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evulkitty

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About evulkitty

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  • Birthday October 24

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Michigan
  • Interests
    People have time for hobbies??!!
  • Occupation
    Self employed/Web Design
  • Swinging Experience
    approx 5 years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    evulkitty
  1. hmmmm, no "everywhere else in the USA" would be highly incorrect. Calling it "pop" anywhere south of Pennsylvania is gonna get you looked at funny. (born in upstate New York, 25 years of my life in North Carolina)
  2. Ok, I picked masturbation because the question was the EASIEST way to reach orgasm, not the BEST OR PREFERRED way to reach orgasm . . . Yeah, I'm grammatically picky like that . . . sue me . . . lol
  3. My wife, being from Michigan, refers to it as 'pop', I, being from anywhere BUT Michigan, refer to it in the general sense as 'soda', but when ordering it or putting it on a grocery list or whatever, I refer to it by the name of the particular beverage that I want (ie: Mountain Dew, Dr. Pepper, etc) Eeeevul (Just kinda popped up out of the woodwork there after not being around for a couple months, didn't I?)
  4. Ok, so the title is a bit strong, but I'm pretty sure it got your attention. Before I get any further, this is not an ad to come and fuck my wife (well, not much). Reading through other posts, I know I am not the only guy in here who thinks it is hot to watch his wife get fucked by another guy. I see posts going back and forth about "Hey, I'm a single guy and we don't catch a break" kinda thing. Now, we kind of lean towards other couples ourselves, just cause it is the "safe" way to go about things. Can you guys (and girls) give us some input on some POSITIVE experiences you have had with single men? and just for curiosity sake, have any of you ladies ever let your man go be with another couple to help them fulfill a fantasy? I have this recurring dream to eat my wife WHILE she is getting fucked. Anyone done it? and how was it? I claim largely straight, but a little bi action for me here and there doesn't hurt my feelings. Was just wondering what your thoughts were?
  5. It would seem that all this is much ado about nothing. Masturbating is fun, plain and simple. Me and a buddy used to watch porn movies together as teens and jerk off in the same room. Later on in life, this same buddy has joined me and Kitty for MFM. There has never been any sexual contact between the two of us however. From my point of view, like I said, masturbation is fun. Why do you get together with the guys and watch football? Play pool? Go to the races? Gang bang your wife? Well, because they are all fun. So, why not? Hell, I spend too much time at home by myself, and yes, I do jerk off sometimes. Might be nice to have some damn company!! No, I'm not gay. There are bi tendencies at times, but few and far between. You can call me what you want, I've long ago gotten over the names people can call me, but hey guys, come on over!! Let's spank one out, grab a few beers and shoot some hoops! Do it 'cause it feels good and hurts nobody. Do it often. Do it with friends. Do it alone. Just do it. *Disclaimer - the phrase "Just do it" as stated above, and the individual who wrote it have no connection with the Nike brand shoe. (God knows, we don't want Nike suing me for connecting them with group masturbation)
  6. My first marriage lasted 4 years . . . .we were NOT in the lifestyle (Well, at least I wasn't, I didn't know SHE was ) Kitty and I have been together almost 9 years, and we are in the lifestyle . . . .and we're still very happy! I hope that says something!
  7. I'll just say this, my first marriage was a swinger relationship too . . . only somebody forgot to tell me and invite me. Glad that while I was out serving my country . . . she was at home SERVICING it. Kitty has helped to make my life SO much better!
