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Because this was the only way to do so totally anonymously and I had read some other posts and everyone seemed to be genuinely concerned about issues and I knew I would get advice/admonished etc and not get the usual internet... replies, about the sex side of it. I know it was bad that you are all correct about. I'm not looking to get out of anything. I was looking for some thoughts on how to best handle a situation I created by my own terrible acts and go forward. I do thank those of you who took time to write and voice your opinions and I understand that what I did was horribly wrong.

Again I want to thank everyone for their opinions.

You are right, I failed her. I don't think he is a swinger and as far as I know, he has no idea we have. He's just a horny selfish guy who saw an opening and went for it. He had hit on her several times before and she wanted no part. Wendy is a very attractive, fit gal who is more than young enough to be his daughter, not that age really matters. But he did look to me for an ok and I gave it to him. I'm trying to figure out why I did. I know it was wrong on every level, and I regret it. but in that moment I got lost in, I was almost glad this fat old guy got to see her chest. I know, that is awful! What is scary is thinking about if I would have let it go farther ... but yes, I need to tell her and before tomorrow when she goes to work.

Yes it was a very weird situation and I realize I handled it horribly. But thanks for your wishes of good luck and for your two cents on the issue. I'm pretty sure she doesn't have any idea it happened.

My wife, Wendy and I have experimented in swinging in the past by inviting a friend to join us in bed on several occasions. This Saturday Wendy and I were at a pool opening party and she had a bit too much to drink and too much sun. We were at her boss' house and he directed us to a room where I could lay Wendy down for a bit. He had hit on Wendy in the past but wasn't a total jerk or anything, he was nice enough to help me get her in bed, but I noticed he was also taking this chance to feel her. Wendy was nearly asleep/out and I should have just said "Ok, I can take it from here". I don't know what came over me but when he put his fingers at at the hook/clasp of her bikini top between her breasts and looked at me, I just nodded and he looked back to her for a sign of her noticing. Her eyes were closed and I just kind of stood there as he slowly undid it and very gently pulled her top apart and to the side so she was topless. He felt each breast gently and then softly kissed each nipple. Then he stopped and said thanks, you have no idea how long I've wanted to see and touch your wife's breasts. Then he left. I'm not sure what to tell Wendy or what I should do. I feel I let her down, which I know I did, but I'm not sure what step to take now?