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  1. Good point, Clem. But just because the couple may talk to each other like that ... it doesn't mean they want someone they haven't met yet or even chatted with yet to approach them in that way. For example, line one of the very first email is a little much!
  2. We don't like the idea of certifications, because we don't want to "advertise" who we have chatted with, met or (and certainly not who we've played with.) We like to keep all of that private. Lack of a certification doesn't automatically make us think a couple's profile is fake.
  3. Oh, I forgot to answer the original question! Yes, I've been disappointed with size in swinging partners ... but very infrequently. I definitely agree that skill is the most important thing! facelick
  4. Mr wkyadventurers, It may not be intentional. I believe in truth in advertising, but the lingerie manufacturers are not being very cooperative. 99% of bras available these days fall into two categories: 1) padded ... or padded and push-up 2) extremely sheer, with no support at all Unless a woman is lucky enough to find a bra of "the 1%" in her size (another touchy subject most of us gals can write a novel about) ... you finally have to resort to buying the bra with the lightest padding available, and call it a night. Or, train yourself to be comfortable wearing something so sheer you are basically flashing your nipples at random people on the street.
  5. curiousagain, I hope you send those couples a note back that says, "I'll be there! You'll recognize me easily, because I'll be the one without my shirt ... or head."
  6. Studies have shown the risk of transmission to be much, much higher with intercourse than with oral sex or incidental contact. (We're talking thousands of times more likely.) This is because for transmission, the HIV virus has to enter the bloodstream ... which it might not ever do with incidental contact. And the acids in the mouth most often kill the virus off (not every single time, though ... nothing is perfectly safe) However, someone with a cut in their mouth or on their hands in these instances would be taking a greater risk that an uninjured person, because of the potential access to the bloodstream. People who use condoms for intercourse, but not oral sex, most likely make the distinction due to the different levels of risk involved.
  7. We've never done it. Truthfully, the very thought of all the possible complications scares us both!
  8. ... that actually made me laugh out loud! Sorry, F16AV8R ... I'm sure it's not funny at all when it's happening. Especially if the woman chickens out.
  9. I voted only interested in guys. Your poll may end up surprising me but I usually find I'm in the minority on this topic. I've always thought of myself as "special though, so I'm cool with that.
  10. Wow. Well, to me it doesn't sound like these guys really want a friendship ... just sex on tap. They appear to have the singles version of "new toy" syndrome, with Mrs Naughty being the toy. If I were you, I'd tell the next guy you are considering upfront how these other guys have behaved post-play ... and how much of a turnoff/annoyance it was. He'll probably go out of his way to behave differently.
  11. The only time we ever had it happen was very early on, when we played with a vanilla guy. We thought we explained ourselves pretty well about the lifestyle, and what it meant to us ... and I truly believe he felt he could handle it, going in. But he was working with the model of "sex = relationship --> love" and things got sticky, fast. We felt terrible about it. We learned from that one. From then on, we've only played with single men who had experience. And we've never had a problem again. We stay in touch with two men right now, and they are extremely un-pushy. In both cases they do a lot of vanilla dating, so they see it as "extra spice" just like we do. facelick Are these guys new to the lifestyle? Since you can't ask Mrs N to be less Fabulous (and who'd want to!) ... maybe limit your MFMs to experienced guys? Though that means personal ads, which I know can be terribly time consuming. Or maybe just more upfront talk about what contact is and is not acceptable afterwards?
  12. Exactly! It's all about them. Don't be hard on yourself ... you and Bear just ran into the wrong couple. It happens to all of us at some point. Focus on the fun experiences you've had, forget this one ... and have fun jumping back on the horse (or more appropriately, the Bear.)
  13. Hmm. this is an interesting one. I've never had a dream about swinging, good or bad. Mr D2S has had plenty of good dreams, but no nightmares. I imagine that having such a vivid dream about a bad swinging experience would bring up many of the same feelings one gets after an actual bad swinging experience: hurt, anger, and the "is this really for us?" question. So that could certainly make you review past experiences in a more critical light, temporarily at least. That seems natural to me. Intellectually you are aware the dream wasn't real, and you know that normally you like watching him with other ladies. So I think it will pass pretty quickly.
  14. For the hair touch-up, if waxing is too painful for her she could shave it or try one of those new mini-trimmers you see advertised on TV. As for the "stains" I am not sure if this would help, but perhaps a gentle exfoliating scrub? She might have to use it several times over a couple of weeks but perhaps it would slough off the skin that is stained. That is, if she is still talking to you. She may be even more embarassed if you bring it up again. It might be safer to wait and see: she may take care of it on her own now that she knows its a concern.
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