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NealnAnji

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About NealnAnji

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    Here to Play
  • Birthday 08/19/1954

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  • Relationship Status
    Married couple
  • Location
    USA
  • Interests
    Outdoors, fun in the sun and romantic/erotic sex .
  • Occupation
    Business and Medical Field.
  • Swinging Experience
    7 years
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    07 14

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  1. That is our experience too. It seems couples are swinging at a much earlier age than before. The age gap does not seem to matter. Recently we got an email from the wife of a couple (24/25) asking us if we would meet them at a restaurant to talk about swinging. She was responding to a blog from hubby and said she wanted to have their first experience with a "mature" couple. She wanted to experience nothing less than a full swing that of course includes all play upto, and, includes intercourse. The interesting thing about this is that it is the female that wants to experience sex with a variety of partners and it is the hubby that complies to her wishes. We have come across several couples in their 30s, married 2 to 5 years that are actively seeking swing partners and seem to be more comfortable with older couples for what ever reason. So we say go with the flow. Also, we have noticed several young couples, some of them our nephews/nieces on FB, we know seeking swing partners without concern for age. Is there a recent survey of ages of swingers that would be very instructive in this regard?
  2. Bad idea to fuck the woman, while she is till technically married, and without her hubby's concurrance, regardless of the situation. If she was single and wife's friend or friend's sister I would invite her, play with her and fuck her to your heart's content. But the situation is rife with violation of ethical issues. We know of one such situation where the husband was unable to satisfy his wife (he could not get an erection) to penetrate her due to illness. Here the wife's friend handled the situation really well, and, diplomatically, without cheating on the hubby. She talked to both the husband/wife and suggested that his wife (her friend) have sex with her own husband. The husband was open minded about it, and, consented to another guy play with, and, fuck his wife, because he realized that he himself was unable to satisfy his wife's sexual needs. He just wanted to make his wife happy and enjoys watching her have sex with another man who can satisfy her sexually, and, bring her to orgasm. There are men open to this idea of letting wife enjoy sex with another man if he is unable, but we think, not many.
  3. Very true. How else do you expalin the fascination of a younger woman for a man who is far older than she is. The age difference coupld be 20, 30 or even 40 years. An older woman deisiring sex with a younger guy can be easily explained-she thinks the young dude has a hard dick and can last longer after he penetrates her. For a young woman in her 20s, 30s or 40s it it is harder to explain her desire for play and to engage in intercourse with a man lot older than she is. We think she is looking for and is fascinated with a man that is distinguished, shows maturity, yet, indicates that he can pleasure her to multiple orgasms regardless of his age. We have had real proof of this proposition when interacting socially and sexually with young women.
  4. We fully agree that swinging and poly relationships are very related and sometimes inseparable. The couple connection is not necessary, but most times happens to bring a poly relationship into focus. We have had many of wife's gfs asking to play and enjoy sex with my hubby without her husband present. So we do fuck and enjoy intercourse without any inhibitions. True swingers, of course, will refuse to play and fuck without his/her mate present. So we enjoy both poly and swinging and also group sex with variety of partners.
  5. We think that poly and swinger are two sides of the same coin, unless you are a purist. Both involve sexual play, partner swap and intercourse with the other couple's hubby/wife, bf/gf. Therefore, we are both polyamorous and swingers at the same time. Years ago, we made friends with a married couple (S&M) and Mrs S talked us into a 4sum m/f, m/f play for all sexual activities upto and including intercourse with each other's mate i.e., full partner swap. It started as a pure swinging relationship. Both ladies were hetero and great friends. So, no bi feelings or f/f sexual play there. We did not share a homestead, but became great friends where we shared mates for sex in a f/m/f 3sum on many ocassions. Perhaps, we could call it almost an open marriage. Over the years, we have had similar sexual realstionships with several other couples. This may not pass a purity test for poly, but that is where we are. So, call it what you will. Our two cents for your comments.
  6. We have no limit on how old we would go with a lady or man. But truly, a gentleman never asks before or after you have fucked her. Short of asking her how old she is, one can only guess at her age. Actually, we prefer older women for two reasons: one, she is likely to be experienced and two: one can do, i.e., fuck her bareback for a pleasurable experience due to intimate contact between her and your genitals. Not to say that older women are lot easier to find who are willng to play and have sex without inhibitions. One of wife's gf Lynn is past 70 and she is a very pleasurable sex companion. She has a very snug vagina and has the ability to contract it during intercourse to almost trap the penis. As a matter of fact she is the one who offered to do threesomes with us five years ago and we continue to play with no loss of sexual prowess on her part.
