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Bluebirds in San Jose

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About Bluebirds in San Jose

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  • Birthday 11/08/1968

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    San Jose, CA

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  • SLS Name
    sjbluebirds
  1. Um.... We've always used 'Bluebirds' .... when one of us was single, that was her e-mail address.... it sort of stuck. The SJ part is because we're in San Jose.
  2. Non Swingers..... might be called "Muggles". Or not. "Straight" seems to work, though. As far as being 'not-straight'..... We've always said 'Bent'. We've also used 'Kinked'.
  3. Don't just assume that there isn't any attraction.... The thought's passed through the minds of the men involved. They won't admit it, of course, but.... ... they're MEN! for crying out loud!
  4. Same-room sex has happened with siblings... actually, it was same-tent sex on a camping trip. It was dark, so, no, I never *saw* my wife's sister and her husband .... but we certainly heard them, and they heard us. The occasional bumping knee or shoulder was the contact we had, though. We all had one of the best weekends out camping -- EVER. It was more emotionally satisfying than anything else; we all thought it brought the four of us closer than ever before.
  5. Hey, I need to change our vote! Can someone use their awesome superpowers and change our vote from "other" to the WestCoast/California one? We voted "other" when the better choice wasn't available. See what happens when you change the rules in the middle of the game?!!!?? -J
  6. Hmmm. General "United States -- West" doesn't seem to be an option. California doesn't seem to have an option, other than 'Other'. Grumble grumble. Maybe we *should* secede.... -J, of the SJBluebirds
  7. Well, it's the male half who posts most often for us, since I telecommute, and I can see them during the workday. In the evenings, it's both of us.
  8. This is interesting. Of the limited number of responses in this thread, of the people who have professed a belief one way or the other, those that have named a religion they belong to are generic Christian, or specifically Catholic. Does someone know how to start a poll along the lines of "If (and only if) you belong to an organized religion, which best describes it:" And then list a number of religions. My hunch (and it's only a hunch/gut feeling at this point) that the majority of 'swingers' who claim to be Christian are specifically Catholic. In my own experience, I'd say from 70-80 percent of the couples we've played with have been, or were once, Catholic. I have my own suspicions *why* this may be, and it has nothing to do with repressive sexuality or abusive clergy. (Akin to the easier/more prevalent acceptance of sensuality within prayer than other Christian faiths... Dont' get me started on this.... ) Anyone want to develop (or know how) to post a poll like this? -J of the SJBluebirds:)
  9. I checked out the Liberated Christians a few years ago. They're a little too ... how do I say this without offending them? ... a little too 'mainstream protestant'. We Catholics like to think we're the only 'real' Christians out there -J, of the SJBluebirds
  10. OK; Who here believes for a minute that I am a regular married church-going Christian who both attends weekly church services *and* occasionally plays in the bedroom with friends? Let's see a show of hands! OK, I thought so; no one believes me. Nevertheless, it's true. I'm a practicing Roman Catholic, and I'm active in many parts of my parish, including acting as a former parish council member, Lector, and currently active in the Social Justice group. My kids are enrolled in the CCD classes ('religious education'), there, too. Why do we 'swing'? The answer to that is different for each couple, so I won't go into that, here; it's not the question I'm answering. Why do we *not* have a problem with swinging vis-a-vis 'religion'? Because we feel it's not "Adultery". It's not a matter of being 'unfaithful' to our spouse; it's not 'cheating'. The commitment is to each other in this (or any other valid) marriage. The promise is to work together to build a life for us and our children. We have friendships, true, with other couples, and we can express those friendships through some very intimate means; but we're not building a life with them. We're not part of their families, nor are they part of ours. It's a matter of focus and commitment. Of course, this is just a gloss of our thoughts and reasons. Entire books could be - and probably have been - written about this. We simply don't see a contradiction between playtime and faith. - J, of the SJBluebirds
  11. Granted, we're coming to this thread kinda late... We're getting throroughly frustrated trying to meet other couples. We've been to on-premise clubs, and find the single-guys turn them into meat-markets. We've posted ads/profiles online. We've been patient and gracious with the people we've contacted. We've hit it off very well with meaningful, appropriate, and all-signs-pointing-to-good-chemistry e-mails. *WE* think we're good looking. But maybe we're not. The weird thing is that the e-mail conversations and plans for meets for coffee or drinks STOP as soon as we send photos of ourselves -- even the G-Rated ones. We're educated, we're parents, we're professionals in our fields, we're clean, respected by the community (but not public figures), we have good communication skills, and we're centered and well-adjusted. We're not fat, but we're between 20-25 lbs overweight -- aka "Average Americans". We're "In-shape". She's taller than most women. I'm thinning on top, and we're both going grey. We're NOT worn-out, and we think we look good. But we come back to the issue of weeks of good conversation coming to a screeching halt as soon as we send pictures. Anyone care to comment on this frustrating situation? Are we doing something wrong? PS: It's the pictures, isn't it?
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