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TXBLONDIE

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About TXBLONDIE

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  • Birthday 03/06/1969

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  • Relationship Status
    COUPLE
  • Location
    MANSFIELD
  • Interests
    OUTDOORS!! THE POOL!!
  • Occupation
    SALES
  • Swinging Experience
    3 YEARS

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    NOGAMES4U
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  1. I definitely agree that there were some signs throwing up red flags that you chose not to bring to your husbands attention. As everyone on this board always preaches "Communication" is the key to this lifestyle. I cannot speak from a great deal of experience because we have really only been active in the swinging lifestyle, on and off, for about 2 1/2 years now. Let me tell you what I have learned about communication thus far.... Last weekend Mr and I had a MMF threesome with a bi single guy. It was the second time we would be together. Mr. had started questioning things, like statements the other guy made etc. I guess you could say he had a jealous twinge and was doubting us...I saw what was going on and I told him we needed to talk about this now because we were supposed to hook up with our M the next day. We gave each other a couple of hours to cool off by staying in seperate rooms doing seperate things. Time alone... We then sat and talked about it. Just feeling needy is all, that was what he told me.. so to the point..we get together with M and we are all in the heat of it, M and I were together and my husband was watching, I looked over and saw the look of someone who was very uncomfortable. I stopped the M right there by placing my hand on his chest. He stopped, got up, and Mr. asked M to leave, M started to. Mr. told M to stop, stay and that we all needed to be a part of this discussion, but first he wanted to talk to me alone. No problem with M and after we talked we talked with M and we started all over. The point is, if you are uncomfortable at any point, moment, time whatever, you stop and talk about it RIGHT THEN AND THERE!!!!! Don't blow it off or let it be blown off....plain and simple answer for me...lack of communication....it's right in front of you... Sorry, TXBLONDIE
  2. Hello again, Just thought that I would post an update to such a frustrated post. I will first say that we thank you for all the advice. We did not give up completely, we simply took a break, talked about it countless of times, and finally decided to go about it differently and so we gave it another try. I must say that all the talking made us realize the break was a great thing. We realized we really were not 100% sure of what we wanted. We realized that the full swap lifestyle was not at all what we wanted, in fact we both agreed that we didn't want to be with couples at all. No offense, just our preference. Mr. also expressed his desires for a MMF threesome which opened up a whole new door for me. "YEEEHAAA"! What girl wouldn't want to try it? Our communication level kept growing the more we talked about how we felt. We have met a single male and have have two MMF threesomes with him. He's a very nice and respectful gentleman and he has been very patient. We can honestly say it has been worth the wait. Not so much the sexual pleasure we all gained from the experiences but the whole new level of trust and love that I have for my husband is unexplainable. Ladies that have experienced this know what I am talking about!! That first time we were all together it was like falling in love with my husband all over again. I have been on cloud nine since. It's like nothing I could ever imagine. The sex was wonderful and we were all very comfortable, but alcohol was a bit of a help I must say. We chose to drink less the second time around and it was noticeable and things were a little shaky but it went well over all. We all talked and we realize time will be our best teacher. To sum it all up, I am glad we didn't give up and I am so glad that we have taken this journey together and we look forward to whatever else it has to teach us about life and each other. TXBLONDIE
  3. We have had nothing but bad experiences with couples. We have sworn them off. Our best times have been with singles and will probably keep it that way. The "lifestyle" for us is an enhancement, not the focal point of our sexual desires. We were with a couple once that the husband would not get undressed or dressed unless the lights were off. The last time we were together, he said ok, everybody ready, I'm turning on the lights. He turned on the lights and there we stand buckass naked, me and Mrs. Txblondie and his wife. He was fully dressed! Some people are more comfortable than others I guess. Never saw them again and don't want too.
