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About sweetgirlknows

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  • Birthday 03/03/1975

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    New York
  • Occupation
    Market Analyst (her) and Doctor (him)
  • Swinging Experience
    2 months swinging 4 months thinking
  • Anniversary
    02/14/2000

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  1. Thanks Hippiegirlie! I think I am going to be around here for a bit. Talking to you guys is great. Even if we never swing again its good to know how different people do things. Human beings are interesting when they are being constructive lol
  2. I think for many its just too close to "making love" which is different from just having sex. I remember my very first chat was about that. Generally speaking swing is about having hot sex for fun. Passion and emotion cross into the "making love" territory. I understand their reservations though though.
  3. Thanks guys for your input! My husband and I thought about this. I think our curiosity was just satisfied. It was kind of like bungee jumping or sky diving to us. Also, as I mentioned when I got here, we are very sexual and derive a great amount of pleasure from a deep passion between partners. I mentioned this to some of the couples we found on SLS and yeah they pretty much freaked as I thought they would. Sex is fun but intense passionate sex is incomprehensibly insane (to us anyway). We realized it is more satisfying to us than just the "fun sex" lol! :-)
  4. Hey everyone, Mr. Sweet and I were talking last night and it was a great conversation. As ironic as it may sound we both have the "been there done that" attitude towards swinging. We learned a lot about others and ourselves in the process though. You guys were great. We plan to keep in touch with all our swinger friends but we've discovered that vanilla can be HOT! lol In any case I will check back from time to time but I did want to thank everyone for their comments and conversation!
  5. Oh it was my second girl girl experience. It was my first time with a strap-on though lol
  6. Thanks CaptainAndNurse! Mr. Sweet and I were saying the same thing. I think people have a lot more secrets out there than you know but bringing them to light takes an act of fate. I NEVER would tell any of our friends what we do. This was purely an accident though I wasn't surprised she and her husband are into swinging. She is a VERY sexual person. Perhaps this is what drew us into being friends lol
  7. Hey everyone!! So my friend and I had a GREAT time last night!!!!!!!! She introduced me to a strap-on she bought for the occasion ;-). I have to say I felt a little awkward being fucked by a woman at first but she was soooooo good at helping me to relax that I can't believe I didn't do it sooner. I still prefer the real thing way more but the thought of being fucked by another woman is just so incensing!! I will also say seeing your best girlfriend naked and sensual for you is AMAZING. We made out for awhile before unwrapping and that just soothed my mind over so much. We figured the next step will be having sex with our respective spouses in front of each other. No full swap yet because we want to take it slow. @victoria's_dreams: Good suggestions but we don't play alone with other couples. In fact I wouldn't even play alone with another woman except for my girlfriend because Mr. Sweet knows her well and we are all really close. I think it would be pointless to leave one party out when we are all such great friends.
  8. We haven't done it yet but we are leaning towards doing it. I talked it over with Mr. Sweet and he suggested just her and play to start and see how things go. Her husband isn't bisexual and I really don't like putting on a show for a straight guy. Hubby and I either do full bi-swap or full straight. I like Mr. Sweet's suggestion and of coarse I'd tell him all about playtime. My friend understands our feelings towards this and she agrees. She said he husband is ok with her being with me alone. We are having a girls night out tomorrow so maybe it will happen. :-D
  9. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I've seen many men I'd rather stare at than women (I am bisexual). Your making too much of a generalization there. Most women do not measure up to the society defined standard of an "attractive woman." I know I don't and you probably don't either. It's nice to have physical Chemistry but I think any guy who respects me and my desires is SMOKING HOT! Mr. Sweet feels the same about women.
