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  1. You can really do this one through women you meet in the real world or any bar/club as today there are tons of single, desirable women into married men. Just watch out for the gold diggers of course. Mistresses & affairs as a old as people, cock queening is just good version of these harmful relationships. If you are having friendly flirtations with a woman moving into the things you and your wife want is a pretty short step.
  2. Yep! I learned all of this the hard way in the vanilla dating world. Truth is that traumatic experiences from our past, even just irritating ones--abandonment by a parent, rejection by a girl, getting drunk and hit by a truck, divorce, and more--all stay with us. Everyone has these negative experiences that feed negative emotions, the only choice we have is how we deal with them which comes down to letting them control us or us using them to improve ourselves. I fell in love with a woman who had a lot of baggage from the first quote (as did I) when we were doing this very thing. I knew only some of her past at the time but, looking back, it was inevitable that we would fall in love the way we did, we already loved each other, we just did not know each other. Lying on her bed with her falling asleep on my chest that day was one of the most powerful and the most intimate moment of my life. (No it did not work out, lasted only a short time and that was years ago). If I ever feel like that again holding a woman, I hope she is ready for the proposal. But it does sound like you were the one that put your wife on that guy's chest the way you were taking her from behind! It also sounds like you have a good one there since you told her you were hurt and she comforted you--imagine that in a marriage these days. Jealousy feels properly small and insignificant next to that.
  3. ^^ I like this but it is risky (but what is not?). @Petra, if I was one of those men I would have insisted that you marry us both! I have been thinking about this often (not wanting to) of late. I ran across a recent picture of a girl I knew in high school & went out with once. She had/still has the glowing face of an angel. I have been regretting the stupid way I behaved in high school and I am terribly jealous of her husband and the life they have shared (not that I actually know anything about it). So my selfish thoughts have me in a bad state these last few days as you can imagine. We were not right for each other then, probably still not but I found myself fantasizing about running into her and her husband and learning they are now very adventurous lovers with a king size bed way too big for the two of them and that she missed me and wanted me in it! . . . Vivid, wild imaginations are not all roses & hand grenades. I know, I live in a dream world--life is a dream, a sadistic one.
  4. I just found fetlife & it looks promising. There is a lot of activity near me and this is not exactly a sexually open area. One group is from my alma mater. I did not like college girls so much when I was in school, I was too serious a student and I kept asking out gay girls--we just had tons of them. Now I really want college age girls, haha. It might just become my favorite site but, like Tia, I am not a heavy BDSM. I will see where it goes in a few months/years; hopefully I will not get locked in a cage and forgotten or anything. Has anyone had good experiences with fetlife?
  5. ^^ It can be the cervix that is hit or either one of the, "dead ends" as you call them, fornix--anterior or posterior. Also called deep spots. The position of the cervix depends on the arousal level of the woman, as does the length, sponginess, wetness of the vagina as a whole, as well as a her entire body's ability to take large cylinder shaped objects. The sometimes painful sharp collision a man experiences with the tip of his dick head is most often the cervix unless she is just taking on more horse than she was built for, which is certainly common. Cold penetration should be avoided no matter the size of the dick/toy except for women who just have a kink for it. Typically, the more aroused a woman is the better before any cock parts her pussy lips. Pleasuring her to orgasm first is typically a good indicator that dick can be introduced with a more welcoming embrace. Even fingering can be uncomfortable when she is not terribly aroused. One thing I do not like is the "forced orgasm" techniques that men have picked up from porno, fingering her and violently rubbing her g-post just to make her cum. Although exhilarating, for some woman this is not as pleasurable as it is traumatic. It is a good and enjoyable sex act but best left for later, really after several minutes of intense penetration and female orgasms. Not that anyone here needs a reminder but warm her up first, a lot if you have the time! Generally however, I think even woman forget this practical sexual dynamic of slowly escalating arousal. (This is true for men but to a lesser extent. Believe it or not, sometimes men are focused on things other than screwing you and it is cold outside sometimes ladies, give him a few minutes to warm up before you pull his dick out and demand his hardness!) When the cervix has moved further back into her vagina, deeper penetration is possible into the fornix areas. In my experience with aroused partners, the cervix tends to be more than 5" deep depending on the woman. Some I felt seldom during deep penetrations, others I felt almost every stroke and moved quickly into her fornix (I am missing some of the petite woman I have been with right now). Some women can even take dick penetration into her cervix itself, particularly after childbirth and several years of good fucking. I was not really in a state of attentive listening throughout this clip after the word "flashlight" as my imagination took me elsewhere but this might be useful for some: Cervical awakening, pleasure and orgasm
  6. This is near the top of the list of what interested me in group sex & swinging in the first place. Especially increasing her pleasure that I feed off. I had some unintentional experience with exhibitionism with my first lover--we fooled around and even fucked at the parks & rest stops several times. I noticed that I got more aroused when others saw us, even another man. She got angry that I let someone see us but she also was excited, from the fear if nothing else, later on when we went at it like starving rabbits! But a state trooper scared the crap out of us both once. As kellimc's post reveals, I think it is much more powerful for a woman (big surprise). As with adding another man or woman touching her body, eating her, or pounding inside her, adding eyes to her sexual enjoyment can only heighten her sensations, if she gives into them that is. I can only imagine a woman's pleasure in this respect. As a creature who is naturally sexually vicarious--a male voyeur--my eyes lead my dick. Whether it is a porn scene, a woman on the street even just hugging someone, or a gangbang I am joining in, the sight of a woman I desire taking other men or women increases my desire to touch her, devour her, and be inside of her. Likely typical of most men, I am both voyeur & sexhibitionist--in the latter case, I am not really paying that much attention to the watchers however as I am always focused on enjoying the woman in my hands or taking my dick, the watchers simply help to strip away another layer of inhibition feeling their eyes on us. If things change in my life (including moving somewhere they are legal of course) I would love to enjoy live sex shows on stage and even participate in them!
