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    quo anti bellum
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    Southern Cal
  • Interests
    Doin it in the sunshine! No tan lines, crowds around, but not in them.
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    Manager
  1. Lovely, I sympathize with you. I just don't know what I could offer in the way of advice. I am truly stumped. Good point. But, wouldn't photos posted on the internet be considered to be located in the public domain? That could be going through the school adminstration's mind. Lovely, is the site a private paid membership site?
  2. Hello again, folks. It's been a while since posting. This topic caught my eye and raised my hackles. I was very sorry to hear what happened. Unfortunately, it wasn't the first time. Women, all people for that matter, want to go to clubs for some fun. It shouldn't matter if one is dressed for a night out with a "come fuck me" look. That look and attitude is aimed at someone specific or of one's chosing. You shouldn't also have to wear a sign that says "But ask first!" No means no, of course. It ought to be an answer to a question asked once and only once. It should not be a reaction to an event. We used to go to clubs. We haven't for a couple of years. After this thread, we won't. If a no must come after something that has happened, it is too late.
  3. When I cook, Julie, I add spices. Sometimes, I sprinkle in a bit more than other times. You can add spice to a great dish. You can sprinkle in a little or pour on a lot. Either way, it can be still a great dish. Too much can cause heartburn, though. How does this sound: Add Some Spice to Your Life?
  4. Well, with a dozen or so joint visits and single visits, it sounds as though a real effort was put in by all three of you. Just keep in mind that you have to "click" with the therapist, or else, no no benefit can be expected. I sure hope that your continued patience can pay off. I know that it must be frustrating. But, I do have to wonder. If, as you said, the counselor has implied that your wife "could" be the cause, if there isn't enough truth in that to force decisions. If she isn't willing to consider returning to therapy, be it with the same person or someone new, if the time you spend waiting isn't just allowing the rift to widen. You can always keep paying out more rope. But, a person can hang him/herself with a short or long rope.
  5. Speaking not as an expert here, I am curious, none the less. When you said that you have been to counseling, how many visits? Were the visits solo or did both of you go? Over what period of time? What kind of counselor or therapist was it? I had experiences with a counselor when I was married to my first wife. The guy was a true idiot. It was her choice completely. His advice after our first session was trial seperation. I have no doubt that there are a lot of skilled, qualified and caring people in the counseling profession. But, I think that finding a lemon just as likely as finding a good one. Do you feel that you got the kind of help that you were looking for? More importantly- did the two of you go with the desire and intention of finding solutions?
  6. EBF, I suppose I can agree about women being better actors in this case...... just makes me think..... better actors, all the time? Oh boy. Makes me wonder now. All these years.... do you think? Naw... but, still...... naw......
  7. For a while, when I was much younger, I wanted to be an actor. I thought I was good at it. I hoped that others did, too. But, I ain't THAT good!
  8. This thread turned out to interest me after all. What I found refreshing about the exchange between John and the Thumps was an expression of a genuine bond that was formed. Finding people to make this kind of bond with isn't always easy for people. These people did and they jointly told their story. Was it too much information? They, as the principles in the saga, didn't think so. As a listener- perhaps. But, what I got out of the dialog was that a couple found a good friend in someone. That someone was happy to have found some more good friends. Is the devil in the details or did the details bring out the devil? I do think that it really would make one hell of a Swingers Story! Of course, any reference to chunks of corn would.... oh, never mind!
  9. This may strike you as odd, but, the rather well trimmed single brow across my one eye has gotten me into places that I believe I might otherwise have not been allowed into. I do hope that your comment about back hair on women is sincere. I find it quite attractive and a great bonding experience to groom. Incidentally, I tried the link. For some reason, I was unable to view their picture. I guess access to that site is exclusive. Now, I may never know what beautiful people look like.
  10. Por cierto, yo hablo la lengua de la Republica de los Pueblos de California y las areas incluyendo del sudoeste, del sur y de la America central. You pretty much have to anymore. The weather is turning hotter. Just right for people living in a handbasket. flamethrow
  11. "Southwest / Central and South America".... interesting grouping. It's a funny thing... our "hopefully" outgoing governor thinks that exact same thing about where we live. He looks forward to the day "when California and Mexico are all part of the same glorious region".... Joseph Graham Davis, Governor, Peoples Republic of California.
  12. Az, Bama, you both have kids. They are the most important consideration. Not your feelings- not your spouse's. Keep this in mind at all times!!!!!!! They did not cause the problems within your marriages. But, they very well could come to the conclusion, on their very own, that they are at fault. Don't ask how. It simply happens. Please remember them while you are making very serious decisions. Kids have enough problems these days. Problems at home, where they are supposed to feel safe, secure, surrounded by a stable environment, can snowball on them. It shouldn't hurt to be a kid.
  13. I am so sorry. wow. Man, this is getting depressing
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