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    Oh...Why not?...
  • Birthday January 11

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    Married Couple
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    Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah
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    Let's just say they are far more interesting than our day jobs.
  • Swinging Experience
    3+ yrs.

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    Options, Cloud Nine, Dreamcatchers

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  1. Hi summers30s, I know where you are coming from. You have a nice looking sexy wife that, in private, may have expressed certain fantasies of hers. It's very difficult to translate those things to a real life encounter. She says she did the things you mentioned; but you don't really know because you weren't there. She may have been trying to please you by saying that she did go ahead with them. Have you had any confirmation from her partners that she did them and what her demeaner was? When we started down this bouncy road, I was the one who "pushed" her to realign her boundaries of what was ok. The problem for us was that she came to feel that I was not staying connected with her and putting too much pressure on her. WE HAD TO STOP...and as of this writing don't know when we'll try again to play with others. I think you should back off and find out how YOU really feel about the lifestyle. What are your goals? Your lady should never feel that you are too into it, at least until she finds what the fun is really all about. I felt that expressing enthusiasm was a good thing and would show her what it was all about. It didn't work out that way and it has been a tough thing for me to face that I changed our relationship forever and will probably never play again. The memories are nice. I had hoped we could continue, but my attitude and the pressure I placed on the whole deal has pretty much ruined it for us. If you don't want that to happen, I would back off and let her decide when you can do something in the future. Your wanting to see her in "action" seems onesided. Don't you have a desire for other ladies? This just sounds too familiar for me to have a positive outcome, but I hope for the best for you two. Remember to place each other first, even though you will be with different people. Male D
  2. We live in our own home in the woods (kinda) with lots of wildlife around us. We also have a home on the water for weekend fun...a 37' wood boat that we are always working on. It's all good
  3. Not being more thoughtful, sensitive and understanding. M.D.
  4. Sounded like a very exciting time. So glad things worked out so well. Now you are on your way! M.D.
  5. I'm THE plumber for a health care facility, but do a little of everything. Fem D is in the home care industry and all that involves. We take care of You. M.D.
  6. Yeah, it does smart a bit. At the risk of sounding trite or simplistic, I would have to say that life is like swinging...you fuck someone or get fucked by someone and move on. Sometimes you hang around a bit. Every friendship has its moments; This is one of them. I didn't mean to say by enlightening her that you would convince her to change her ways, but hopefully that rather she would see in you a person full of deep complicated feelings that only you can resolve...with her help?.... Really when I think of it, it's almost like we been listening in on your thoughts all thistime as if you'd been driving along all the time. You reason and argue and rest your point. Be like that with her and hopefully things will be stronger than ever between you. M.D.
  7. I liked what interested-05 had to say. Intuition, you know we admire your thought processes and hope that nothing said here will change your mind on continuing to share them with us. We don't know what kind of a friend this lady has been to you. Whether she is someone you shop with or talk about the kids etc. We have the friends we have who resemble this scenario for one reason or another...but usually because it fits at the time. If this lady starts to harp on you about wanting to know the real inner feelings you have or saying things like there must be more to all of this then you'll have to make a decision as to whether you can continue your friendship. If you have mislead her in thinking that this would be so out of character for you to even think about these things...you know, a really close friendship where she finds that you have been leading a double life, then it may well be over. Does that mean your life will end? Nah...but I say that from N. California...(kinda detached). I just hope this gives you the opportunity to now "Practice what you preach". If you are able to enlighten her the way you have with all of us...well, I hope you have found that true friend for life. M.D.
  8. Wow Intuition! I HAVE been walked in on while masturbationg...of course, being a guy, the odds of that happening are better than the sun coming up again tomorrow. A few things are going through my mind. 1) If she is really a good friend, she knows you are telling a story. I would say that honesty is the best policy. The way she cut off your call is wierd for a friend, unless that's her MO. 2) Why have a friend you have to be so careful around? I know the answer...good friends are hard to find, but at what expense? Whose life is really being lived here. I have some religious friends too. They always hang their heads when you disappoint them. After awhile they realize that it's your life. I hope she let's you off the hook. A good friend will try to find a way to make things easier for you knowing what an embarrassing thing happened. There is always room to hope for that I do feel for you but you just have to go on. All the best and watch out for that high tech stuff will ya? Male D
