We're not exactly new to swinging, however, we are posed with the same issue over and over. We meet some couples that we've met on different sites outside the "club" scene, i.e., restaurant, bar, etc. Vanilla places. We talk, we decide if we truly are compatible and then, inevitably, the evening is over. Our schedules are tight and we may not get to see them again for weeks or even months! We leave KNOWING we wanted to play, but in the restaurant/vanilla bar scene... well... play just doesn't happen.
Here's the question: If you meet someone for the first time over dinner and drinks and the attraction is obviously "around the table", how do you suggest that you might want to get a hotel room or go back to their place (or ours) without offending the other couple on a first date?
What are some of your experiences in playing on a first date in a vanilla atmosphere?
Thanks!