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C & J Ohio

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About C & J Ohio

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 12/16/1953

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Cleveland, Ohio
  • Interests
    giving and receiving pleasure, movies, theater, opera, rock and roll
  • Occupation
    professional
  • Swinging Experience
    4 years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    cjoy242
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Eros, Cleveland, OH
  1. This situation is very predictable. Telling your vanilla friends that you are in the swing lifestyle usually leads to losing friends. The only unusual aspect here is that the message was sent. Usually, your (former) friends keep their sentiments to themselves and just drift away. I would not try to justify or defend your lifestyle choices. My response would have been to politely say "I don't want to discuss that." Leave the choice of breaking the friendship up to your friend. Remember, the "guilty" party is not your friend. She is just being overly honest, as you apparently were. It is similar to a husband admitting he kissed another woman, thinking there was nothing wrong with it, and expecting his wife not to be hurt. Judging your friend's lifestyle choices does not change anything either. It only brings you down to her level.
  2. Its already legal to have an extra-marital affair with your neighbor, your best friend, or even your sister. Do cheating husbands say, "Well it's legal, so it must be okay?" Not sure this is your strongest point.
  3. If his wife refuses to have sex with him for 10 years, how can you call it cheating? And if it is, who is cheating who? My counter example is no more extreme than yours. The point is, "cheating" depends on the circumstances. When one partner masturbates alone, then is "not in the mood" for their spouse, that is a form of cheating too. If a man sees a prostitute instead of performing his duty with his wife, who wants him, I have to agree with you. If she is out of town or otherwise incapacitated, or refuses, I don't see how she has been cheated when there is no emotional compromise on his part.
  4. Consorting with prostitutes is not the same as having an illicit affair, which implies an emotional commitment. It may be riskier, and morally wrong to some, but it is no more cheating than masturbating to porn.
  5. You just confirmed something I have always suspected. We are a 50's couple but my wife still has a natural centerfold figure. There have been several times when we were with couples that seemed interested in playing but then at the last moment back off. I have told my wife several times that I felt the other woman was intimidated by her beautiful body. Now I know I was right. As for your quote, what does "boobs that would never be mistaken for artificial" have anything in common with stretch marks and scar? Artificial tits are a bigger turn-off to some men than scars and stretch marks. You should be thrilled to be natural.
  6. The experience you describe is quite typical in swinging. I would be surprised if a couple who had been in the lifestyle for any length of time had not had a similar experience. Only your reaction to it has caused the damage. If your husband had the performance anxiety and you and your play partner had the better sex, you might have felt differently. Over time it happens both ways. Everyone in this lifestyle has had to get over the demon of jealousy. Some can't. Swinging is probably not for you two, but in any case, what your husband did was the opposite of cheating. If you insist on calling what he did cheating, then you will drive him to do exactly that. There is a huge difference.
  7. This is one of the toughest dilemmas for couples who only swing together. When we meet a couple alone for drinks the rule is simple -- we do not go to the next level unless all four agree. No exceptions. The dilemma cums up at on premise swing clubs and conventions. Conversations, dancing, and other interactions, don't necessarily happen by couples only there. Sparks can start to fly with one half of a couple before the other half has much of a chance to get acquainted. That is when taking one for the team sometimes happens with us. It is usually not great for one of us, but the alternative often is not playing at all that night. Better for one partner to have some excitement than neither. Our main event, however, cums afterwards, with each other.
  8. According to the poll, two-thirds of swingers make over $70,000. This proves one thing: there is a direct correlation between higher incomes and liklihood in answering the poll.
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