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dayhiker last won the day on June 12 2009

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About dayhiker

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    Swingers Board Addict
  • Birthday 12/28/1951

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    Single male
  • Location
    MA
  • Interests
    hiking, travel, reading
  • Occupation
    technology
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    limited

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    dayhiker

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  1. Thanks couplers for sharing your story ... I enjoyed reading it.
  2. Something that really helped me was coming to understand the flaws of our time now is that what happens on this earth isn't the end of God's creation. The end of creation as far as I can see right now is the nest life as in the resurrection. We get a glimpse of this in people's stories of near death experiences.
  3. I take 10-20 mg when I'm with a GF about half the time. I had not problem with erections till I lowered my blood pressure with pills. Then I needed some the help.
  4. Almost 12 years ago I posted on this thread! Since then I've come to classify myself as solo poly. I have 4 GFs, 3 of whom I see most ever month. There is a whole bunch of love flowing between us and the guys that they see. I was a failure at monogamy, but ethical non-monogamy is working amazing well.
  5. I've had intercourse with just over 70 women. Women I've made out with in some fashion would probably be 130 or so.
  6. NYflirts ... thanks for sharing your experience. I'm a ploy single and I always try to ahve a good talk with any guys the ladies are involved with when we are at the same event.
  7. Yes, the NT doesn't address pural marriages. There are some historical data the the church doesn't tell us. The Roman law said a man could only have one wife. So when Paul says an elder is to only have one wife it is to aviod conflict with governmental authorities not because that was the intent of what God wanted originally when He created marriage in Genesis. What's more also in NT times Israel petitioned Rome to get an exception to the one wife law and obtained the only exception that we know about. So when preachers today teach taht God's originaly intent was one man and one woman for life that are teaching Roman law and not Jewish law or to put it interms of the NT Jews and Christians they would be teaching pagan laws and not God laws as given to His people the Jews.
  8. HI Jg ... thanks for sharing. The last two years I've lived a poly single life. Things have gone amazing well. I have 4 GFs and I pray over meals with each of them. I just spent a weekend with two of them and one othe their BFs. Its was totally amazing. I set out 2.5 yrs ago to live what Jesus was asking me to do. You know the verses were Jesus said if you visit someone in jail, give them a drink of water etc, then you have done it unto me. So I felt that God was asking me to just be friends with people, especially ladies, as so many couldn't find someone to love them. If I did that Jesus was saying that I'd be a friend to Him. Over the next year plus I had the most amazing compliments payed to me. A lot of these weren't from Christians. I almost couldn't beleive nice people were to me as I accepted them without judging them and helped them out often in just little ways. Result: about one in 10 ladies I meet wants to be my GF. I just don't have time for that many GFs! Then God said to me just as you have been a friend to each of these people and thus been my friend, so I've been being a friend back to you thru them. I'd never felt so close to God. Its been an amazing lesson in God teaching me about how to love an how hunger people are for love. So my story is more about poly than swinging. But I suspect a similar things could happen in swinging.
  9. So the EX and I were camping with the kids in a separate tent near a famous hiking trail. So the foreplay was over and I was going at it when a car drives up and stopped with the headlights shining on the tent. I hear the door open. I look out, it is the local police, What are you doing? Well, I didn't give the immediate activity. He was OK with knowing we were hiking the next day.
  10. A few months ago I got to be with a couple for their 1st time. They are in the 70's. I had meet them and for to know them over a weekend. Later I get this call with him saying he wanted to ask me a personal question. He had had this desire for a long time and his wife had just a while back told him she had a fantasy. It was to have another man in the bed! Well, I'd not thought of them in a sexual way. He told me I was the 1st guy that she had even considered doing this with. So the thought goes thru my mind that this would probably be the last chance at them fulfilling this fantasy, so I said yes. They planned to come to a local hotel room for the weekend. We meet after work and out to dinner and go at it for a couple of hours. I went home for the night to give them time to talk about things and make sure they were comfortable with everything. By the time I got there in the morning they had already had another round of fun and we started another. That afternoon I brought over my massage bed and we each got a 4 hand massage. Then more sex after a great Thia dinner. Before I left I has if this had been as good as her fantasy. She said it was even better than her fantasy. That completed one of the best weekends of my life. We have meet a couple more times and will soon plan an other weekend.
  11. Can she verbalize what's going on with her emotions and why she wants to flirt after being so emational? Would want her to be able to express that before going forward.
  12. I get the feeling that she doesn't really understand how all this is effecting you. It is like she is in her own world and you are there following along almost as an inanimate object. Maybe I'm reading that into your version of it tho. ???
  13. Thought I'd list a more general argument for swinging being a better ethic and closer to the Bible ethic that what many Christians live in this sexual area. Honesty. I'd argue that honesty and truth are major values in a Christian ethic. There has not been recorded a society where men and women have been virgins when they got married and lived a monogomous life. Individuals and couples, yes. But a large portion of every society, no matter how seperated the sexes, find a way to have sex before marriage and after marriage. Adultery is dishonest. Its about lying, sneaking around and not telling ones spouce what they are doing or how they want to experience sex. Usually the marriage is over. Swinging is about honesty. Its about being honest. Sexual desires for variety beyond the couple are brought into the light. A way to meet that desire is figured out. Or a compromise is worked out. What they do they do together as a couple. Often the marriage is stronger because they have deal with the issue in a way that they both can live with, its not broken their relationship. So I'd say the monogamous couple and the swinging couple live within the Christian ethic. The adultorer is outside the Christian ethic.
  14. There are quite a few ways to approach the Bible and sexuality. Often those that present the strictest rules ignore as much of the Bible as the preach from my observation. Several have been posted above. Another one I use is Hebrews 11. Its a listing of men and women of faith in the Bible. They are set up as examples for us. Abraham had sex with his wife and her handmaiden. The Bible has this as not an act of faith but doesn't picture it as a sexual sin. After Sarah died Abraham married again and had concubines. We call Abraham the father of our faith. Sarah asked her husband to have sex with her handmadien. God never condemns her for doing such. Jacob had 2 wives and two handmaidens. His is considered the father of Isreal. Again, this is never viewed as being sinful. Moses had 3 wives. God defends Moses when he takes his 2nd wife and says he is faithful in all his house. etc. You can study the list if your interested. The above gives the idea. Not all those listed did things sexually that are recorded and conservative Christians would consider sinful today. But about half of the names saints in Heb.11 and are said to be examples of faith did sexual things that today would keep them from being leaders in the church and probably would mean they would be kicked out of the church for.
  15. Well, I don't see any problem with Christianity and swinging. As Jesus said, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
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