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About BorisNatasha

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Denver, CO
  • Interests
    Bikes, SCUBA, Swinging, FUN!
  • Swinging Experience
    Almost 2 years

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  • Favorite Club(s)
    Scarlet Ranch

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  1. Once I had a new playmate ride me so hard that I walked with a bit of a limp for a few days, and sex with Natasha was out of the question for close to a week. During that session I felt a bit like Tom Cruise at the beginning of Jerry Maguire. That woman could win a rodeo I tell you. Boris
  2. I agree with gator. I wouldn't call it a failure. 20 years is a damn long time. The only reason any of us utter the words "till death to us part" is we know there's an expiration date on that promise. No two or three people could stay together indefinitely. I intend to last the rest of my life with Natasha.... but if we lived to be 300 it might be a different story. I once read a great science fiction story with a premise like that... lovers who had been married for centuries and had grown apart, only to fall in love all over again after so long. But it drove home the point that we simply aren't built for an eternal relationship. The circumstances are regrettable, but it sounds like they were mostly beyond your control. People grow apart. The next couple of years will be painful as you adjust, but you will, and life will go on, and you will find someone else to love and to love you. Treasure what you had but look to the future. It is the way things work. Good luck. PS I in no way mean to dismiss your pain, or say that it's irrelevant in any way. Having been through breakups and even a divorce, I know how much it sucks the life out of you. But truer words have never been spoken than "This too shall pass".
  3. I would say Natasha is 99.5% straight. She will occasionally nibble on a nipple or rub/massage another lady while myself and her husband are paying attention to that lady, but that's about the extent of it. Anything she does to another woman is purely for the men's benefit, and she doesn't do anything you might see as run-of-the-mill for a bisexual female (such as oral, petting, or kissing with a woman). Boris
  4. We used to play with a couple that had an open marriage. She had many boyfriends, and all those guys were in the position you're in. So it does happen. I imagine it's like the proverbial needle and haystack in terms of odds though. Would never work for us but the great thing about life is you get to live, for the most part, by your own rules. Boris
  5. One more good reason to live at least 1000 miles from any immediate relatives. Yes that includes kids. When ours hits 18 we're skipping town!
  6. That makes more sense. But your statement that "Just popping the pills alone won't do the trick-- Viagra/Cialis are the same way" really isn't correct in my experience. The pharma products do cause a physiological response which is pretty impossible to ignore. And that's the last I'll say about it because I'm starting to sound like I work for Pfizer. Just trying to help by giving you advice that helped me. Boris
  7. I find it humorous that you are OK with taking an herb that keeps you up all night and makes your heart race (that's a bad sign by the way), but not OK with an FDA approved drug whose worst side effect most people ever experience is getting a little congested for about an hour. You admit that what you are doing isn't working. The definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.
  8. Yeah you just need to find what works for you. You're going to get all kinds of answers here, because for some people separate rooms works and for some it doesn't. The question is, do you think you'd enjoy the 4-way experience if you weren't having the performance issues? Do you think it's anxiety related? I hate to sound like a pusher but if that's all it is, go to the doc and get some magic blue pills. Problem solved. After a few sessions with those confidence builders you won't even need them anymore. Been there, done that, it really is that easy. If it's not related to the performance thing and you are just uncomfortable with your wife (or the other woman's husband) watching you have sex with someone else, then that's another issue to tackle altogether.
  9. You will never be able to "make it up to him". He is using that as an excuse to rationalize his behavior. If he was going to forgive you he would, and it would be done with. He's using leverage against you to get what he wants. That's not love.
  10. We had a rocky start, too. Since we started our journey in this lifestyle, the most important thing Natasha and I ever did was give ourselves permission to forgive ourselves and each other for the inevitable mistakes that will be made. It has been smooth sailing since then, and I don't just mean in the lifestyle. Boris
  11. Well I'm here to tell you that you can have a fantastic time in the lifestyle even when you are up front and honest about having HSV2. Natasha and I both had it long before we entered this lifestyle. We are totally out of the closet about our status, and we still meet fun, interesting, sexy people frequently... and then have sex with them. We put it front and center on our profiles on internet sites, and we have people CONSTANTLY contacting us saying "we have it but we don't put it on our profile" or words to that effect. Folks, if you are in this lifestyle you are getting exposed to it, it's that simple. There are "ethically-challenged" people everywhere that won't bat an eyelash while they lie to you about not being infected. The fun part is that 9 out of 10 people that have it, don't know they have it! They didn't lie to you, because they didn't know - but you've still been exposed. Oh and guess what - condoms won't protect you if they are shedding virus infected skin cells from somewhere other than their genitals. But at least the person who KNOWS they have it and knows the signs knows when it is relatively safe to play. Food for thought. Hswing.com is a great site for swingers with herpes, and it's grown a lot in the last few years. Highly recommended. We've met some great people through that site. What's funny is that we've met FAR MORE people through SLS, and very few of them put the info out there in the public domain. We are upfront about the whole thing, but many are not because of the stigma. The only people we won't have contact with are the ones who state "disease free" in their profile. Omission on an internet profile is excusable, outright lying is not. For those of you posting in the thread that have it - cheer up, there are plenty of potential playmates out there. Does it cut down on your "candidate pool"? Surely. Does it mean the end of the lifestyle? Surely not. Boris
  12. The Lemon Song - Led Zeppelin Don't Know Why - Norah Jones For plain old "I like to have sex to this music" music, I can always go back to Enigma. My marriage to Natasha was consummated to the echoes of their album A posteriori. Boris
  13. Does it require some prep? Yes. Worth it? Hell yes. Natasha has mind blowing, body quaking, I'm-leaving-the-planet-for-a-while-see-you-later orgasms from anal. It's not something we do often, but when she is in the mood for it her orgasms measure on the Richter scale. I've never seen anything like it. I'm not sure what blows my mind more, the fact that she has these amazing orgasms just from anal, or the fact that she doesn't want them MORE OFTEN. Boris
  14. Funny, my doc told me Levitra was the one with the least severe side effects. I cut them in half and they work great for a night of partying. I sometimes get a hint of a stuffy nose but that's about it. The drug totally alleviates the performance anxiety component of playing with a new couple (with alcohol usually in the mix too), which is why I got them. When it's time, everything just works, no matter how much you've had to drink or how tired you are. Truly a miracle drug. I haven't tried the other 2 so I don't have any basis of comparison, but I'm happy with what I got. At $17 a pill it's not something you're going to pop every night with the wife but $8.50 to make sure a night with new friends goes smoothly is money well spent. Oh and if you're a young guy like me (34) don't be afraid to go to the doc. Make up whatever story you like. I told them I work 90 hours a week (more like 30 ha!) and the wife is wanting more than my fatigued body could manage, whatever, they've heard it all before. They'll do a blood test to make sure you don't have a condition that would preclude you from taking the drug, and then you're happily sent on your way, in my case with some free samples. That was a fun weekend let me tell you. I may be headed for the kidney/liver transplant line but goddammit I'm going to have a lot of fun getting there. I won't need those things when I'm dead anyway. Boris
  15. Lack of patience. We have friends who had the male half of a couple they were going to hook up with suddenly blurt out "so are we gonna fuck or what" just as the conversation was getting interesting. Oops, suddenly the answer has changed to "no". I like a slow simmer. It makes the meal more delicious. Natasha on the other hand likes to get right to it once the formalities are out of the way, LOL, but we seem to find a happy medium B
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