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  1. I know it's sometimes hard for a woman to find herself beautiful when she's pregnant. The fact that there's a lot of hormonal change going on does not help. My wife would cry for nothing. If I stayed quiet, she would think that I was mad at her and would cry. But, please don't bring yourself down. Just think about how lucky you are to be carrying a living person inside your womb. This is a feeling that many would like to experience but for some reasons cannot. I am sure you'll be filled with joy when the baby starts to kick.
  2. I don't want to be rude, but I do think you got it wrong here. Believe me, a pregnant woman is a beautiful woman. Ask anyone around and you get the same answer. I would even recommend taking lots of pictures of you pregnant. I wish I had taken many more pictures of my wife when she was pregnant.
  3. Hi there, I have once been in a "similar" situation where I, the husband, got very upset because my wife broke a rule (I am still very thankful for the people here, they were very supportive). I totally understand your husband point of view. Rules are rules, and are limits that you set so that none of you get upset. From my own experience, I would say that you and your husband should sit down and talk, but it will take time. Time can heal at lot of things, but you should not haste anything. If you husband does not want you to do this or that with the other guy, you should respect that. You need to let the wound heal. If you don't respect your husband's "desires" you will cause the wound to open again and this could lead to disaster. That being said, in my case, with hindsight, I realised that I should not have gotten upset. We all make mistakes. May be with time, he too, will realise that. Anyway, I wish you all the best and would love to answer any question you might have. Feel free to pm me.
  4. Hello, I have always been told that how calm a lake is does not say anything about its depth. My thought: now that you know they are in the lifestyle, I think it would somehow be easier for you guys to communicate. Best of luck.
  5. Kids always find a way to find things they were not suppose to find. When I was a kid, I knew where the porn magazines of my uncle was even though it was not my house. intuition897: you do have a nice butt by the way :-)
  6. Mrs. Couple loves it only if all the conditions are there. She does not want to try it with another partner though. She sometimes have orgasm during anal sex. She says it's stronger than vaginal orgasm. For those who want to try it: it requires time, lube and patience. Some degree of trust should be there so that the lady can better relax.
  7. Yes, I have realised that what happened, happened, I am moving on We now know that we need better ways of communicating.
  8. Honestly, I was not being sarcastic. I did think of it this way (she owes me one) when I was "mad". Then I realized that its not the way to go. Moreover, I add the smiley because I wanted to show that I was not sarcastic...guess it had the opposite effect. I have a beautiful wife and she swings. I am lucky in this way as many wants to try swinging but the wives dont want to. I can talk to her about anything.
  9. twoplayful2 if looked from one angle yes she seems to owe me one However, I would not like her to swing again with her mind set that she owes me. With that mind set, she may do things that she does not necessarily enjoy just to please me. I want her to enjoy what she is doing. In a way, my joy comes from knowing she is enjoying herself.
  10. Thanks Inbeachcouple it's true that we have always been able to communicate and try to figure out where things went wrong not only for lifestyle stuffs but for everything. We learned a lot from our first party experience even though not everything went smoothly. We are not ready to jump in right away again. We are taking some time to digest everything and letting time do its magic. The quality of time we spent together has gone up. This past weekend we celebrated the 8th anniversary of our meeting. We played "climaxxx" game and I can tell you we had one of our best sex. I am sure that we will do it again, its just a matter of time :-) but we want to make sure we are ready.
  11. Dear Julie and Confunktion, First of all, thank you for taking the time to reply to my post, it is greatly appreciated. We definitely found out that blinking as a way of communication does not work. We have worked on some other ways of communicating. Some decisions are: > We will never be too far away from the other. > Does not matter how overwhelmed we are, we will say it whenever there is something that one of us does not like or does not approve. We will be discrete but will make sure the other one gets the point. Anyway for the time being we are taking a break from the lifestyle to let things calm down and time does its job. The positive part out of all this is we have stopped everything and reassessed where we are and where we are going. What we can do to make our lives better etc..... Our analysis of the situation at the party is: >She was farther away from me (distance) than we have never been during previous play. >In the past she always asked if everything was ok at various points. She did not do that on that night >Plus the rule thing. >She was overwhelmed, being the new couple and she was the centre of attraction. >Party might not be for us. We prefer to be in one room with another couple where we have plenty of time to play with our respective partners and each others partners. This give her more opportunity to see me with another woman and me to see her with another man or worman. I would lie if I say that I am totally over it now. It's gradually fading would be the right way of saying it. Regards, Patrick
  12. N&G, Thanks for the advice...we did learn something (though the hard way). We are still much in love with each other and have been able to look back and analysed where we went wrong. What we liked and what we did not...etc....and what we need to do should we find ourselves in a party again. For now....we are takings things slowly with valentine around the corner and 8 days later we will be celebrating our 8th anniversary of the day our story began.
  13. Hello Vespertine, Thanks a lot for the reply to my post. It was exactly what I needed to hear or read :-). Things have always been fine except for these two unfortunate experiences. We have always define our boundaries before doing anything. Unfortunately, the first time she did not hear me saying "let's go to the bedroom" and the second time I missed the "blinking". Like you said we now know that we need to find a way to communicate clearly. We both made a mistake as we were adventuring on new waters. It would be foolish to hold grudge against each other.
  14. Hello to all, We are new here and would like to say hello to everyone and thank everyone for their contributions which can be of great help. A little about ourselves. We are from Canada (immigrants) and have been in the lifestyle for a little bit less than two years with some experience so not completely newbies even though me, the hubby, sometimes get performance anxiety but I have read that this happens to a lot of people. Thanks for these postings very comforting to me. We are 28/25 but together for 8 yrs. We have always had rules and we have respected them. For example, she is the one who decides if we are going to play with a particular couple or not. On one time, we were playing at our place. The other women and I were on one couch and the other guy and wife were on the other seat. At some point I said lets go to the room and I went there with the lady and were doing a 69, when wife and the other guy joined it. Later when they left she was mad at me saying we were never supposed to do separate room. I apologized but she was mad for the rest of the night and the next day. This Saturday we went to a small party for the first time in our lives. There were 3 couples in all. We had some rules defined where she would blink her eyes twice and I should do the same for approval. She said she did that but I did not see it. The next thing I know is she was doing the whole thing. I was so pissed. I told her that and she realised that she did something wrong. We did not make a mess as we did not want to be rude. But at home I was very very angry. I cannot explain why. I did break rule once but it was not full but soft. For her it was full. For the next few days I was really angry with her. But yesterday I did talk to her as I do love her dont get me wrong. Now we are not into the "fighting" period anymore. If someone has lived something like that I would greatly appreciate their input as well as input from others please. Thanks. Patrick
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