  10. It is really not just this forum, its swingers (and society) in general. Powerful special interest groups shaped culture with the sad line that sex is nothing but another outlet of the "male conquest of woman." The interests go one step further to spout that today's men should PAY for the "injustices" of past men by doing anything and everything we ask without question or thought. If men question, we label them as neanderthals or whatever you favorite male insult is. It is sad really because it discourages guys from expressing themselves which society has already been doing for countless ages. I wouldn't be surprised if in the not to distant future men just give up on us all together. I see it happening already. A couple of the younger girls I work with complain their boyfriends would rather play video games and have guy time than have sex with them. That's a first! As women we've grown accustom to asking without reciprocating because we just can't let go of the past. The only activation barrier for a woman when it comes to sex is getting past societal label like "whore" and "slut." We can ask for anal, oral, gangbang, bareback, etc and we are likely to get it. Men on the other hand can't ask for much more than just a chance to do it with us. If they asked for any of the aforementioned they 1) probably won't get it 2) if they did would have their manhood stripped away from them even by other swingers. A woman can have another woman with little fuss and it is even encouraged. Men on the other hand, good luck. How many gangbangs with 1 guy and 10 women do you hear of? It's not really an anatomy problem b/c so long as the guy has a tongue and fingers he could service hundreds of women lol! Again, its a double standard we allow because it "benefits" us at least at first glance. I'd like to start a true equality movement. I feel like the reason many women don't enjoy sex is not so much because of the man but because of how the man is treated. Let's face it ladies, we don't see guys as equals. We think they should just be happy that we allow them to do us. This creates a huge problem because if the "yes" or "no" is 90% of the battle for guys, then a man will focus his energy just on getting a seat at the table instead of cooking a really good dish (quality)!!
  11. I wish to submit my theory too. Comparing men and women in terms of attractiveness is like comparing apples to oranges. Sure they are both fruit but it is a matter of opinion which satisfies more in which regards! Beauty is after all in the eye of the beholder! Most guys I have seen at clubs are not bald, fat, and old. They are your regular average guy. I don't expect to meet Brad Pitt at a club but I think a guy whose in really bad shape knows better than to go to a swingers club. Do you think women have lower standards in terms of what we consider an attractive guy just to be in the lifestyle? It sounds like that is what you are implying. Maybe I am misreading you. That being said, do you really think every woman at a club is the picture of beauty? Do you think every guy wants to do every woman at a club? I've seen some women at the clubs that clearly don't take care of themselves and most guys would be reluctant to get near them. Guys certainly do not lower their standards for what makes women attractive to them just to get some and neither do women. I think the real reason women get the pedestle is stereotype. Society still can't accept the fact that women like to fuck too (i.e. 50 Shades of Grey)! We just don't like to get pregnant and catch diseases lol! Remember the Sandra Fluke / Rush Limbaugh ordeal? He called her a slut for advocating for birth control. Most women would rather not be labeled a slut or whore for liking to fuck to so we restrain ourselves to societal standards to be accepted. The proverbial "pedestle" in swinging encourages us to own our desire to fuck freely without being labeled something negative (instead something celebrated). This pedestle is well intentioned but an act of overcompensation since I think part of the pleasure of sex comes from knowing you've earned a good fuck. Mr. Sweet once said to me, "why do you think guys are stereotypically so into sex? It is because we have to work hard for it so we know we've earned it when we get it." It is a sense of accomplishment for guys and as a woman I do not understand that sense. So long as the "pedestle" exists women will never understand what it feels like to have deserved a good fucking for your effort of pursuit! This is why I encourage the guys to be picky when it comes to women so they make it more fun for me lol! Remember, the biggest sex organ is your brain, not pussy or penis. I just see the pussy and penis as minor extensions of the brain. If the brain isn't satisfied the lower organs aren't going to get the best.
  12. Hi Julie!!! I just saw your post and you asked a great question I didn't think twice about before. They stopped because both got busy with work (started their own business). I have been entertaining this idea again. My friend and I were discussing our experiences recently and after talking to her I am re-considering. After my few bi-experiences with another women I am wondering what it is like to be with her. I've seen her in her birthday suit and she's a very sensual curvy woman (my type lol).
  13. Good for you unibull! A man that stands up for himself and isn't putty for women's moulding is hot (to me anyway)! One thing I dislike about the swinging community is the pedestle women get (everything else works lol). We can be just as horny and skiving as men! The only difference is we are coy about it so it gets by. I think the pedestle is there to give the illusion women are empowered thus arousing us but to be honest I find it patronizing and unattractive. Give a girl a chance without the unnecessary theatrics and a real woman will blow you away....pun intended :-D
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