We're lucky that we have some friends who swing that live spitting distance from us; under 30 miles, but their it! All other couples we have correspondent with are outside the 60 mile circle, including you & David, who I chat with from time to time. We don't expect couples to meet us, but two have thus far and as far as 120 miles away. It was a good night! I also think it's about the character of the couple. If we tell you we're going to be there, unless there's some sort of emergency, were there. We don't go unless I have spoken to you by phone before we walk out the door. I give folks my cell number if something happens that neccessitates a change of plans. If their a dud, I just restrict their number! Where I have family, or we visit regularly, we do include those cities in searching for couples, as far away as 300 miles, but only when we have other things to do other than meet them. I get frustrated with couples who can't keep a schedule. I don't mean emergencies or a change in plan, but couples that just don't give a damn. For some of us in Bible Belt USA, I'd kill to have the luxury of a 60 mile circle. And at the same time, I wouldn't have had the opportunity to chat and email your husband, who I think is a pretty funny individual.

Let me tell you what's fun: To talk about the lifestyle in such a way, you're telling the truth, but nobody believes for a second the stories they think you're making up! We've become really good friends with one couple, and we can talk about anything with them, and I love that aspect of this, but wow, what an adjustment you have to make when you're socializing with your everyday friends. We'd kill to tell her sister & her husband what we do, just to witness the shock, that priceless look on their face. They have told us a zillion times, we don't fit the swinging lifestyle, and it isn't us! And oh how many times can we tell those stories about couples who swear up and down we're a pair of old prudes!

Your measurements are identical to mind, and my wife could fit a horse!!! It is extremely important that you understand that you're going to meet some stud monster out there. If that didn't cross your mind, you're in the wrong hobby. Every couple is different. My wife likes the thick stubby variety, not that she doesn't mind an occasional "horse". Oral sex rules in this household. If you can't do that, then you have something to worry about. I can't speak as to why you're swinging. I do know it's about being comfortable with being who and what you are, including your gifts and shortcomings. And did it ever dawn on you some gals like you just the way you are! Size isn't everything. Unless you do porn for a living! Then all of us would need 8 inches. It isn't about a number. It's about what's in your mind! Unless it's danc694u. He's certified nuts!

Liza: What you ask are very difficult questions; but I would be lying if I told you I could turn a blinds eye to the other woman's right to exclude me from any decision she makes. No man who had a sense of ethics or responsibility could! Personally, my answer to you would be yes, I would want to be included in the decision. Personally, an abortion is not an option. That said, I would not deny my wife or another woman's the right to choose. If the "fetus" is not my child, I would never tread on a woman's right to choose; however, if it were my child. I have the right to make that decision too! You cannot "Monday morning quarterback" this kind of decision! Nor can you totally exclude the other person in such a decision! We can debate the moral implications until hell freezes over; we all can! To deny the other person; their right is ethically wrong. None of us go out with the intent to do something stupid or to be intentionally invictive, but accidents do and will happen. And rules sometimes do and will get bent. I have enough faith in "me" that I wouldn't ever have to be put in a position to make such a decision. I think many of us do, but there are those out there that don't give a rat's ass who they stick their dick into and women that don't care either. We ALL have a responsibility in this lifestyle. Not just women, but men too! We don't live in a perfect world, nor is everybody in the lifestyle perfect. Liza, in principle, I would agree with you. My mind tells me that you're absolutely right; my soul and my heart tell me, I would want to be involved in the decision. There is no right and no wrong. It is a human decision.

David, there is no difference between oral and anal. And there should be no difference between men & woman, bi-man & bi-women. It's only different because you have issues with it. Personally, I like the idea of having my hindparts fucked, if it'a woman doing it! This message board, the people who posts their messages, are the very people the 1st Amendment protects. And yet, you choose to deny those ideas because this time it offends your morality? Reminds me of prayer in public school. We fight and scratch like hell for Christians to have prayer in the school, and once won, the Christians turn around and deny other denominations their right to the same! The perfect little circle! We have met the enemy and they are us!

Maybe it's me, but the "deal with it" philosophy doesn't cut it for me on this. There are ramifications small & large that cannot be taken lightly. Unless there are some extraordinary circumstances like being unable to have a child and this is the way for a couple to have a child with the consent of the other couple is just plain short of stupidity. An abortion? There's a solution! A guy's solution. I'm not going to debate the moral implications of the subject here. I have to believe an abortion isn't an option for many couples here on the boards. I read this thread and I'm dumbfounded by the comments. What couple wouldn't weigh the possibility. My wife cannot have a child, but I am; my sperm are still viable. I'm not prepared to have a vascetomy...my choice, but with my choice, I have the responsibility to do everything possible to ensure an accident doesn't occur. If I don't, this is not the hobby I need to flirt with. That's common sense! Now, unless you want to get pregnant, the choice is obvious. What person would NOT air on the side of caution? As for Jem's original scenario; I have to also believe despite every effort to take precautions, sometimes accidents happen. They do! But nobody here is going to sell me on the idea you have your plan in place as to what you're going to do if it does! Whether it's the "mother" or the "father", both must be in on the decision. To deny one or the other, goes against the very ideas of which why all of us do what we do. To deny is no different than cheating or adultery. You deny choice!

There another word for it and it isn't a nice word: Double-Standard Society, how men & women are raised (visit Nancy Friday's website), the entertainment industry... there is no getting around the idea if your a man... a single male at a swing club, viewing a man's penis on television, two men fucking each other...face it, we all have hangups about it. And it's wrong! Period! That said, I'm as biased as all of you! Guilty as charged! I would love a dick up my ass. If my wife's finger and tongue feels that good, how about the real thing. And at the same time, to look at my own dick, just turns me off, let alone another man's dick. It speaks to the very way men and women are raised, not by just our parents, but society in and of itself. The playing field should be level, but what one of us has the courage to rise above of our own prejudices and do what's right? Not me!

Hi folks! (Many of you knew us as SierraDenali...chose to go with one screen name for both of us) As you know, we're still new and learning and getting to know folks in our area. We're taking it slow. I do have one question…about trading photos: What is the general consensus or does it matter…sending a regular everyday photo or shielding your faces while nude? It seems safe until you get to the photo stage, and we are a bit uncomfortable with it, but at the same time we don’t want to appear as if we’re being rude…any advice?