  4. In my opinion, for what is it is worth, I think that your marriage may potentially be at an end. No trust, no communication and the lack of feelings about how you feel to me is not a marriage. I have been married three times before this marriage and have been down the roads you are describing. My last husband had been married for 17 years when I met him and I thought that I was different from the others. I could never trust him, no matter what he said or did because of the fact that when I met him he was married and cheated with me. The way that I felt "What made me so special that he wouldn't do the same to me"? Constant conflict and distrust even though he was being faithful. I don't think it's sexual addiction, I feel in my opinion it's either boredom or just lack of attraction or love and respect. If I ever want to hide something, no matter what it is, from my husband, then why be with him? Marriage is about communication and if she cannot communicate about her true feelings about sex, love, money, etc...then what is left? I am not a therapist, and my husband and I are by no means perfect but he is my best friend and I tell him everything...and I mean everything. If you had a male best friend wouldn't you tell him all? Spouses should feel the same way in my opinion. Not saying that just because one spouse feels one way that it should be, but at least it's out in the open and very much open for discussion. Sorry dear but I feel your relationship may be headed in the wrong direction and swinging is definitely not an answer or solution to the problem, in fact it may be the final straw. Good luck! Blondie and Mikie
  5. Hello all again, We really appreciate all the advice and we will keep trudging forward and being patient. To answer "BRADANDJANET" questions, we were supposed to meet a couple that I chatted with online with at a certain swing club and they did not show up. They emailed us the next day and told us they arrived late. We waited for three hours for them and they had our cell numbers. I told them that we understand things happen, but come on, even my teenager calls when he is going to be late. Unfortunately, we did not get their numbers, so we had no way of calling them. We were not rude in responding to their lame excuse, we just wished them luck in their adventure. My husband does also agree with you "Brad" about having an attraction to someone before being able to play with them, but I think he thought I was always trying to find something wrong with women who were more attractive than I was because I might be intimidated. I have set the record straight with him and he understands now that I don't always look at the outside of women or couples for an attraction, a lot of an attraction is personality and meeting people on web sites all you have to go on for personality is what they write about themselves and how they write it. I think what really made him understand is when we went to the Austin Bike Rally last year, I hooked up with a woman that was with a gentleman we had met on SDC who became a friend. She was not someone my husband expected me to be attracted to and quite frankly, had I seen her picture on the web, I probably would of hit the "no thanks" button as well. We just hit it off and it just went from there. We did not do anything but kiss and dance, and we have not seen her since. Anyhow, like I said, thanks guys for all your advice and we will try to learn to be a little more patient since we don't care much for the swing clubs, this is the only way we have to meet other lifestylers.... once again, THANKS! Blondie and Mikie
  6. Hi everyone, My husband and I have read many stories, adventures, ideas, do's and don'ts on this board and have learned a lot, but after joining a couple of swinger sites, chatting with singles, couples and exchanging pics, even meeting singles and couples, we are about ready to say "enough is enough". My husband "Mikie" and I "Blondie" are best friends and are open with each other sexually. We talk about everything we have done, to everything we fantasize about. I have been with women in my past relationships and even by myself before I met my husband. The experiences that I had by myself with other women were great but when my partner at the time was involved it was always a bad experience, either during or afterward. When I met Mikie I was truthful about the attraction that I have for women but vowed I would never go there again, even if it was okay with Mikie because of my past experiences. Well, after a few years of marriage I finally felt comfortable enough to try to explore that part of my sexuality and I wanted it to involve my husband even if it just meant he watched. He totally was comfortable with that. We did meet a couple that I did have a few encounters with the wife, while both husbands watched and then joined in with their wives. They became a little strange after a while and we broke it off with them. We have met a few other couples since then, but nobody I was interested in being with. We tried the swinging club scene and got stood up! Never been stood up in our life until then. Anyhow, we have become more open about our fantasies and have broadened our boundaries. We have lots of couples and singles that email us they are interested, but either we are not interested or we email them back and let them know we are interested and never hear another word. We feel like we are in high school again, chasing people. I just took all our pics off SDC and put on there that if anyone is truly interested we would send pics. I guess my question is, are we trying to hard? or not hard enough? Sometimes my husband say's that I am too picky, but shouldn't I be? There have been some sites that we have listed that he is curious about other men and we are open to single men, but it seems that we attract guys that just want to be with me or say they are curious and interested and when we respond we don't hear another word. Guess you could say we are just about ready to say "we give up"!!! Help! We are not an unattractive couple at all and just want to explore our sexual fantasies. Advice please?
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