Advice please..
We have been married for 10 years and,over the years the topic of swinging has arisen many times more so lately. We communicate very well and are very open and honest. My wife had very little in the way of sexual experience when we married. And I have developed a fantasy to see her with another man. So I figure lets kill 2 birds with one stone and suggest we let her experience the feel of another man and I get to live out my fantasy with maybe the option of joining in if she wants.
She admits to wanting to experience another man but the only way she will move forward is to not have me there at all and the moment be private to her and whoever...
I don't feel comfortable with this and this is not an option for me as I figure it is "our" sex life we are expanding and this is not sharing the experience..??
and figure this is a "win win" situation
Am I being too possessive? Or is this just a no win situation we should walk away from.?
From the wife -
I have only ever had my husband and would like to know I am not missing out on anything. Unfortunately the idea of my husband sitting in the corner watching me have sex with someone else does not appeal. He however is not comfortable with me fixing this experience problem on my own. I think we are at an impasse. I think my husband wanting to watch is an example of him trying to control my sex life and I consider my sex life, my own - not ours.
