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vvcouple

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About vvcouple

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 12/31/1969

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    Walnut, CA
  • Occupation
    Earth scientist, admin
  • Swinging Experience
    10 years
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    vvcouple
  1. We don't have a rule against it, if it's an MFM it's up to my wife, if it's another couple and it's not specified we play it by ear. So far, I don't think we've ever been with anyone where kissing wasn't condoned.
  2. Watching my wife with another man during an MFM is wonderful. Watching her arousal, which can be much higher in a group situation, especially if it's with someone she's knows and is comfortable, is fulfilling for me beyond the sexual arousal I feel. Maybe it's simply watching her enjoy herself and feeling a bit of satisfaction in that we are in this situation because of me. Mostly, though, I think it's being deeply in love with her and happy that she's able to do this which she clearly enjoys without fear that I'm going to think less of her for it. I definitely prefer seeing her having sex over another woman.
  3. For us there's no real breakdown, where it goes is where it goes. We do make sure that any new guy knows that it will be an MFM and that wife won't be playing alone, that the hubby is involved. That's helped weed out a few who were uncomfortable with it. We always chat beforehand a decent amount to make sure there's chemistry, and it's been during this that they've said they weren't entirely comfortable with both men participating. It's nice that they are finally honest, but it'd be better if they didn't waste our time. Our last three MFM's have all been with the same guy and all have been overnight hotel stays. Sometimes we're double teaming her, other times she maybe laying her head on my lap while he's having sex with her, and still other times he's watching us. I enjoy both watching (or recharging) and participating, whatever suits me at the moment, and it's worked well so far. But, we haven't had any rules, so if one guy's having sex with my wife and the other decides to join in it's implicit that it's allowed and no permission is needed, just find a place and make yourself useful.
  4. We get the opposite, we're in our 40s and specify late 30s to mid 50s, yet get numerous guys in their 20s.
  5. You should think through all of the ramifications of what you'd like to do. I've seen more than one husband freak out when he saw his wife was enjoying sex with another man; not everyone can handle it. Before broaching the subject, make sure you're really okay with it. That being said, it took awhile with my wife. I knew that a woman or couple wouldn't happen, but I also enjoy MFM's (did before marriage) and loved the idea of sharing her with another man, as well. Sometimes when we'd have sex I'd stick a finger in her mouth and she'd start sucking on it passionately, so I'd say something about how I bet she'd enjoy having a threesome with another man and me. At first, she thought I was testing her, and wouldn't admit to fantasizing about it. Eventually, she realized it wasn't a test and we tried it with a friend. Although she really enjoyed it, she still felt guilty afterwards. A visit to a VIP room at a strip club a year or so later piqued her curiosity in being with a woman. From there, we tried a couple so she could play with the woman, but we also ended up swapping, too. Now, she's aroused seeing me with other women, too. If, though, we never progressed beyond MFM I would've still been happy; seeing her lose herself in the moment, seeing her excitement, greatly arouses me. It's been over 10 years and the guilt thing from her upbringing (church, conservative culture, etc) still intrudes now and then. But she's come around and we've both had many wonderful experiences and our marriage is stronger than ever. I should add that a previous long term girlfriend wouldn't even entertain the fantasy of including others, so just because it's something you'd like to try, many people are offended just by the thought of it, so be mindful that it's a road she may not want to go down. If she expresses an interest, be patient. It took years for my wife to become comfortable with everything and had I tried to rush it along it wouldn't have ended well.
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