realharddriver

Thank you Julie for the question - when I mention group sex it includes most everyone having sex together and of course swapping partners is a 'natural but not expected part' and a consequence of that experience - it can be 2 on 1, 3 on one... or any other possible combination there of - all done in the context of a group - the effort is to keep everyone engaged so no one is left out unless they feel like taking a break:)

Thank you Bonnie and everyone for your input – “we’re not alone!” I keep getting responses like “it’s different” which is not reason enough for me but sounds like a cover for my significant other doesn’t really do everything for me I need, or something else… I have not received one legitimate reason for swapping partners although I can name a few I would consider legitimate – like ‘this woman is so hot for me I have to fuck her’ in which case I probably would but this is outside the norm so I don’t understand the automatic swapping thing AT ALL! There is no one who can do what my wife does for me – it’s been a development for 23 years. If you want to join me while I fuck my wife I’ll invite you and you will have a great time no doubt! Dear 4SUM “I think you need to be more specific with the couples you're going to play with, before thing get to the taking off the clothes stage.” You are so right – this has already been done! We are new to this and have made some mistakes along the way. We’ll try to minimize these with your suggestions from now on.

My wife and I started getting acquainted with this lifestyle about 4 months ago after some long-term friends suggested this. We come from a BDSM background and have been involved with this a little over 5 years. We were somewhat used to getting together with one or two other couples and having what we considered ‘group sex’. Here is my concern; we’ve met with 4 new couples from a swing site and each time they automatically want to swap partners – not group sex but a swap! For the life of me I don’t truly understand swapping for the sake of swapping. I mean, there is no way some other woman is going to do for me what my wife can’t do so much better – and believe me we share much I would never consider sharing with another – we’re pretty fucking kinky and the swing community I’ve experienced and have had hundreds of conversations with on-line would in most cases not understand us. Some would suggest it’s just something ‘different’ but what is different for its own sake? Or change for its own sake? Unless there is some other reason to qualify these items I can’t understand it. I can reason boredom, dissatisfaction, the taboo, attraction, but not swapping partners just because that’s what your used to doing or because that’s what most people do. What’s so wrong with group sex that so many people have a problem with? Now that’s something really different – not just fucking some other mans wife or other woman’s husband; too boring to me. I ask myself why would I want to swap my wife for another’s? She would have to be pretty fucking hot, at least as hot as my own wife or hotter in which case my wife would not want to know this. This swap thing – why do so many people in the community do this automatically? What’s wrong with having group sex?