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As for me, my hubby was really sursprised when I brought up the subject and told him about this website and my thoughts. He was really excited and it has added some great fantasies to our sex lives. We've been with only one couple so far, but have contacted others through the swinglifestyles website and plan to continue the quest. We both had multiple partners before getting together. Neither of us is jealous. One of his former girlfriends was very jealous, which caused problems in their relationship. It was hard for him to believe that I was not a jealous person. I'm just happy for him to enjoy himself and be pleasured, however it happens. His love for me and frequent statements about how attractive and desirable I am give me the freedom to allow him to express his admiration of other women, because he lets me know that I am his first choice (hint to other guys! ) As others have said, my two cents. Ms. Sporties

I liked EBF's idea of asking why women began swinging. Ladies, why did you start? Was it your idea or a partner's? Are you glad you did?

It could be that she was shamed in her past or feels that being with another person or wanting to be with another person (either you or her) sexually is shameful (or even that sex itself is shameful, a real problem!). People who are shamed are very unwilling to talk about the thing that makes them feel shameful. I'm not thinking that you can undo this damage that has been done. Professional help may be what's needed on her part to help her see that what you are requesting is in many cases very natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Our upbringing is very hard to overcome, especially those messages of unworthiness and unlovableness. Your unconditional love is the only antidote that may help, that is, letting her know that whatever and however she feels, you will still love her. She may not believe you at first, but experience is the best proof. Good luck, this may be a really tough issue to overcome, but when you do, the whole relationship should improve!

Thanks for your honest and thoughtful replies. I agree that the men in the videos are above average in size. I've seen a few penises in my day and haven't had the misfortune to be with a guy as large as those I've seen in videos. I did have a guy who was small in comparison to me, and we did finally just give up because it wasn't doing anything for either of us. It was more girth than length that was the problem, though. The girth is more important to me than the length, within reason. To me, though, size does matter to some extent in my ability to get pleasure from the intercourse itself. The sexual experience as a whole, however, depends on the total person I am with, not just his penis.

How exactly do you measure a penis? Where do you start and end? I've been wondering for awhile. Sounds like some of you have experience in this, since you know your measurements!