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ttiesnbeer

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About ttiesnbeer

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 08/20/1980

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    Dayton, OH
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  1. To give an update, "we" have moved past the rejection. I think it has made us stronger in we are talking about things more openly. We have since found a possible SM to join. I have some reservation and am proceeding with caution until I meet for a drink first. My wife now understands that a SM added is to be viewed as nothing more than a live dildo, and only to be used for enjoyment rather than seeking an emotional attachment where she desires his acceptance and approval. SHe has started reading some of the forum posts on this site and I think that has helped in many ways. Not just this issue, but we are both worried it could destroy our marriage, we have discussed this in depth and think we are good to go, but realize you never really know until you do it. One big concern was nobody that swings stays happily married, lol. I knew that was wrong, but after reading a lot of posts here we were able to see many married couples still married for many years. We would love to hear from other married couples that have been doing this and continue to be happily married. What are the emotions you feel when swinging? How do you deal with issues that may arise. There are a lot of threads on here so we haven't gotten through a lot yet. Thank you all for all the feedback.
  2. It bothered me a little that she let a stranger make her feel that way. That makes me a little worried that she will not handle an experience that well. She has never really had great self esteem, and always dated losers before me. I wanted her when I first saw her. She all the time says she don't know why i'm with her. I was a nurse before we met, once we met I quit that and started my own company. I think she feels like she is in my shadow, and I hate that. Being with her has allowed me to build my company that provides well for us, and I did that because I wanted to have a good life with her. She should have great self esteem but it's not my job to give it to her, it's her job. Should I worry that she allowed a stranger to make her feel that way, or is that a natural response for women?
  3. That's a lot of power to be giving to someone and if she's going to do that, why not give it to you and let you make her feel beautiful? Thanks, This is what i've tried to tell her. I don't personally care about rejection, in fact I welcome it. I know that if i'm rejected that it's because it wasn't meant to be. No sense in pushing the envelope and getting in a tense situation that nobody enjoys. Thanks for the responses.
  4. HI, We are a married couple talking about getting into doing a mfm or mfmf scenario. We have started setting boundaries, and my wife is a little nervous. I have had mff a few times before, and always thought mfm or mfmf would be awesome. We are a little on the bigger side, not too big, and we are attractive. We have answered a few craigslist ads but the ones that are okay with us we are usually not attracted to and they don't seem all there, or they are just looking to cheat or whatever. We have actually opened up to each other more since deciding to give this a shot. I feel closer to her now than before. It's like I can actually share my deep dark secrets with my partner. I like that! I love my wife, would love to see her pleased, and feel her moan on my cock as she is fucked. She gets wet and cums hard when we roleplay it. The problem today is, I answered an ad from what was supposed to be a non discriminant guy single male, she picked him due to his ad, and he had a huge dick (I may have been a bit jealous there) but he respectfully turned us down and she is upset, was crying....etc... I feel bad that I let her get hurt, and it did bother me that no matter how many times/ways I tell her she is beautiful she is still hurt. She really is a beautiful woman, and I love her a great deal. We don't see ourselves with anyone else yada yada yada. I don't think she is into the idea anymore and while I could move on without swinging, I know I will always have that desire. Anyone else been through this situation before? P.S. I had a feeling this would happen with this guy, but she seemed willing and eager to do it. She also says she will do it to please me and she could live without doing it ever. I can't help but not believe that as I see how turned on she gets. Should I continue to look or give her time?
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