mrsenergy

I really love having sex with my partner but I am a newish parent (our daughter is almost 2) and our relationship got off to a pretty rocky and crazy start. We didn't really have much time alone (living with roommates, on our own 6 months) before our daughter came along.We fell hard in to a rut after she was born. We are both really open, loving people so I could see how swinging could fit into our lives. I don't think we are the swinging party types but more of the semi committed relationship with another couple type if that makes sense.. (At least sexually committed anyways) Thank you for all the amazing advice! Such a great board with amazing insightful people who have been there. I really appreciate all of you taking the time to help. This has been a challenge for our relationship but its already improved so much since our first encounter. Now I just have to make sure I have my head on straight

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful responses. Being so new to this, and it being unplanned kind of threw our relationship into a bit of a tailspin. You see, the guy is very cuddly and affectionate with me and my partner and I have had a pretty rough last few years. He (my partner) has been very emotionally shut down so when he saw me enjoying another man in that way it affected him because he realized how little attention he had been giving me. I sort of felt like there was more going on there with my play friend as he was the one who initiated the beginning of it, not sure how to read it as he is dating my best friend and this could be a mess if everyone doesn't keep their heads on straight. Since then my partner has been extremely affectionate, very loving and really taking care of me. I kind of resented it at first to be honest. After all the years of BS it takes swinging to make you notice me? Frustrating. I am trying to just accept that he is trying and maybe realized something more in the bedroom that night. We have talked and have decided to take it easy, we aren't planning any more playdates until we get our relationship in a better place. I loved it, he was a little more apprehensive. He did say I can have all the girl playdates I want for now.. Yay me!

Any tips on keeping feelings separate from sex? I am brand new to swinging. Is it normal to have feelings for the people you swing with especially when they are regulars? I left my first experience a bit emotionally confused. Would love any advice. Just for background I am committed in a relationship of three years and the couple we swing with are really close friends who have been together the same time. My girlfriend and I had been discussing how we where both sexually bored in our relationships and when the time came one thing lead to another and we ended up swinging.