  7. ^^Hahaha. Well, I am a philosopher. I can give all sorts of who's, what's, when's, why's; HOW is for the scientists to figure out. Here You are the scientist. It is very much the same problem as all those dating advice coaches out there: what works for one guy will not work for the next. While we are all generally the same emotionally & biologically, we are each individuals with unique subtleties that must be considered. I have never been married so there are many dynamics just in your relationship that I can only comment on abstractly, having never experienced these for myself. I have enough trouble seeing clearly & dealing with my own particularities and you are just words on a scene when it comes down to it. I should say more often, take my advice and all advice as suggestions, and little else. Advice can only go so far and even more specific do this do that advice must be taken by you and implemented. You must live your life yourself when it comes down to it as no one will do it for you. Based on your other thread, it sounds like you already are making it happen. You just have doubts--perfectly natural--that weigh heavy on your mind. Do not ignore them but focus more on the positive aspects of swinging with your wife and you should be fine, better than fine. Remember that all of the negative emotions and fears come along with all of the swinging excitement, you are merely struggling with balance. You and your wife started swinging to have fun together, remember that always. I will say that you should always try to see the enjoyment your wife has with others and take pleasure in that for yourself: that your wife is having fun, you get to see & hear her with another guy from the outside, imagine yourself as him when you watch, and you already know how she is charged with sexual energy before and after your adventures all for you to enjoy. I have heard from other husbands that this is one of their favorite effects of swinging: "She is an animal in the bedroom now," "We are even closer and more open with each other now," etc. Sorry but there is not much more I can tell you. Interpret the other advice I gave above as it speaks to you and use it for your improvement. Perhaps other husbands with experience will weigh in with a few pragmatic things to consider as well.
  8. Friendships end for all sorts of reasons. I have lost almost all of them from my past and none from swinging--I wish that were the case for a few of them as they were hot! Sure swinging can result in people hurting each other but I think people get too hung up on what could go bad and for the sake of fear alone do not pursue the things they want. Having callous disregard for the feelings of the others parties, your wife, new girlfriend and, perhaps most overlooked, the feelings of the other man--you are screwing his wife/gf, better be on friendly terms with him! Generally, if you enjoy this fun while it lasts, it will likely last longer: that is enjoy the moment/s and do not worry too much about the future. In your place, I would tell myself that this will end sooner or later and that is ok. All good things end, being thankful for having them at all is sometimes hard to do but makes sanity easier. Some/most men never experience being king, even for a couple hours.
  9. I did not read the responses on this one as I only want to say that it sounds like you are way too concerned with what "others" are doing and not yourselves. A couple-couple relationship, sounds great to me but some will condemn you for it even as they are having a gangbang retreat and a pony parade! There are risks to anything you do in swinging, that is life. But having a steady single or couple to party with regularly who you are also friends with is a dream never realized for many. Life is too short to worry if you have accidentally broken some ground rules. Are you going to stop swinging and get divorced because you now decide separate room play was not allowed? Just be open and honest with each other and the other couple and enjoy yourselves, whether you cool it with them or all move in together.
