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Well! I left this topic alone and hubby finally realized I am here for him, always have been. He couldn't get over the way I don't get jealous. He finally got to see how much joy I get from seeing him have the time of his life! we had some friends over a few months ago and everyone got a little frisky. My husband and I thought we were breaking away from the group but we had a surprise waiting in our bed. We just ignored her cause we were so in the moment and before I knew what was going on she joined in! We all had a wonderful night and still get together whenever we can. Thank you all for your advice I read each reply many times and for me(us), it has worked out well.

My hubs thinks that swinging is just some idea I've cooked up to make it ok to cheat. We had an encounter with another man watching us (hubs invited him over)and he joined in after hubs started having some trouble. Everything was ok till it was just the two of us and he had a panic attack. The whole thing was so thrilling to me and when its just us now it seems even closer and better. He has since said "your welcome" to me for letting me have this experience. But now he has told me that he can't do it he feels wrong and that's that. It took me 14 years to open up and share this desire with him. I feel as if he is telling me my wants are irrelevant. How can I quit feeling like this?

I started the discussion. Pushed a little too hard at first and he got really jealous. Then he decided to try and surprise me with someone and he didn't handle himself so well. The three of us worked through it that night but he is taking it really hard emotionally. Not sure what's going on now.