  7. You do seem to have some serious issues in your relationship, of a sexual and non-sexual nature, as husband and wife. These issues may only be amenable to resolution by a therapist. Even that approach is doubtful to succeed. Most couples who are into swinging are well adjusted in life and do enjoy having sex not only with their own mate but also with a variety of other partners of opposite (or same) sex in a variety of ways-vaginal/anal/DP, group sex with multiple partners, and couples, etc. That is what makes swinging and swapping mates for sexual activities, including wild sexual play and intercourse, with the husband/wife/so of another couple/s such a pleasurable experience. We sincerely hope you and your wife are able to solve these issues with or without professional help Sorry, this may not be of much help, but at least that is our honest opinion for whatever it is worth.
  8. We have been to both Desire and Hedo. Desire has been promoted as a swinger resort. Hedo does not promote itself as a swinger resort. It has nude and prude sections. However, there are plenty of opportunities to swing and swap mates at Hedo in your room. Desire has a playroom for one-on-one as well as group sex. We have noticed couples playing and having intercourse in public areas at Desire even though it is against the resort rules. This rule is mostly observed in its breach. We prefer Desire to Hedo for a more romantic atmosphere and enjoyable sex with you own partner as well as someone else's. There are beds laid out in the open, with curtains for privacy, where you may play up to and including intercourse with your partner. Many couples prefer Hedo for a more boisterous atmosphere and are regulars at the resort. All in all, we prefer Desire for a more laid back and romantic vacation. It's all up to you as a couple to decide what type of atmosphere you prefer. You can have a great time at either resort depending upon your personal preference.
  9. Decided. Our next couples sex party is called fondue party. We provide the wine, you bring the pussies. No complaints accepted if it does not taste great.
  10. Go to the fondue party and enjoy the cheese if there is no swap for sex between couples! Let us know what you found (ue) out. Lol.
  11. Re sex parties in the neighborhood: Six months ago, a new couple moved into a house in our subdivision. They were a very nice couple, one would least suspect to be lifestylers. We met them during an evening walk and got acquainted. They said they were planning to invite select neighbors for a "get to know" small party in their new house. Next thing we got an invitation in the mail. It said you are invited to attend a "get-to-know your new neighbors" party. Time 9:00 PM to ?? AM. Dress casual but sexy. Wine , beer and condoms provided, or bring your favorite brand to the party. About 8 couples showed up. There was an icebreaker, but no loud music. So, neighbors were not disturbed and no donations asked for or accepted. Byob, liqueurs and appetizers were gratefully accepted.. All the same, it was a full fledged couples' sex party where couples played, swapped mates and fucked all night and when it was all over, walked home. By wording the invitation properly, vanilla couples were filtered out. It was a private party, even though all kinds of nude play including full-blown intercourse with another couples' mate did take place. Curtains were drawn to prevent peeping toms from looking in. It was indeed a great party with no rucus. Just great time and awesome erotic games and full-blown sex with different partners. All in all, they key to a successful swing party is to keep the party private. Loud music and noise is counterproductive to a great sex party, besides attracting the local law enforcers. N&A
  12. We are glad that you have resolved the issue to some extent with your wife. Your situation is not unusual at all. There are a variety of reasons a married woman resists the idea of swinging , i.e., she having sex with another man while her husband has sex with another woman, who happens to be someone else's wife or gf. The reasons for her resistance to nonmonagous sex could be manyfold-such as her upbringing, her and her family's beliefs, religious convictions, etc. nothing says that she may not change her mind, and, in due course decide to give it (sex with another guy) a try. The best strategy is to let it ride for now for as long as it takes, and the two of you enjoy sex with each other. As they say, swinging is not for everyone. And you may have to live with the idea of nonmonagamous sex with another woman but are never able to fulfill your fantasy. But then again who knows. She might change her views and the two of you are able to enjoy sex with a variety of partners.
  13. We agree with you. I would love to run into a gal I dated for couple of years before both of us got married. She is good looking and now married. Would love to run into her and her hubby, so the two of us couples can swap mates, and, I get to fuck her as her as her hubby watches and also plays and fucks.
  14. Age of the woman is just a number and not important. An older woman in her late 60s or even early 70's can be a great fuck. A friend of wife's in her late 60s, possibly near 70, (divorced) asked to fuck her and she is awesome in giving a blow job and overall sexual pleasures. Couples are having more sex as they get older. All it takes is an open mind about enjoying sex.
  15. The chances of finding a couple/s to swing with on a Disney ship (or any vanilla cruise) are low, but one never knows. Statistically there is a two in a hundred chance of another swinger couple in a crowd. I would post under "Traveling Swingers" on this Board, as well as SLS and see what happens. You might get lucky. It is like trying to find the proverbial needle in a haystack, but who knows? Also, as chicup says, you might look for single moms and try to work your's and your wife's charm to see if the woman is open to playing and having sex with you in a threesome. I would also look for single unattached women (either divorced or widowed). They are not encumbered by their children on the cruise. If you do not mind, a mature woman might just fit the bill and can be an excellent sex mate. A single woman might just be looking for sexual liaison with a man besides the usual cruise activities. Else, the swingers' cruises are the best for finding couples to play and swap mates with. Good luck and keep us informed. It will benefit all of us.
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