  10. ^^Brad145 has a good point for starters. But a few things stand out to me and I certainly know the feeling of jealously well. I would suggest not getting too caught up in changing hers & yours play habits when swinging and expect anything like level controls or restrictions to solve anything. Are you swinging or aren't you? Your wife sounds like she is letting go and enjoying herself while you are stuck worrying that your wife is enjoying herself too much when you could be either enjoy the woman you have swapped for (a gift herself that you should not neglect, otherwise give her to me!) or watching, enjoying the sight of your own live action pornstar wife! Are you going to ever stop being jealous? Yes, when you are dead. In fact I think the problem you are really having is not jealously at all but that your jealously is feeding insecurity, frustration, and anger. These are all separate things that are wrongly lumped into the category of jealousy. This is easier the see in another scenario we are all familiar with, high school relationships (eeekk). A girl likes a boy she thinks does not really notice her. She has chatted with him but he seems to be quick to get away from her every time (really he is shy and embarrassed that she gives him wood just looking at him! but she does not know that). So the girl turns to the jealousy plan, flirt or go with his friend. From her view, the boy she likes may just see her with another guy and start thinking about her in a different way. Instinctively, this is a woman's way to ignite his jealousy, heighten his attraction to her, and arouse primal action in the guy she really wants. He will see her in a different light and start hitting on her, then she can dump the boy she was using for the one who is now coming and taking her for himself (yes this is manipulation of course). While this is not so terrible for the boy she thinks is not into her, as it only gets him to notice her more thus making him jealous, you can see the problem with the boy is his already strong desire to be with her. Thinking that she really does not like him at all since she is going with the other guy, his jealousy will not move him to action but feed into negative emotions of despair, loneliness, rage, frustration, and more. "That little whore! How could she go with him when I adore her?!" (Imagine all the pain we could have avoided if our otherwise great education systems--hahahaha, that is a funny yet sad statement--just taught effective communication early on.) Anyway, a similar dynamic is going on with you. You are going to be jealous of men touching your wife if you care about and desire her at all. Instead of trying to suppress your very natural feelings, accept them for what they are. Also try to see things from her perspective (she is having wild fun with her husband even if you are not involved in sex acts with her at any given time). That you are fretting about trying to set bothersome rules and dealing with your emotions makes you insecure and weak in your wife's eyes--she loves you and wants to be with you but she does not see you as a strong man or attractive when you act this way. I am very prone to jealousy myself and in vanilla dating life it has really only feed into more negative emotions resulting in my losing many girls I might have otherwise gotten. That is another story that you likely can guess at so I will omit any pathetic retelling. I say all of this for the main point I want to impress: in swinging, jealousy can actually be a great benefit. If your wife knows this consciously or not makes no difference, but she is doing the same thing as the high school girl when she is fucking another guy right in front of you, which amounts to one thing only: bringing out the lust driven animal in you! Say your wife is fucking two guys at a party and you find yourself alone, so grab your drink and pull up a seat with a close view and watch the action. As you are watching there hands all over her, their dicks pumping into her, and her feeling great being a slut with them, your jealousy is sure to rise in you along with your sexual arousal. Know that this is what she wants, not to upset you. Let the feeling add to the sight you see in front of you, rub your cock some (or a lot) even tell her you are so jealous of the men inside of her and she is a sexy goddess in a passionate approving way. She will most likely respond with, "You want to be inside me too baby?!" or similar. Then, either in the middle of their fun or just after they cum all over her face, join in and take your wife and pound her as rough and dirty as you ever have, or rougher! This should be you close to or actually loosing control and needing to fuck your wife. She will love it: for the surprise in your attitude, your manliness, and just the pleasure of the raw sex! Change your perspective and all things will change. Instead of your jealousy and pleasure swinging in conflict with each other, let them complement each other, increasing your desire, then give that desire to your wife!
  11. Good grief. Messing up what could have been a wonderfuly erotic set of relationships. Wrong people to pull it off. As far as demonizing anyone's husband remember, sure he is a big stupid dickhead but she married him, what does that say about her? Do you think you are going to save her from him? If their marriage does fall apart, and she improves after this, god for her but make sure you are well clear of it falling apart. And if you have any self-respect and the least bit of common sense, do as SW PS Couple says and run for the hills!
  12. I think that is clear. The first visit to a swing club is intimidating. But this girl was just checking it out and "she ended up picking 3 guys who we took home and i watched her ride and give blow jobs to..." Don't get me wrong, if I was seeing a woman and she said she had experienced swinging and/or groups sex before and wanted to swing with me and the result was as you described, I would be happy to keep seeing her. But unless my only watching was part of the plan, she would have had sex with four guys, the three we met at the club and myself. Really, the big issue you have with this woman is that of trustworthiness and honesty. From everything you have shared with us, I do not think she is either of those and thus incapable of having a successful relationship with anyone.
  13. I really like Lisa Ling and her sisiter. They do real investigative reporting that allows the subjects to speak for themselves, instead of the common biased editorals from the achor desk these days. And I hope Lisa joins in on the fun!!
  14. Well, that was disappointing. I saw the title "Girlfriend Brought Up Swinging" and thought, now there is a keeper! Then you had to go an ruin it by posting that she has two love childs, two thropies, already. I am sure she is fantasic in many ways but one of those women you do not want to fall in love with as she will eventually hurt you, and your bank account. Dump her, or keep bangin' her, but for God's sake man, do not try to make an honest woman out of her, it will just not work at this late hour. But you may ignore mine and other's advice telling you to run. If you do, good luck to you my love sick friend, you will need it.
  15. Well that is awesome Sgts19. I would love to be treated this way, but would rather be able to watch her being fucked as well. You clearly state how this sort of erotic play can turn some of us on with your persistent rigidity. Thanks for sharing!
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