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Wow Intuition. That was an amazing post and fabulous advice. Argie I would add only one thing to all the has already been said. Take baby steps. Start with small things so that you can ease your mind into it. If you can become comfortable with her desire for other men, at increasing levels, then hopefully you can develop compersion. In our beginning my wife's stomach turned at the thought of me paying attention to another. But I was thrilled seeing her feel like a queen when some gorgeous man paid her attention. Eventually, with much of what Intuition suggests, she also developed compersion. Now when and if we share each other it is a thrill and enormous turn-on for both of us. Imagine asking her to interact with another man, for your benefit. I have. Compersion is a wonderful thing.

We've been to Temptations twice and think it's absolutely great. It is a mix of LS, naughty vanilla and a very few shocked souls. the place can be as wild or quiet as you chose but we love the people we've met and the atmosphere. It's about half the cost of the Desire resorts, not as nice but far more diverse. I would suggest considering either Temptations or Desire.

Research on the virus indicates it has been around for possibly as long as 60,000 years. It wasn't until the 70's that it was stigmatized. The power of the mighty drug companies is sickening. This is an excerpt cut from Wikipedia. Of course it that doesn't make it gospel, but it is food for thought. Herpes simplex was not always stigmatized. It was merely a cold sore in an unusual place until the 1970s. As late as 1975, a study of "Psychological morbidity in a clinic for sexually transmitted disease” does not mention herpes simplex because at that time, no significant morbidity problem (i.e. mental anxiety or illness) was associated with the virus. Pedro Cuatrecasas states, "during the R&D of acyclovir (Zovirax), marketing [department of Burroughs Wellcome] insisted that there were 'no markets’ for this compound. Most had hardly heard of genital herpes...” Thus, marketing the medical condition – separating the 'normal cold sore’ from the 'stigmatized genital infection’ was to become the key to marketing the drug, a process now known as 'disease mongering’. Since the creation of the herpes hype, some people experience negative feelings related to the condition following diagnosis, in particular if they have acquired the genital form of the disease. Feelings can include depression, fear of rejection, feelings of isolation, fear of being found out, and self-destructive feelings.[95] These feelings usually lessen over time. Much of the hysteria and stigma surrounding herpes stems from a media campaign beginning in the late 1970s and peaking in the early 1980s. Multiple articles were worded in fear-mongering and anxiety-provoking terminology, such as the now-ubiquitous "attacks", "outbreaks", "victims", and "sufferers". At one point, the term "herpetic" even entered the popular lexicon. The articles were published by Reader's Digest, U.S. News, and Time magazine, among others. A made-for-TV movie was named Intimate Agony. The peak was when Time magazine had 'Herpes: The New Scarlet Letter' on the cover in August 1982, forever stigmatizing the word in the public mind.

For us it started with reading erotic stories. Expressing support for her positive responses to the themes where the wife experiences other men was a beginning. Between reading stories and our pillow talk I began to move from fantasy to bucket list thoughts. This wasn't planned or with intent, it's just how it evolved. Our tipping point was on vacation at a resort that had a few swingers there. An edgy atmosphere but not blatantly in your face. We learned that swingers could be people just like us. On the same trip we met a couple. The Mrs. was absolutely in lust with the husband. Nothing happened, but my support of her emotions and desires led to some crazy fun in our bed. It took her quite a while to be able to return the feelings of compersion. A lot of reassuring and a lot of me doting on her and expressing that she would always be the most special person in my life. Now two years later we're more solid than ever and living a life that we never could have imagined.