Don't have time for a long reply, and I haven't replied before now because I wasn't getting email updates that there were replies for some reason. Hubby and I have not had a full swap yet, but I did have my first MFM. I am still a little bit unsure about him being with someone else. I think it is just my own insecurities. Just trying to take it one day at a time. I hope we made the right decision taking that first step, but with how strong my husband's desires were, it was bound to happen eventually. He does have someone in mind, it's a couple that we know that might be swingers...we don't know yet, but I am slowly (very slowly) getting warmed up to the idea. I think if we continue the MFM thing for a while I will be more willing to give him a turn. Thank you for all the replies. Seems like this lifestyle is very unpredictable, as is any marriage I suppose. I love this man with all of my being, so even the option of not allowing him another woman has its own set of fears for me.