  8. I'd have to say THE most exciting part for me in a MFM is to see my wife getting fucked by the other guy. It is all about HER and I enjoy seeing her have orgasm after orgasm. I have met guys who "want to be the ONLY one who gives their girl an orgasm", but I don't feel that way about it at all. As far as a woman's orgasm goes, I think its all about letting go and just enjoying yourself anyway. My wife says I am the first guy that ever brought her to orgasm, and I was not, by any means, her first fuck . . . but since then, I have watched her have orgasms with other men and other women. I think once that "barrier" had been broken and she realized what she liked, it was just much easier to make happen. As for contact between the males, it doesn't bother me in the least. I am what can be best described as "moodily bi curious". I have had oral sex with another man both with just another guy and in the MFM situation, and I don't see anything wrong with it and even enjoy it, however on swinger sites and ads I almost always post my preference as "straight". If that is what the other participants want out of the situation, I am more than happy to keep it "straight" between the males, mainly because I've got to be pretty DAMNED comfortable before I'll go there with another guy, and there aren't many of those that happens with. We have had a MMFM before and that was also a lot of fun. There was no sex between any of the males, but DAMN did she get the night of her life. Anal sex isn't something she has ever done before me, and its something we have worked up to slowly and carefully, and (at least for now) I am the only one allowed in her ass, but I've got to tell you, she gets her STRONGEST orgasms from anal sex, and when she is having an orgasm when I am in her ass, while her pussy is also being stretched by another cock . . . all I can say is OMFG for all of us! I say, have MFM . . . .have them often! Getting a little weirded out because you touched balls with the other guy is nothing to get weirded out about, and quite frankly, barely noticable when your girls ass is milking your cock for all its worth! (We like to take pictures too, when all argreeable, but lemme just tell ya the gymnastics involved to set the timer on the camera and get back into position in a MMFM situation! Lets just say its best done, pictures or not, with people you can laugh with!)
  9. I know, after that longwinded response, you don't want to hear from me again . . . lol Just wanted to add since I had kind of skipped over the issue of the attention he gives you when you're alone . . . When we do take the time do step back and evaluate ourselves, we try to find things to do with each other that are somewhat new or different or something we don't get to do very often, just to keep the spark between the TWO of us shining. One of our favorite things to do is to break out the digital camera or the camcorder and just see how damn nasty we can be. She'll even dress up all slutty or something equally enticing and we'll "perform" for the camera. Even alone with just the two of us, a camera lens can be a bit intimidating, but thats nothing a couple shots of Tequila couldn't cure in the past! Even if nobody ever sees the pics but the two of us (and its looking more and more like thats the way its going to stay, isn't it Mr. government? soapbox ) it still excites us and keeps things rolling along for the two of us. I hope I've helped and not bored you silly . . .
  10. J and I have had our issues with jealousy within our swinging lives as well. I think even the most devoted of swingers who standby the phrase "jealousy has no place in swinging" will have to admit to having felt it at one time or another. It is a human emotion and not something to be turned on and off like a switch. The great thing about feelings is that it is one of those few and very rare things that nobody can take away from you and the government (no matter how hard they try, lol) can't regulate. Simply put, whatever anyone is feeling has no other option but to be acceptable and the key to dealing with those feelings with another person is the open and honest communication about those feelings. In dealing with the jealousy issues between ourselves, we have found it best to step away from the scene for a while and just focus on ourselves. Eventually we find that we can smooth things out, and the instances where we need to do this become fewer and farther between. I think we do both enjoy swinging and see it as something that has enhanced our own relationship even when we are alone together. I will never claim that we have the best communication skills in the world, but it does seem to be a process that we continue to learn from. Whats funny to me is that we so often hear guys say things like "women are moody" and "gotta ask her at the right time of the month", but guys, have you ever tried to keep track of your own moods? I really gotta say I feel for the ladies on that one! Getting our moods to coincide is AT BEST, challenging. "We need to talk" or "Let's talk about this" brings on about the same feelings in a guy as "you need a root canal". For the jealousy issues you have, the safest thing for your marriage in my opinion IS to back away from swinging for awhile and investigate where those issues are coming from. I've