Highway Sexy

I don't think we will join bi-sexual playground since neither of us are bisexual. This is one thing that irks us about the lifestyle is about the bisexual part. We are both straight and we are strictly looking for couples in a heterosexual way. We believe that's what the lifestyle is all about and not about bisexuality which is a turn off for the male in this case.

I think we need to move to Ohio, that's probably where the action is! Here in Maryland it's not that way. Anyway, I'm sure once you post your pictures you even do better. best wishes to you guys

Thanks for all your responses. It does help to see from different perspective. However our experience with SLS sucked like we said before we joined back in Feb of 2003 with photos and a decent profile but we really haven't got much out of it. For a period we paid for it but realized that it didn't add anymore e-mails. Shykitty770, it was interesting you pointed out that the great sites notify you of when you get e-mails if you get messages can you please let us know which are these great ones? It appears to be very convenient instead of logging in each site every time. Dand's we are so jealous of you 36 e-mails in two days and no photos!!! How did you all do that:confused: We joined Swappernet a couple months with photos right away and we only got a couple e-mails which did not pan out at all. So far no e-mails. To answer your question we have been going to clubs too for a couple years but is not easy to meet people there either unless you are really outgoing and you'll find that people go in groups or already attached to other couples, but we still go because if nothing else we have a good time. We rather met people at the clubs than at the website but we haven't had any luck in that department either

We are still considered ourselves new to the lifestyle, so we were wondering to how many swinger sites do you belong to? Is more better to get the responses you need to get. We currently belong to three but we hardly get any mail. We belong to one site since last February 2003 and failed to connect with any couples. For the most part it has been singles who can read our ad. The other other two sites we have recently joined in January of this year. We also wanted to know how often do you check or go into this sites, daily, weekly etc. We have been going at it on a daily basis but it gets so tired and boring when nothing happens. We Welcome your comments on this topic.

Thanks to all of you who answer the previous thread on bisexuality. It help a lot. More specifically: bccp177 - Thanks for the tip on not been afraid to talk to couples with a bi-sexual female. Sadie - Most men enjoy seen two woment getting it on, even suggested. Not me in my case. This is definetly a turn off. When I see adult videos with bi-females, I always forward the tape. It doesn't do anything for me. So I wouldn't have any problems explaining before playing. Shoreguy - That's very disappointing to know that straight females are in the very small minority. That's exactly what we both are finding out from both of the sites we subscrite to. It's really getting on my nerves So it seems the lifestyle is mainly for bisexual women and not so much for couples. We have been proactive by sending e-mails but the combination of being straight, soft swap and newbie might not be in our favor. Ohio Couple - Thanks for sharing your experiences. We have also read their profile and time and time again is the female who wants to explore her bisexuality. We live in Burtonsville, Maryland and we go to this off- premise club for the past year but haven't been successful at all. I don't think we sound overbearing in our ads since we only mention once that we are straight. Wedon't bold anything. We recently received an e-mail from a couple interested in our ad. However, the whole e-mail was type in capital letters -- big turn off!!My wife said it sounded like she was yelling at us!! bi-blonde - Thanks for the info. We'll keep that in mind. Brit Pair - Your response was certainly an eye opener. We are also soft swingers. That's the way we want to start in the lifestyle. But seen two women making out is not my idea of the lifestyle. Our ideal would be to flrit and be around with the opposite sex and establish a strong relationship before proceeding to the next level. So thanks for giving us the confidence to continue pursuing this lifestyle. And yes it takes a lot of patience, not only with finding the right couple but your significant other as well. J & K - Thanks for your tips. It help too. I think we will change our profile to bi-curious so it gives us a little bit of an edge on recieving more responses to our ad. I'm glad your wife feels the thing is more emotional. I'm glad I'm not alone in prefering straight ladies. We have the same exact idea that the couple is going after both of us. After all who would want to be on the sidelines. Certainly not me. We want to make this fun for both of us.

We are new to the lifestyle and struggling to find couples that do not have bi-curious or bisexual female. We currently belong to two swinglife style sites and notice more and more that most of the females are either bi-curious or bisexual. We are both straight and for the past year we have received hardly any responses to our ad. We thought that the lifestyle was most often experience on a couple-to-couple basis? Are we cut out for this lifestyle if mostly the females are bisexual? We have made great strides in trying to enter the lifestyle but so far it has been very discouraging to say the least. Anyone have any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. HELP

I like to thank all of you ladies who provided me with the tips on dressing up better. It was great to know what turns ladies for a man to dress sexy . As a result I brought me yesterday my first pair of Dockers, light tan. Now I will need to find me a nice shirt with it. I do have the high heel Cuban dancing shoes and they look sharp. Also I have worn my shinny gold buckel belt last night and felt very sexy on the dance floor. Thanks I needed that Hope you guys also benefit from the ladies tips. I definetly will pay more attention to the shoes and belts. Now if we coul only find that elusive couple with could play and have fun with.

Hello everyone! We are going to an off premise club tomorrow night and I have a hard time deciding what to wear. There's no theme. I have club wear for regular night clubs. When I wear these type of club wear at off premise clubs, I feel overdressed in comparison to the other guys. I like to know from the perspective of the gals, what you find sexy and erotic clothes in a man. For example, I find the clothes in Victoria's Secret and Frederick very sexy and erotic which my wife wears. For man there is no similar catalogs for dressing hot and erotic for the ladies. I most of the time get compliments at work and home for dressing nice. I would be greateful if you all can help me out on what turns the ladies on in terms of a man's clothes. I think ladies have an easier selection than man does to turn us on. By the way I read past threads and it appears that guys have only to dress casual slacks and a nice shirt. I'm not satisfied with that.