This is my first and with luck not my last post here.
Let me begin by saying that I am a single male that would be classified as a "cheater". I have been married to my wife for over 32 years now and love her dearly. For the first 15 years of our marriage sex was great and we had a lot of fun and although we never found anyone to swing with we discussed it from time to time and she was open to try it.
Unfortunately, in 1984, out of the blue she became a Jehovah's Witness (against my will) after having someone else's child (she doesn't know that I found out), but I decided to stay with her and our three children anyway. I stayed true to her until 1999, when i decided to see some other women to see if sex could be fun again for me. (I am not going to get into the details of our sex life, other than to say it is way more satisfying for her than it is for me.)
My extramarital activity has NEVER been at the cost of fullfilling her emotional or sexual needs. I have dated a number of women, married, widowed, and single. We have had very good relationships up to the point where the sex began to create emotional bonds. Although we would start with the idea of just getting together for an evening of great sex, it always wound up with me hurting them because despite what they said they were looking for a lot more, and I was not willing to leave my wife. That was not what I was looking for, so I don't look in those areas anymore.
The swinger "lifestyle" advertises no strings recreational sex between friends, which is what I was hoping to find, so I decided to try that route, but after answering numerous ads and corresponding with several couples I found that there is indeed a barrier to entry for single men who are not an Adonis with the cock of a racehorse. Things nearly always end when I tell them I am married. Would I be better off lying about my marital status?
I can understand the attitude as it relates to some of the more obnoxious "studs" who may be out there, but is it necessary to tar all single men with that broad brush? What exactly is wrong with a single male sharing some good times with a couple if everyone is open to being friends??? Is there no room at all in the "lifestyle" for a decent single male who may be in a sexually unfullfilling marriage? It seems the "dime a dozen" attitude leads to a lot of closed minds among you folk.