  9. That said.... It has been mentioned a few times that a person's needs and wants should not be compromised. A person should not sacrifice their own needs, desires, whatever label you want to give it. That implication is that it will lead to a miserable life. Bullshit. Life is full of sacrifices and compromises. How many of us actually live the life we thought or hoped we would. Life gets in the way of goals and ambitions. It's the people that dwell on their own sacrifices and missed goals that are unhappy. I didn't achieve my original goals in life and I'm glad I didn't because I would not have the family and life I have now. To say your own wants must be paramount to everyone else in your life is extremely selfish. With that kind of attitude you are destined to a life of disappointments. If something happened to my wife and she could not have sex (or go bowling), I would sacrifice my need for it because I love her and she IS my life. That is what love is all about, sacrifices and compromises. It really is that simple. I'd love to be male porn star who sails the world. But it isn't going to happen because I have more important things in my life...and I'm not miserable because of it. Very well said... I agree that if you have other issues that have made you unhappy in your marraige and you both agree, maybe it would be best to split. Good communication will help things fall in palce without anger. The key word here is GOOD communication. I have found that communication is what works best, but you have to be kind and speak with love in your heart. You may not like your spouse at times but you still love them and want them to understand you. When people are approched by someone with anger it can cloud what you are trying to say and the other may not understand. I'm sure that most all of us at one time or another have had some negative things happen in the lifestyle that could push us away from our spouses. Take some time to understand what's really happening before you make your next move. I think the above quote says it all. Good luck to all of us. Fem d
  10. Well that part about them not wanting you to watch them goes against what YOU want. Kind of a red flag? But maybe not that important? Maybe as the teacher you can help them understand what it does for you to see your lovers embracing... I know it will go well and you will have some fun. M.D.
  11. Hey Crazy, Have you made it clear that you want to be with both of them? What YOU would like to do? Nothin' wrong with being a teacher now and then instead of depending on the other couple. I mean, you want to be fulfilled too. Ask questions on how that can best be accomplished. Male D
  12. I have had a lot of the feelings that l'amante1 has stated, as well as texmo, with the difference being that I DO love my wife. There are also thoughts from others here that I would have to agree with as well. It all gets wound up into the same type of thing. The relationship between your wife and you should be tops, and if you do love each other there should be a way to live without tearing each other apart when things go differently than you expect. You either have to be patient with her or let her go. You may get the sex you are looking for but you will end up really missing the things that came with being together both large and small. I feel for you guys but you are going to have to keep your wits about you or your life will really get ugly. When I got to thinking about bringing up the idea of doing the sex with other people together with her, it was only natural for me to feel that she would see things like I did. Well, guess what? She didn't. Then where does that leave you. Compromise? That usually sucks. Give up your feelings? That sucks too. There seems to be no solution, for once that box is opened, you can't quite wrap it back up that way it was. You HAVE to move at the slowest persons pace. Hopefully that person will still understand that you have some different needs than hers and let you be satisfied...but when she EVER feels that she isn't number one, don't be surprised when the plug is pulled. If the shoe were on the other foot, I'm sure you would feel the same. Male D
  13. This has been a very interesting and educational thread...for us all and for you. I'm the type that usually gets really excited about any meeting we might have with another couple...to the point where my wife may think I'm too close to the situation. Seems no one ever really understands anything about the way someone may feel about a sexual encounter...you know...about walking a mile in my shoes kind of thing. Other than maybe not letting the other guy know about your swinging activities, I don't think you did anything wrong. It's okay to get excited. It's what you are looking for...someone with desire for you. This guy sounds like the wrong guy. He couldn't even return your messages when he must have known how you felt. That in itself would piss me off. Lack of regard. So what if he was nervous. Bad stuff to do especially in the early stages. Hope you don't give up on your desires for a mfm. Male D.
  14. Hi Des1re06, Well, we know what drama is and I must say that we probably have caused our fair share of it too. Always a little embarrassed when that realization strikes home. So, having been on that side of it, I would say that there is a time when you might want to pull the other couple aside, together or separately, and let them know how things work. If they are a nice couple and look like they are just going through growing pains, I would give them a break. If they are a couple using swinging to repair their marriage, it is a no go. Just like any of ones rules, you can't really argue with them about it, but you can try to direct them so they know that what they are doing isn't what most are looking for in a couple. Play time should be fun. Go to a horror movie if you want drama. Male D
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