often found that sometimes the feelings originate from places that have nothing to do with sex or swinging whatsoever! Outside stresses from work or family related places. In still other cases, it really ends up being the other person or persons involved in the situation and belongs to neither one of us. Finally sometimes we do have to say "Well, it is just me" and then pursue the issue appropriately. In Mr. Hawk's defense, I myself have been guilty of pouring more affection and attention on the other female. I love my wife no less and have no intention of leaving her out or behind, but it is my feeling that with someone new, we do have to try to impress as much as we can in order to show that we would like to maintain a swinging relationship in the future. Swinging is, after all, high intensity dating. Think about it . . . when you went on a date way back in high school . . .all you had to impress was your date! In swinging you have to impress your dates husband too . . . lol. You would like to know that the people you've been with will go home that night (or the next morning . . . or MONDAY ) and say to each other, "I really like them", or "He was really good and good to me, I hope you enjoyed them enough we could go back again". So yes, my attentions have been unevenly balanced on the other person. I'm not here to say that is right or wrong, but to portray my feelings about it. In YOUR defense, you should never be made to feel uncomfortable in any swinging situation. This is why swingers clubs and parties have rules that MUST be followed. You are absolutely right to want to take the time off and work things out. You were also absolutely right to seek out advice from a wide variety of people who can all share their individual experiences and thoughts so you can take everything we've said into consideration and draw the conclusion that works the best for you. I personally am glad as hell to have found this forum! I wish you the best of luck and hope to hear that things have worked out for you.
  11. . . . .and now I just read where explicit photos will be taken off of SLS . . . isn't my timing just great.
  12. Funny, but I had filled out the form to join SLS last night, and had received my "profile approval" e mail before I had even gotten a reply to this post . . . lol Oh well, for anyone in Michigan . . . we got the same name over there, guess we'll see how it works. I've already used up my 15 profile views for the day, so I'm just kinda rapping my fingers on the desk now. Only bad thing about working from home, is that nobody else seems to . . . makes "regular work hours" kinda lonely, ya know? But hey, had a GREAT time with the new digicam last night so I'm ready for anyone who writes us over there
  13. In addition to not having a lot of time for our swinging desires, we find it difficult to find places to go to find other swingers. Its not that clubs and websites aren't available, its just that we can't always afford them. We're not rich folks at all, and we appreciate the fact that most of the people we have met do not judge us based on financial status. We're not dirty or ignorant or unattractive . . .we just don't have a lot of money . . .(and I don't mean to imply that poor people in general are dirty, ignorant and unattractive, so let me clear that up before that gets taken the wrong way). We've been members at Swappernet and a couple of others and very much enjoyed being members, but sometimes when the membership runs out, we can't afford to renew it (like now, for example), and it seems that most of these sites render themselves basically useless when downgraded to "free status". You can't view pics or complete profiles, you can't send e mails or receive them in some cases. It's quite often maddening because you might see an individual or couple that you think might be compatible, but you can't contact them. We're not useless members of society . . .we have jobs, a home, kids who go to school, food on the table . . .we're just "breaking even" I suppose is the way to put it. How many couples or single people have missed out on meeting and having fun with a really great couple (Yes, that would be us . . .lol) because we couldn't afford to renew our membership at that time? Where can we go that is free and discreet . . . or at least cheaper . . . that has any kind of large membership? We have a membership to one that gave me a "free month" . . . .then when it expired and I had not renewed it gave me "3 more months to help me decide" . . .I think I'm just gonna keep on going to see how long they keep "helping me decide", but the problem with them is that they have a small membership and it seems to be localized in another area of the country far from us. We LOVED Swappernet, and our profile still floats around over there, we just can't do much with it since our membership expired. Anyone have any suggestions for us? Poor people wanna have fun too!! lol
  14. I talked the wife into shaving waaaaaaay back when, and had only considered it before that . . . had to shave for a vasectomy . . .so I shaved clean . . . and been that way ever since . . . 7 years now . . . oooooooooooooooonly way to go, I think. EVERY nerve ending available!! If you haven't done it, guys . . . DO IT NOW!!
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