I am a noob to this site, and may I say yikes! These Std threads and posts scare the hell out of me! Before having my baby, I worked as a nurse for 7 years. In nursing school we learned about the importance of wearing gloves to protect us from many things, mainly in body fluids such as HIV and Hep B. I remember them saying, "assume everyone has it", and that very statement comes to my mind now. I don't judge others behavior, or have an "opinion" on others play habits...but for myself it does help me to figure out how safe I want to be in the lifestyle. I don't think it is a "swinger" thing either I feel it is the same risks for all participating in active sexual behavior.